Hi girls. I just got back after spending a week visiting the in-laws and relatives. My SIL just had a baby who is 6 weeks this week.
It's her first and I think she has or is getting bad advice. She lives in a VERY small town (about 500 people) with no library and she doesn't have internet. She doesn't drive and even if she did, there are no book stores for more than 3 hour drive in any direction. Therefore she is just going by what people are telling her or suggesting.
She gave up on breast feeding because she wasn't producing enough milk. If I had known ahead of time she was having issues, I would have offered advice but she stopped over three weeks ago so no going back now.
I'm concerned at her lack of feeding/care knowledge. She's already trying to force the baby to STTN and she only wants him to eat every 4-6 hours. She is also considering adding cereal into his bottle!!
She is already letting the baby CIO constantly as well, sometimes letting him cry for over 30 min before she will go near him. She was very firm on us not going near him when he cries as she wanted him to sooth himself and go to sleep.
I'm also concerned because she is putting him to sleep with all kinds of toys in his crib, blankets, and with the bumpers on the sides. Isn't that a suffocation hazard?
Should I say something? Because I have no kids I worry I'm going to get the "well, how would you know, you don't have any kids" conversation. She doesn't know about our TTC issues and therefore doesn't know how much knowledge I've gained and read about in the last four+ years. I could send books but I don't think she would read them. I think she is already annoyed at how much I was holding him while we were visiting because I couldn't stand to let him cry so much.