DEFINITELY MONSTER-in-Law! YIKES!
Hi all! Here's a fun topic as we head into "Mother's Day"!
How do you get along with your significant other's mom? Has she become like a second mother to you -- or rather is someone that has you ready to pull out your hair?
For those with kids, do you view her advice as helpful or interfering?
If distance separates you how do you foster your relationship?
Finally, how do you handle Mother's Day? Do the two of you exchange gifts/cards? Do you have something special planned? Share!
I love my MIL. She is one of my closest friends. We live 400 miles apart now, but we are still close. We text or talk on the phone, but mostly text. I will send her a card with some pictures of the kids ( like I do every month, actually) for Mothers Day. I am very blessed to have her. I love her advice on the kids to be honest. I know that is rare, but the stories she tells me about my dh and his brother and sister are great and I enjoy hearing them.
Thanks for responding Angie! I'm fortunate to have a very positive relationship with my mother-in-law as well! I love her dearly but unfortunately live far away. We seek ways to allow her to remain a connected part of our lives through phone conversations, emails, and *gasp* -- snail mail! I really need to make a better effort to do more.
I am trying to think of a unique idea for Mother's Day -- beyond the pics (which she loves!) Got any?
I can't actually pick one. LOL I actually am so very fortunate to have not one MIL but I have TWO. Yay me. Really my DH's stepmom I LOVE.
My DH's birth mother on the other hand is another story. She drives me batty. She sends completely inappropriate gifts to my children (seriously who sends an airfreshner to a 2 yo?). She's extremely negative on EVERY topic you talk about. You can do no right. Whether it's what you're eating, wearing, doing, thinking, etc. in her eye's you stink. EVERYTHING turns into an arguement. When my oldest when back to visit her a second summer is when I decided no more because she was doing it to him. And she ruined her son's self-esteem I wasn't letting her do it to my kids. I am VERY happy she lives all the way across the country.
I, unfortunatley, never got to meet my DH's mother. I hear she was pretty awesome. My DH on the other hand is the unfortunate one. My mom has dementia and is very, very mean... he deals with it the best he can (by not seeing her very often) but I feel sorry for him. My mom told everyone in my family that DH is gay... uuuhhh yyeeaahh... ggaayy... not that there's anything wrong with that bbuutt he's definitely NOT gay. Ya sometimes just gotta sit back and laugh at the nonsense that comes out of her mouth... if not, you'd be crying 24/7.
My MIL is a witch! (and I mean no offence to Wiccans) For most of his adult life DH has had little to do with the woman and I can understand why. Her latest is that I am an abusive mother (for following doctor's orders) and that she should have custody of Robbie as she has more money then us. DH told her that if she continued to talk negatively about me, then she would not see Robbie any more and so she threatened to cut us out of her will (her estate is somewhere around $2 million), DH's reply was that he thought we already were cut out. She thinks money can buy anything.
It makes me sad as she is the only grandparent (my dad died when Robbie was 20 months and my mom has Alzheimers and after multiple strokes is pretty much a vegetable) but I am not subjecting my child to that woman!
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Robbie (8 )
Bailey (April 2, 2011)
"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss
I'm kind of in the middle. My mil is nice enough and would love for us to have a mother daughter type relationship, but the truth is she drives us both crazy. I'm sure if I went into details you guys would just laugh bc she really is a nice person, but there are just a lot of things that add up to a much bigger picture. She is very controlling and manipulative. She doesn't invite us to come over but instead tells us where we need to be (ie: we're having you over Sunday and you should come early this time so we can spend more time together). Sometimes we skip out just on principal. It drives me crazy that she posts EVERY SINGLE DETAIL of anything on Facebook. Every visit we make or anytime she gets to see dh or DS. She posted the other day about how she was slapping ds's hand bc he was trying to mess with something he wasn't supposed to. If DH doesn't answer his phone she immediately calls mine to ask. All these little things just drive us crazy. So again, she is nice enough... But man she can really get on our nerves!