Dh stalling on TTC -- for 5+ years!

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Dh stalling on TTC -- for 5+ years!

Question for the Answer Box (i.e. responses from YOU!): We've been married for 5 yrs. Dh knew I wanted kids and agreed -- before we were wed. Now he says he isn't sure and wants to keep 'waiting'. We have good jobs, pay our bills, and have some in savings. He says there is simply too much uncertainty in today's economy. This is hugely important to me. I've tried talking, crying, getting angry? Outside of ending our relationship, how can I get through to him? I'm already 33 and fear he is going to 'wait' too late for my dream of being a mom.

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Wow, what a terribly tricky situation to be in!

I think you're DH is being unfair to you, especially knowing its what you always wanted. Yes, life is hard and money is tight but honestly there is never a right time. People with money spend beyond their means too so I'm sure they feel the strain of childcare etc too! Basically my point is, having children is tough on everyone regardless of money. You need to stress this to DH.

As for leaving, I can't comment because I don't know how your relationship is. Only you can decide that. GL!!


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I was in a similar position with my DH. I had been ready for a couple of years but he always had excuses. I finally sat him down and said that I wasn't just ready to be a mom, I was going to be a mom. I said I *am* going to do this, I'm going to do it soon, and I'd rather do it with him than without him. I said I love him very much but being someone else's mom was becoming more important to me than being his wife. He said if having a child was truly *that* important to me, then it was important to him. But then he said, "Let's talk some more about it next month," LOL! We never had a chance to talk about it again, but we were pregnant with our first the next month. Blum 3