Do your kids have birthdays close together?

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Do your kids have birthdays close together?

My children could potentially have birthdays within days of each other and I'm freaking out a little bit. My son will be 4 on Oct 22 and this LO is due on the 27. The potential for them to have the same/very close dates are very high. If your kids birthdays are close, how do you make each one special?

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We didn't plan it but because DD2 was born early, our kids are exactly 1 week apart (and our anniversary is in that week too!). Our plan is for them to have their own birthdays with friends and probably share a family birthday if we are ever in a place where we live near any family. When their birthdays don't fall on Saturdays, I would probably try to do the first party then have a empty weekend and then the second party.

This year we are doing a party for DD1 friends and then the next weekend we are having a few of our friends over for supper and cake for DD2's 1st birthday. We have no family here and only moved here last year so both will be small.

DH and I only have a couple days between our birthday and his family has several birthdays in that time too, at Christmas time no less. Making each day special is always a priority. It can be a lot of cake in a short time! We sometimes space ours out. Also, usually I make a cake for DH but I get an ice cream cake (which I love) and then after we eat it on my birthday we can put it in the freezer for later. With having birthdays close together, bugeting is important to make sure you are spending what you want to spend (and make it more equal) rather than what you can spend or going into debt.

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I could handle one week apart....it's that chance that they'll have the SAME birthday is what scares me. I know I can't do anything about it, but it worries me. Also, I really don't want to be in the hospital on My DS birthday. All of the changes with a new baby is enough, I want him to have an as normal birthday as possible. KWIM? I may be making a bigger deal out of all of this than is necessary - - pregnancy hormones?!?

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Two of my children have birthday’s very close together. The funny thing is they were both due on the same day. January 20th. My daughter was born January 28, 1998 and I just had a little boy January 27, 2012. I will probably let her decide how she wants to spend her birthday since she is so much older than he is and then work his party around hers. We will just do a joint family birthday party and make this one special for him since it will be his first birthday.

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I am the same with the OP! (a member of my birth board, as well Smile ) My LO is due on the 23rd and my daughters birthday is on the 29th. My biggest fear is that my daughter is turning the big 1-0 and I have promised her a big, fun filled birthday party! This pregnancy has been very difficult and I may not be getting out of the hospital until this LO is born, and I am petrified it will Effect my DD1 birthday party. I am also worried about the expense of two bday parties within a week every year. Ten years apart, so its not like I can do a joint party. How do you handle it, if you have two children with a large age gap, but birthdays close together?

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I have 4 kiddos. The oldest and youngest birthdays are 3 weeks apart, the youngest and my DS #2 is just under a month, and DS#2 and #3 are 2 months. Honestly I almost wish they were closer so I only had to plan one party. However, that's me since I don't like planning parties and it would be easier to have one giant one.

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My 2 youngest were both born Sept. 15, exactly 2 years apart. My oldest son's bday is just 2 weeks after theirs. I've always done one big party for all of them. They do have separate cakes, and gifts, but that's it. They actually (so far) seem to love sharing that time. It's like they feel a part of a special club. Smile
My 2 that have the same birthday were due 9/22 & 9/24. Now my baby girl is due 9/25!! I am really hoping for her to arrive on the 15th too. I think that would be super cool, and the boys would think that makes their birthday that much more special.

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"momof5sweeties" wrote:

My 2 youngest were both born Sept. 15, exactly 2 years apart. My oldest son's bday is just 2 weeks after theirs. I've always done one big party for all of them. They do have separate cakes, and gifts, but that's it. They actually (so far) seem to love sharing that time. It's like they feel a part of a special club. Smile
My 2 that have the same birthday were due 9/22 & 9/24. Now my baby girl is due 9/25!! I am really hoping for her to arrive on the 15th too. I think that would be super cool, and the boys would think that makes their birthday that much more special.

That is actually really cool. And to be able to have one party like that would be so much easier.

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My kids are 2 weeks apart and we keep it seperate to keep it special for both though this year I did do a joint birthday party with two seperate themes and they had a blast. If they had the same day I would probably do what I did this year with a joint party (similar friends helps) or I would do 1 party for 1 before lunch and the other in the afternoon. A busy day but keeps them feeling special.

Cindy

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My 3 grandbabies, all from the same family, are born the same week: 5/13/08, 5/18/09, and 5/16/11. Now my son tells me they are thinking of #4 and are going to start trying in August to get another May baby! Yikes:jawdrop:

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A tradition that we started is taking our girls out for a special day/night without their sibling. It gives them time with Mommy & Daddy and they don't have to share their special day. We always make it a surprise and they don't know where they are going until we get there. For example, this year for their birthdays we took my 7 y.o. to DisneyQuest and Planet Hollywood for dinner, and my 5 y.o. had a day at Sea World. We have small, easy to plan parties and that is our gifts to them.

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We have a few friends whose kids have birthdays close together, and also a couple sets of twins who obviously share a birthday. The parents whose kids are close in age and/or the same gender usually throw a joint party, sometimes with separate but complimentary themes, sometimes one theme if the kids can agree. Some do two smaller cakes and some do a bunch of cupcakes. There are usually two rounds of Happy Birthday, one before lunch & one after.

The parents whose kids are farther apart in age, or who are different genders, usually throw two separate parties, either on different weekends bookending the birthday week, or on the same day with the younger sibling in the morning and the older sibling in the afternoon or evening. Our older kids are getting to the age for slumber parties, and one set of parents recently had a drop-off slumber party on Friday night for the older child, and then a brunch party on Saturday morning for the younger child when the parents came to pick up the big kids. It was really fun and both kids were celebrated in their own ways. I think that's the important thing to remember, to find a way to celebrate each child.

Also, someone mentioned budgeting. My sister's birthday is near Christmas, so my mom got into the habit of setting aside "birthday money" on her half-birthday in June, so she didn't have to worry about funding birthday gifts & Christmas gifts at the same time. That might be a helpful idea, or setting up a direct transfer from your checking account to savings to spread out the cost over the year instead of having to pay completely for two or more birthdays in one week.

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UPDATE: I heard back from my doctors office this morning, and unless something changes and this little girl decides to come early (which is what I hope for) she is scheduled to be delivered October 25 @ 9am. Smile

When they first called to tell me she said "so how does Monday the 22nd sound?" My response "that's horrible!"....I'm not sure she expected that response. I told her what the deal was and she changed it for me.

I think I've finally come to terms with the situation and I can't change it so I might as well look at the positive, right!?! I figure if I do go into labor on the 22nd we will make it special for both of them and how special/unusual it will be for siblings to have the same birthday. I.MUST.LOOK.ON.THE.BRIGHT.SIDE. Smile

Thanks everyone for your insight and thoughts. I really do appreciate it.

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In our family we have 5 of the kids birthdays in 5 weeks, 6/3, 6/4, 6/9, 6/14 and 7/6. We have a group birthday party that is huge with all of their friends and then on their birthdays they get to pick all of their favorite meals and go on a special birthday date to go out for a meal and an activity of their choosing. It helps to make them feel special and have some fun one on one time with them which is hard to find sometimes in a large family. We have 2 days apart in March but they're 13 years apart and Baby #11 is due within a few days of another child but they are 16 years apart so it wont be an issue.

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My boys' bdays are 1/19/09 and 1/12/11. Since they're only 3 and 1 at this point, we haven't taken any pains about distinguishing their bdays yet. However, my parents are divorced, so we've been doing one bday with my mom and the other with my dad. We also like to have an informal "unbirthday" in July, since we don't do any gift giving holidays other than bdays.

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