Answer Box: Did anyone have problems at work getting off for doc appts. either while TTC or pregnant? How did you handle? Background: I work for a small company and have had to take off about 1- 2x per month for my appointments. I try to schedule to take earliest or latest appt. in the day. Last week though my boss made a comment about how "much" I was taking off. (I'm not salaried.) I need the job but have had difficulty maintaining pregnancies so I'm seen more for shots and monitoring. Thx in advance for advice.
If you have accrued leave time, then it shouldn't matter to anyone how much of it you use, or for what purpose you use it. If you don't have accrued leave time, or if someone else has to cover for you, then I think you should let your manager know that you are having some health issues that are requiring frequent appointments. You don't need to share anything more, and I certainly wouldn't share that I was trying to get pregnant because you might find yourself out of a job "for other reasons" but really for this reason, kwim? Wait until your pregnancy is beyond your usual miscarriage point before sharing the good news, and then they legally can't fire you or it would be pregnancy discrimination.
Also if you think the manager is going to make an issue of your time off, start trying to document when, and how much, other people are taking off. Just send yourself an email, "Sally came in two hours late today" or "Dan is taking a vacation day after calling in sick on Friday" kinds of things, so if you end up losing your job over this, you might be able to document that they're applying a different standard to you than to others, which might be enough to get you unemployment.
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I agree with Spacers (sorry don't know your first name!) - if you have PTO (or vacation, or even sick time) then it is NONE of their business what you use that time for. I was honest with my managers up front b/c I'm going thru fertility treatments, there are some weeks I go every day! But I'm a trainer and sometimes have to teach a class - so I'm required to ensure I have coverage for my appointments (it's MY responsibility to find my replacement) My point is, discuss the expectations with your manager. Ensure you are doing all the "right" things, and that both you and the boss are happy when you need to leave for any appts.
- Toni Marie
oh, and if you are taking this time off, but not using PTO, or unpaid time, and still getting paid for your full 40 hours (or however many you work in a week) then yes, that might be an issue. Just make sure you're doing everything "right", so that you can't get in trouble later on.
- Toni Marie
With my 2nd pregnancy, I needed a lot of time off due to appointments and eventually was placed on bedrest. I talked to my boss upfront, HR was in involved as well when it got to the bedrest time and I worked while on bedrest. I got a lot of documentation and such. Even now with my son who has weekly therapy appointments I still need a lot of time off but it's a lot of communication and documentation as to why.
With all of that they have been rather understanding of the situation.
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I found that generally my work places have been pretty good with me taking time off as long as I tell them what is happening (physio, pregnancy complications, miscarriage, sick kids). They were not as understanding for other people who had weekly doctors appointments for no know reason. Even people who didn't want to give the details would say something like "I have to see the doctor frequently for the next little bit. I'll try to schedule the appointments so they interfere with the work day as little as possible" and work was ok with that too.
Only you know what your boss is like and your set of responsibilities are. I found when I gave them more information, they were more than willing to subtley change my set of responsibilities (I couldn't stand more than 10 minutes without starting to bleed heavily) so I mainly did computer work.
I did work one place where they were very unsympathetic about things like sick kids so I can't imagine how they would have been for my pregnancies.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)
Some hobs are accommodating but I can say from past experience that some just don't care. With DD1 i was just removed from the schedule after my second appointment causing me to miss work. The said it made me unreliable and i was a work place hazard. If you have worked there more than a year you should be able to claim any time you need that is not covered by PTO or vacation as FMLA (family medical leave act).
Best of luck to you. I know that the tons of appointments can be trying when you are high risk as I had with DD2. As I am sure you know if they do fire you for this you can seek legal action so document everything but you may have to settle for unemployment.