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    Default Sex life needs spicing up

    There is no other way to put it, my sex life is frickin' awful atm.

    So, I wondered if any of you had tips on how to spice things up?

    This should be funny.

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    Date night:
    You cook a man's fave meal.
    Serve it to him in the bedroom after the kids have gone to bed with no TV or Computer on.
    Don't talk about the kids, or work, or bills. Only talk about your first date, first kiss, then tell him what you found atractive about him.
    If your looking to get lucky after and he is not in the mood a shocking BJ works well but it is not something I would do often so it gets more of a reaction when you "need it"


    For me what keeps our sexy (not sex) life going we always take a shower together in the am even if that means I join him when he gets up at 4am and I have no place to be. (same for him he gets up to shower with me if I have to be up first) and we always sleep naked every night (even if I am on my cycle or PP bleeding I just keep on panties). I don't stress about the kids we keep a robe right at the bed and always have a cover on. They have to knock before entering (toddlers can do this) or we lock the door and as I get up to unlock it I put on the robe. With a prego and now the baby so young and I bleed for the first 3 months (yuck) just feeling his naked skin next to mine even if it was just sleeping or shower and not sex made us feel atracted to each other. It keeps the love hormones flowing.

    It is working for us. Now I did not do this in my first marrige and we did have a sex life but it was like once a week for 15 min if that and then it was over we never conected if it was not SEX.

    Doing the above makes me feel conected and sex every night even if we are not getting off.

    After my divorce I asked someone who after 25 years of being married where still so happy and they had 5 kids. How they did it (you could see he loved her and was still in love with her like teen kind of love even after all that time) and that is what they said they did. So our first weekend together I told Bill that I wanted to make a commitment to shower with him daily and expected the same in return (trust me it is not always fun to get up early when you could sleep in to shower together) also the kids know now that when the water is running not to bother us so we get 10-30 min of "adult" time.

    It took some time to teach the kids to knock and to figuer out how to get the shower time inand not be late for work but it is so worth it. He agrees it is shocking when you make an effort to touch daily (not just the hi or buy kiss but hold eachother) how better the relationship is, he has also been divorced.

    I have only been doing it a year but I did get the advice from someone who was doing it for 25 so we figured it was worth it and I can't complain after a year. I mean who would not want to be loved daily??

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    I am with you also. DH rarely wants to DTD and I think it is b/c of years of TTC & timed BDing. I am going to try some of these suggestions out.

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    Ooohh I love these posts lol! I know my DH is not the romantic type (unfortunately), so all of the things that get me in the mood, such as a hot shower together or trying to sweet talk him don't work very well. I would say, start off with a nice date night. Get a sitter, and go do something together (dinner and a movie, a sports game... whatever). That should get him to relax a bit (I know my DH can't ever really seem to do that around the kids). Then when you get home and the kids are all tucked in, you walk right over to him, take his pants off, and give him a nice long BJ... I don't care what kind of man you have or what's going on in his life, if that doesn't get him in the mood, nothing will lol! Push him onto the bed, drop a pillow on the floor so that you don't hurt your knees, and give him a right good one!!! Good luck, and KUP on how things go!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starryblue702 View Post
    I don't care what kind of man you have or what's going on in his life, if that doesn't get him in the mood, nothing will lol! Push him onto the bed, drop a pillow on the floor so that you don't hurt your knees, and give him a right good one!!! Good luck, and KUP on how things go!!!

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    OMG haha!

    A BJ, seriously? I am SO not into that.... unless it's whilst we're 'at' it kind of thing :-/

    I have tried the whole shower thing but DBF reckons he has body issues. I swear to god though, he has nothing to be worried about!! He's not over weight, I honestly think it's an excuse.

    We did the date night on Saturday, went for food then the movie and you know what? As soon as we got home he fell asleep on the couch He just laughs or brushes me off when I try anything with him!!

    HELP ME!!!

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