Facebook defriending - why does this bother me??
I need advice. I don't understand why this is bothering me so much!!!
Recently I learned that a few "friends" of mine had de-friended me on Facebook. One in particular I suspect did it because she thought I had blocked her because she couldn't see my posts or my wall. The truth is I had turned off my wall temporarily while playing with the privacy settings. Instead of asking me directly (she has my phone number, email addresses, etc), she went to my husband first. I also sent her a message explaining I hadn't blocked her but that my wall was disabled.
I find out a few weeks later that she "de-friended" me. In addition, I wonder if she is spreading rumors about me now because two other mutual friends of ours have also de-friended me. One of them had a birthday yesterday so I emailed him a happy birthday but received no response (quite unlike him). Oh yeah, she also deleted me from her "girls night out" FB group.
I think the reason this bothers me so much is because she didn't have the decency to actually ask me directly about it.
I don't make friends easily. I'm not someone who gets close to others easily either. I don't have a lot of friends - mostly just aquaintences. It's just that these three people are part of the core group of friends my DH and I hang out with. They are somewhat of the social glue I guess you could say. She was my yarn/knitting/crochet buddy. I feel really hurt because I didn't do anything wrong!
I want to say something because I don't want her to be saying things that aren't true behind my back. I hate that I feel forced to do this, but I feel like I need to take the "damage control" role asap before it gets worse. At the same time, why should it be my responsibility to do this? I feel like she's winning and I'm losing by being the one to engage her in the conversation?? I want to just let it go and if it was just one person then fine, but if she's telling mutual friends of ours wrong information, then that is not fair to me.