i have asthma and i'm allergic to cigarette smoke. my grandparents used to smoke, and my mom's side of the family, i remember sitting either outside alone or in back bedrooms alone at family functions when i was little because they all smoked. i just couldn't be there. My DH smoked in high school, but he quit long before we got married. and then about a year after we got married he started using smokeless tobacco (chew, dip, whatever you want to call it) and its been a huge horrible thing between us now for 3 years.
i hate the money he spends on it.
i hate how torn up his lip is.
i hate seeing that stuff in his teeth.
i hate finding his spittoon bottles.
but there is absolutly nothing i can do to MAKE him quit. its impossible, nobody will quit until they are ready to.
but if he was smoking, it wouldnt have been an issue, i WOULD NOT have been able to live with him. i would have moved out a long time ago. i'm that allergic.
right now we have a truce over our situation. he is trying to cut back. he tries not to do it around me. he only gets his spending money and when its gone he's out of luck. he's SUPPOSED to not leave tins or spittoon bottles around, but he does. its just something i shouldnt have to deal with, its disgusting, and its bad for him. he has terrible acid reflux issues and he needs to quit because of that. but he's not ready.
i really just wish that chew was not part of our lives anymore. it makes me want to cry knowing that my daughter knows daddy puts "uck-uck" in his lip and spits. it goes against everything i believe in for him to do it. but like i said, we are at a truce, and right now i'm letting it go. i need to find some incentive for him to quit more. bribery works for my 3 yr old.