Mother-in-law or MONSTER-in-Law?

View Poll Results: Mother-in-Law or Monster-in-Law!?

Voters
3. You may not vote on this poll
  • Dear Mother-in-Law!

    2 66.67%
  • DEFINITELY MONSTER-in-Law! YIKES!

    1 33.33%
+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 7 of 7

Thread: Mother-in-law or MONSTER-in-Law?

  1. #1
    Online Community Director MissyJ's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2001
    Location
    Rocky Mountain Wanna-be
    Posts
    12,947

    Default Mother-in-law or MONSTER-in-Law?

    Hi all! Here's a fun topic as we head into "Mother's Day"!

    How do you get along with your significant other's mom? Has she become like a second mother to you -- or rather is someone that has you ready to pull out your hair?

    For those with kids, do you view her advice as helpful or interfering?

    If distance separates you how do you foster your relationship?

    Finally, how do you handle Mother's Day? Do the two of you exchange gifts/cards? Do you have something special planned? Share!

  2. #2
    Posting Addict gaidinsgirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Location
    Tn
    Posts
    11,741

    Default

    I love my MIL. She is one of my closest friends. We live 400 miles apart now, but we are still close. We text or talk on the phone, but mostly text. I will send her a card with some pictures of the kids ( like I do every month, actually) for Mothers Day. I am very blessed to have her. I love her advice on the kids to be honest. I know that is rare, but the stories she tells me about my dh and his brother and sister are great and I enjoy hearing them.
    Angie,

    Wife to Eddie. Mama to Jamie, Allie and Luke


    Follow me to where you can be Scrap-Happy
    Join us where the
    Bookworms Unite!

  3. #3
    Online Community Director MissyJ's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2001
    Location
    Rocky Mountain Wanna-be
    Posts
    12,947

    Default

    Thanks for responding Angie! I'm fortunate to have a very positive relationship with my mother-in-law as well! I love her dearly but unfortunately live far away. We seek ways to allow her to remain a connected part of our lives through phone conversations, emails, and *gasp* -- snail mail! I really need to make a better effort to do more.

    I am trying to think of a unique idea for Mother's Day -- beyond the pics (which she loves!) Got any?

  4. #4
    Posting Addict wishing4agirl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Location
    Washington
    Posts
    13,111

    Default

    I can't actually pick one. LOL I actually am so very fortunate to have not one MIL but I have TWO. Yay me. Really my DH's stepmom I LOVE.

    My DH's birth mother on the other hand is another story. She drives me batty. She sends completely inappropriate gifts to my children (seriously who sends an airfreshner to a 2 yo?). She's extremely negative on EVERY topic you talk about. You can do no right. Whether it's what you're eating, wearing, doing, thinking, etc. in her eye's you stink. EVERYTHING turns into an arguement. When my oldest when back to visit her a second summer is when I decided no more because she was doing it to him. And she ruined her son's self-esteem I wasn't letting her do it to my kids. I am VERY happy she lives all the way across the country.

  5. #5
    Prolific Poster kimlambert's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Location
    near Flint, MI
    Posts
    1,163

    Default

    I, unfortunatley, never got to meet my DH's mother. I hear she was pretty awesome. My DH on the other hand is the unfortunate one. My mom has dementia and is very, very mean... he deals with it the best he can (by not seeing her very often) but I feel sorry for him. My mom told everyone in my family that DH is gay... uuuhhh yyeeaahh... ggaayy... not that there's anything wrong with that bbuutt he's definitely NOT gay. Ya sometimes just gotta sit back and laugh at the nonsense that comes out of her mouth... if not, you'd be crying 24/7.
    Photobucket

  6. #6
    Posting Addict mom2robbie's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Location
    Edmonton, Alberta
    Posts
    5,817

    Default

    My MIL is a witch! (and I mean no offence to Wiccans) For most of his adult life DH has had little to do with the woman and I can understand why. Her latest is that I am an abusive mother (for following doctor's orders) and that she should have custody of Robbie as she has more money then us. DH told her that if she continued to talk negatively about me, then she would not see Robbie any more and so she threatened to cut us out of her will (her estate is somewhere around $2 million), DH's reply was that he thought we already were cut out. She thinks money can buy anything.

    It makes me sad as she is the only grandparent (my dad died when Robbie was 20 months and my mom has Alzheimers and after multiple strokes is pretty much a vegetable) but I am not subjecting my child to that woman!
    Margaret (44)
    Sean (38 )
    Robbie (8 )
    Bailey (April 2, 2011)


    "The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss

  7. #7
    Mega Poster CaityA83's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Posts
    3,103

    Default

    I'm kind of in the middle. My mil is nice enough and would love for us to have a mother daughter type relationship, but the truth is she drives us both crazy. I'm sure if I went into details you guys would just laugh bc she really is a nice person, but there are just a lot of things that add up to a much bigger picture. She is very controlling and manipulative. She doesn't invite us to come over but instead tells us where we need to be (ie: we're having you over Sunday and you should come early this time so we can spend more time together). Sometimes we skip out just on principal. It drives me crazy that she posts EVERY SINGLE DETAIL of anything on Facebook. Every visit we make or anytime she gets to see dh or DS. She posted the other day about how she was slapping ds's hand bc he was trying to mess with something he wasn't supposed to. If DH doesn't answer his phone she immediately calls mine to ask. All these little things just drive us crazy. So again, she is nice enough... But man she can really get on our nerves!
    Caitlin & James
    11/11/07

    4 IUIs-BFN
    IUI/Injectables - BFP!
    MC 4/22/10 -10w5d -BO
    IUI/Injectables-BFP!



    Corbin Gregory arrived 3-25-11

    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers

+ Reply to Thread

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
v -->

About Us | Contact Us | Privacy Policy | Sitemap | Terms & Conditions