I also hope you find a job soon.
I also hope you find a job soon.
Can anyone tell me how much communication I should have with the teacher? What I mean is, how much should I know and desire to know about what my son does in class all day? I don't mean to be one of those moms who needs a daily report of every single thing, but I am worried. My son hasn't been bringing all of this classwork home because he was afraid I'd be upset about his grades. The first week he didn't get his papers from his mailbox, I felt concerned, but now this is the second Friday he didn't bring home anything. So I have no clue what he has been doing everyday. When I kept asking him in a soft, open way he finally told me he's afraid I'll be upset at his grades. 3 times a week he has about an hour of homework, 30 mins reading and spelling (3x each or sentence writing) but reading is everyday and spelling is only 3 times a week, one for 3 x each, 1 day for words 1-10 sentences, and 1 day for words 11-20. He has had since school started only 2 pages of math homework consisting of 10 minutes max. So I wrote the teacher about all of these things and how I have no idea what he's doing in any subject. I can't help him if I don't know what they are doing.
So I am wondering how much do you all know or knew about what your children are/were learning in school and how much should I try to be on top of everything?
I think everyone is going to have a different opinion on this. My kids are homeschooled now, but my oldest went to school for 2 years before. Once a week they sent home all of the papers they completed that week. I read every paper sent home. I asked Alyssa to tell me every detail of school that day and kept asking her until she learned I wanted to know EVERYTHING. It was very hard on me to have her gone every day all day long. I am much happier homeschooling her, but understand not everyone is willing/wants to do that.
I would have no issue at all talking to the teacher any time you had a problem or a concern. It would be better IMO, to deal with the situation now then to let it grow into a major problem down the line.
Thank you Bonita. I would love to homeschool but worry it's just too much for me with the little ones at home. Maybe at some point I can. My son is horrible at giving details. Goodness it's painful =)
We have a 4th, 6th and 7th grader. The 4th and 6th grader are at a private Catholic school. We really don't have too much communication with the teachers there. The girls have assignment books which we sign and weekly they come home with a folder with a new page filled out for the week that we sign. I forget the name of it this year but last year it was called "Citizenship." It updates us on how they did for the week and if there are any problems, they address it there. Luckily, we've never had any problems. Our 7th grader is in middle school at the public school. We have a lot of communication with the teachers there. Everyday the secretary sends an email to parents with the assignments for each class. Her math and Language Arts teacher sends lots of updates of class by email. They'll let us know when they are having a quiz and such. We have access to her grades online and can look at those as we wish and it also tells us how she did on tests and assignments. If you are concerned I feel you should be able to be in contact with the teacher. I hope you can get something worked out.
I do packed lunch for DD and in the first week, she was coming home with pretty much what she left the house with. Full sandwiches, all her fruit.... the only thing she was always eating was her yoghurts. I did end up asking the teacher how dinner time works and was assured she would encourage DD a bit more. Luckily, this seems to have worked but now I want to know how she is in the classroom. I guess I'll have to wait until parents evening!
Alyssa, thank you for asking. If I am honest, I am completely p*ssed off with the police over here. The trial is this Friday and I plan on making an appearance but DD hasn't yet been seen by anyone! As much as I believe and pray to God that she hasn't been affected, I still would like her to be spoken to by a professional to let my mind rest. DBF wasn't so keen and anyone speaking to her, but for me.... I guess it would be closure to this whole nightmare.
Awww Missy, you always have such kind words for me. It means a lot. I feel bad on DBF because whenever I talk about him on p.org, I do nothing but slate him. Everything I have said he has done, but I never talk about nice things he does.... what keeps me with him. Deep down, he is a good person and as a Dad to DD he is amazing. What lets him down is how negative he is, about EVERYTHING. He didn't have the best upbringing and of all his family he only talks to his Mum. She also has a past and is very negative and I believe honestly that she brings him down. However, I do realise that's his Mum and I would never say anything bad about her to him.... he knows anyway. I just wish he was less selfish because that would make him nearer perfect haha.
As for the job hunting, I have applied for a payroll role and I know the Director of the company so I am just waiting to hear from her.
DH's parents left this morning. As much as I enjoy having them here it's nice for them to go. I feel like I get nothing done when they are here. Luckily they are ppl that I don't feel like I have to entertain. I also dislike the way they treat oldest DD. For some reason everyone in DH's family really babies and favors her. Also, the same way with her mother's family. When she is treated like that she starts to behave very immaturely since that's how she's treated. It makes me feel really bad for my other 2 DDs because they barely get any attention. Examples would be me complimenting how nice DD2 and 3 look after they spend an hour getting ready and DH's parents ignoring that and saying how wonder DD1 looks or and how wonderful of a student and reader she is when the other two are just as good of students. I was talking to my SIL the other day and she said "just tell my parents Caiti is doing well in school." I told her "there's no doubt that she's not doing well so why would I tell them otherwise?" She then says they all worry so much about her. I don't worry about her because there is no reason for me to worry. When the girls go with their mother's family they are babied so much that when they get home they expect me to do everything for them. They treat them at the age level they were when their mom died. They were 3, 4 and 5 then but are almost 10, 11 and 12. I think they favor DD1 so much because she is a carbon copy of her mother. It just bothers me so much. I talk to my mom about it and she sees it also and doesn't get it either. I'll mention these things to DH and he somewhat sees it but then doesn't understand it all the way because in a way he treats DD1 the same also. I feel like my family, DH and I are the only ones who live in reality and see the girls are growing up. Numerous times this weekend DH's mom would make comments about how they are growing up and getting so old. Part of being a parent is raising your children to be independent and successfu. Not babying them and doing everything for them. Sorry about my rant. It's just frustrating to watch your 12 1/2 year old being treated and acting like a 5 year old.
P.S. My screen name is Alyssa because my daughter's name is Alyssa. My name is Bonita.
Bonita...that is basically what I do. They only see these ppl for short amounts of times so it's not like it's going to permanently change her. I just need to grin and bear it. DH would never say anything to his parents and I don't really expect him to.
Meg, that's a hard situation. Kids that age are ready to be adults -- and treated like it. At least today, Tomorrow they may prefer being coddled a bit, but.... Truth is, a 12-year-old is quite capable and can handle a lot of responsibility. It's not that many years before they're on their own and need to know how to survive. It's a shame, almost a crime to waste these teachable years treating a tween/teen like a preschooler. *steps off soap box now*
We had a busy/fun weekend. Had a friend come up for the weekend from Portland. My husband and I hung out with him in high school and have stay in touch since; visiting when we can. We didn't do anything super exciting, except went yard saling together and got some good deals -- guys on tools and me, I found an adult-sized, hang it from a beam in the garage, martial arts punching bag. I've been wanting one for years, but just too cheap to pay so much. Other than that we laughed a lot, watched a couple movies on netflix and ate. Didn't get much packing or planning for vacation accomplished though. lol
About knowing what the kids are doing: We homeschooled so probably it's not too applicable. Some of the kids opted to take AP classes and drivers ed during high school. I was pretty hands-off at that stage, but that's way different from what you're talking about. Is there a school website where you can see what the teacher assigns each day? Some districts make that available to parents. If you can't access the information that way, you might contact the teacher by email or schedule a conference. Some little kids need a bit more help than others getting organized.
Diving into my week now. Hope you all have a Monday that doesn't require too much coffee. :)