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    DH's mood is much better. I think he was just burnt out with work. The infertility really stunk! It was the worst thing I've ever gone through. I let it consume me so much that I wasn't being a good wife or mom and it was very selfish of me. I think I would've had a much harder time accepting that I'd never have bio children if I did not have the girls. So I was very fortunate that way. I can't imagine if I didn't have any children. It's hard to believe that it's been 3 years since my last IVF cycle. Even thought I've come to acceptance I still have times where I feel sorry for myself that I will never experience being pregnant, giving birth and raising a child from a newborn. I missed out on all those times with the girls. When I was coming to the decision of being done I really weighed the pros and cons. It sounds horrible that I did that but it was a way for me to come to acceptance. Now I'm at the point that I don't want to have more children since the girls are getting older. I'll be 37 years old and have all of my children out of the house and in college. DH and I never got time when we were first married to do things newlyweds do so we'll spend time doing that later in life. The girls have always been receptive of me. They were at such a young age when their mom died that I'm the only person they remember in their life as a mom. They call me by my first name, not my mom, but that is because I call myself by my first name to them. DD3 always says she happy I married her dad so she had a mom to raise her.

    Kristi...sorry you are going to have to get rid of your cat. How long has MIL been visiting?

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    I'm having a hard time keepin' up with this board for some reason :/ Makes me feel like a meany. I'm a bit stressed though. I have gotten SOOO FAR BEHIND on my online classes it's BAD BAD! Bad bad Maddie. :/ I gotta try to catch up and it's a PITB.

    Krisit- My kitty has been peeing on my bed. If she doesn't knock it off we'll have to get rid of here even though we just got her. With me being pregnant I'm not risking it with that! Dang kitty. We've put her in a different room at night and when we go out now though so hopefully that'll help.

    Anyway,

    You ladies should play the game I created on The Anything Topic Board. I think it'll be funnnnn!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maddz View Post
    I'm having a hard time keepin' up with this board for some reason :/ Makes me feel like a meany. I'm a bit stressed though. I have gotten SOOO FAR BEHIND on my online classes it's BAD BAD! Bad bad Maddie. :/ I gotta try to catch up and it's a PITB.
    Now I'm the one who feels stupid....PITB?

    I am also neglecting my studies to be here on PG.org, so the game will have to wait unfortunately.
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    Roxi - Pain in the butt? haha.

    Maddie - Oh lordy, well at least I don't have to deal with that. DBF would definitely have booted her out by now lol.

    Meg - It makes me so sad hearing people's stories, especially when I know how much other's take their children for granted. It must have been so hard and I don't blame you for feeling sorry for yourself every once in a while! You're very lucky DH had the girls and that they took to you so well I'm sure many women who suffer infertility also have the suffer the wrath of step children and it must be so so hard. Although my Dr assured me I have nothing to worry about, I feel like I have the onset of pro lapse. When I read up on it, it scared the crap out of me thinking that I might need a hysterectomy if it got really bad - even though I have DD, the thought of never being able to have another was awful.

    Anyhow - MIL came on Friday and leaves today (I hope) unless the weather makes the boat not sail! She's ok really, it's just nice to have your own space back.

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    Roxi - Pain in the butt? haha.

    Maddie - Oh lordy, well at least I don't have to deal with that. DBF would definitely have booted her out by now lol.

    Meg - It makes me so sad hearing people's stories, especially when I know how much other's take their children for granted. It must have been so hard and I don't blame you for feeling sorry for yourself every once in a while! You're very lucky DH had the girls and that they took to you so well I'm sure many women who suffer infertility also have the suffer the wrath of step children and it must be so so hard. Although my Dr assured me I have nothing to worry about, I feel like I have the onset of pro lapse. When I read up on it, it scared the crap out of me thinking that I might need a hysterectomy if it got really bad - even though I have DD, the thought of never being able to have another was awful.

    Anyhow - MIL came on Friday and leaves today (I hope) unless the weather makes the boat not sail! She's ok really, it's just nice to have your own space back.

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    Maddie...DH used to have two cats that started peeing on beds after DD3 was born. He ended up having to get rid of them. I have heard that cats do not like the smell of orange. Maybe you could put something orange smelling in the room. We did that when our cat was a kitten and we had the Christmas tree up. It kept her away from the tree. Do you know what could be triggering it?

    Kristi...just as fortunate as the girls are to have a mother, I'm just as fortunate to have them so I can be a mom. I'm really glad I don't have to deal with an ex. DH says he'd rather have his spouse die, then get divorced because of everything children have to go through with divorce. I was married before, but fortunately never had children with my ex.

    I looked at the game and was stuck on "B". Glad someone else figured out a word and got the game moving.

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    It is 4 weeks and 5 days until my vacation and I can't flippin' waiiiiiit!! We're just waiting on DBF and DDs passports to arrive and when I get paid I need to get myself some more bits and we'll be sorted, woooooop.

    Our last holiday was in Feb 2009 when we went to Egypt - it feels millions of years ago haha. It was lovely there but I would never go back.

    My DD has changed so much since she started going to school The way she speaks to me sometimes is terrible (and embarrassing) and I'm kind of at my wits end with it. Also, on two seperate occasions she has run off on me and I've not been able to catch her!! The first time, we were in our super market and she bumped into her best friend from school. The pair of them decided it would be funny to run around the place, hiding from me and her friends Dad. I was mortified because I could not for the life of me catch her. I eventually got hold off her friend and that was the only reason DD came back to me.
    The second time was just the other day, I collected her from school and we walked over to where the car was parked. It is a huge car park and very busy at that time of the day. Her friends Mum had parked in front of me so when we got to the car, DD went over to say hello. Well, when I called her back she darted off and ran around an out building that I was parked next too. My heart was in my mouth, as much as I know she is not stupid enough to run out into a road, the road we cross over is very very busy and right beside the out buliding! I ran after her (she was out of sight) and when I got back to the car she was with her friends Mum. When she saw me, she ran off AGAIN and her friends Mum chased her whilst I went to other way around. When I got hold of her I was livid and I went nuts at her when we eventually got in the car. More than anything I was embarrassed that I had no control over what she was doing and she was blatantly ignoring me. I explained how scared I was that she might get knocked down - she broke her heart crying and I felt bad but she needed to know how naughty she had been!!
    She talks to me like I might expect when she is 15 with attitude and it hurts. I think I raised her well and have always punished her when she's been in the wrong. She has such a quirky personality and can be cheeky with it..... I just don't know what to do and why she is the way she is.

    I feel better for getting that off my chest, I just wish I had the answers!

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    Kristi...where are you going on vacation? DH has always wanted to go to Egypt. I've really had no desire to go. Why would you never go back? Sorry about DD's behavior. I'm sure it's very frustrating and scary that she's running away from you. Does she give any reason why she is doing it? How long has she been doing this?

    It's another dark and rainy day. We've gotten a lot of rain in the past week. Part of the state is supposed to get 4 inches of snow. I'm so ready for winter to be over. I just want to be able to go outside to walk or run without it being freezing.

    I got so frustarted with DD3 last night. She's 10. The night before last she had gotten in trouble by me. DD2 and DD3 were horsing around at the dinner table. I was frustrated that they were horsing around but after dinner she gave me attitude so I told her to shower and go to bed. So she went to her room about 30 minutes early, not a big deal. Yesterday after school she wanted to mail a letter to her aunt (her mom's sister). I needed to find her address so I told her to leave the envelope on the counter. Curious me...I read the letter. She basically tattled on me to her aunt about what had happened the night before. I'm sure these people don't like me anyways because I came in and took over the place of their deceased sister. I showed the letter to DH and told him to take care of it but not to let her know I read it. I was so mad and felt so betrayed by her. He asked her why she didn't come to him and her reason was was because DH wasn't there when it happened. Not a good reason because the aunt wasn't here when it happened. She also said she feels like I tell DH everything. He explained that's part of parenting and that not always are mother and daughter going to get along. Parents are not meant to be friends to their kids. He told her that I worry that her aunt doesn't think I do a good job raising them when I try very hard and do a good job. Things are better now but I was so mad.

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    IVF #1-cancelled d/t embryos arresting before transfer (3/09)
    IVF #2-BFP 9wks-7/30/09 (6/09)
    IVF #3-BFN (5/10)

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    Kristie- YAY FOR VACA coming up! Woah, weird that DD is running around like a crazy. I hope you get it figured out soon. Is there something big that's been upsetting her??

    Meg- Oh dear, I'm so sorry to hear that DD is going to her aunt to "tattle." I can't even imagine.

    I hope you ladies get stuff sorted out.


    A couple days ago Riley went to the his yearly check up. 45 inches and 44 lbs. He has to get his vision checked. He did the shapes board and... well, kinda failed miserably. So we need to get him in so he can get glasses.

    DH and I are having a REALLY hard time getting along lately for some reason. I know that I've got my hormones going on but I don't know what his deal is. He's been depressed a lot more lately (he has chronic depression, i have bipolar). I think maybe with me being pregnant again he might be worried about something happening again but I'm not sure. he doesn't have an explanation for why he's been so depressed. Makes me sad when we fight so much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by meggyrn View Post
    Kristi...where are you going on vacation? DH has always wanted to go to Egypt. I've really had no desire to go. Why would you never go back? Sorry about DD's behavior. I'm sure it's very frustrating and scary that she's running away from you. Does she give any reason why she is doing it? How long has she been doing this?
    The hotels are amazing, very big, posh and clean. The staff look after you so well. The downfall was when you left the hotel, the locals harrassed us. They would beep at us when they drove past to see if we wanted a taxi and then just walking through the street they were all out hounding us to look in their shops (stores). It just made me feel uneasy tbh.
    On one night, we were ready to go back to the hotel so we had said to a guy hanging around that we would take his taxi. He had no markings or anything though so I told DBF I would rather ride in a marked one and the guy went nuts over it!

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