Moms with "older" kids...

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ILoveMyMiniMe's picture
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Moms with "older" kids...

How old are they and do they still believe in Santa?

DD is 9 1/2 and STILL believes in Santa!! She started asking questions last year but never made her mind up on if he was real.. she hasn't mentioned anything abut Santa this year.. but it's early. Like when I was asking about what she wanted this past weekend, I said I needed to know what she was interested in so I could by it.. she didn't say anything about Santa bringing anything that I didn't buy so I'm wondering if she's finally getting it? :confused:

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My girls are 10, 11 and 12. Either they are really naive or are good at acting like they still believe because they haven't said anything about not thinking Santa or anything like that is real or not. I sometimes wonder if they act like they believe because if they don't, then the "Santa" presents will stop coming. I just wish they would stop believing because it would make things less complicated. Growing up we still got "Santa" presents long after we stop believing. I think until we were 20 or so. My mom liked to shop. My girls go to a very small private school and I sometimes think they are more sheltered to thing like that. DD1 is in middle school so now goes to the public school. And they might be acting like they still believe for their younger sister who they think still believes. I don't want to break the news to him that he's not real though.

ILoveMyMiniMe's picture
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That's the hard part... I don't wanna break it to her, either.. I want her to "know" on her own. But I don't know how much longer she'll think he really does exist! lol.. She's in 4th grade so very much past the point where the kids discuss it. But, should they discuss it and she asks, I'll tell her the truth..

Sad, though. Sad

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My daughter figured it out at 8, my son at 7. I let them just kind of stop believing naturally. When they started to question, I was vague, but let them think. When they came and asked directly, I always asked before answering, 'what makes you think he's not?' and if they really reasoned things out, we had a talk about how it makes christmas fun and why people have fun playing pretend about santa. It's fun for them to think they are in on the secret for the little ones around.

My kids are bright, but very different. lol But, I would have to say at those ages, I think they are playing pretend with you as a way to keep the christmas magic alive. It must be you've done a great job of making it real and magical for them Smile Maybe they even don't want you to be disappointed that it's over and they're older Wink

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"smsturner" wrote:

My daughter figured it out at 8, my son at 7. I let them just kind of stop believing naturally. When they started to question, I was vague, but let them think. When they came and asked directly, I always asked before answering, 'what makes you think he's not?' and if they really reasoned things out, we had a talk about how it makes christmas fun and why people have fun playing pretend about santa. It's fun for them to think they are in on the secret for the little ones around.

My kids are bright, but very different. lol But, I would have to say at those ages, I think they are playing pretend with you as a way to keep the christmas magic alive. It must be you've done a great job of making it real and magical for them Smile Maybe they even don't want you to be disappointed that it's over and they're older Wink

What an awesome post. Smile Thank you for this! You may be right! So long as the spirit lives on, "Santa" will live on.. We shall see what she says - if anything.. Smile

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I don't have older kids but I wanted to give you my thoughts as a kid who was older before I stopped "believing"

I didn't officially question my parents until I was 10 1/2. About 8 1/2 I started to think it through...hearing kids at school, older cousins etc. What made me not ask about it was the idea in my head that if I asked/questioned it then if he was real he would stop bringing me things and I didn't want that! Smile

Finally, my stupid older cousin made fun of me that Christmas that I was 10 and I asked my parents (on Christmas Eve no less).

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My DD turns 9 this month and is grade 4 also , she still believes although a girl at school told her Santa isn't real.

She was devastated when she came home and asked if it was true, I sort of froze because I wasn't prepared. I asked her what she thinks and said of course Santa exists, he's the spirit of giving at Christmas. She seemed satisfied with that response but I'm sure this will be her last year believing. Luckily next Christmas will be her little sister's first Christmas and we'll start all over again. Smile

It's so heart breaking when they seem to be growing up too fast!

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My son is 10 and he still believes. He told me, Mom I know there are kids that don't believe in Santa, but I do. He also believes that there are helper Santas- and then there's the real Santa (who came to our house for a Christmas party one year, so he knows that Santa does really exist but there are a lot of helpers out there (especially the ones that have fake beards) and as you get closer to Christmas, as Santa is really busy in the North Pole this year. He said I don't have to tell Santa what I want, he KNOWS what I want. He also said that he'll like "anything Santa brings" and that "Santa always brings me a Wii game and a DS game".

When he asked about it, I asked back, what do you think? He said I think there is a Santa, and I said I do too. I remember finding out in 5th grade from "friends" and it broke my heart, I came home running crying. It was a total shock to me. I think I said something like that it's special in your heart. I really hope we get another year at least, out of it- becuase I want to take him on the "polar express" train ride next year and also I get him for next Christmas, where my ex has him this year. I do get all the fun times though, with the advent calendar, al the prep for Christmas, and this year we have the elf visitor from the North Pole that is really intriguing Smile

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We've never presented Santa as "a real person." Santa is the spirit of selfless giving. Anyone can be Santa at any time of year (think birthday gifts!) but a lot of people tend to be Santa around the holidays. In our home, Santa comes at the Winter Solstice and he only fills the stockings, so our Santa traditions are different from some of Tiven's friends, but we're also a frugal, vegetarian, cosleeping, extended nursing family so a lot of our traditions are different. We have friends for whom Santa or his equivalent comes on the night of December 5th. We even have some friends in an interfaith family for whom Santa comes on the last night of Hannukah. Santa is whatever *you* believe him to be!