Stoopid mil!

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Minx_Kristi's picture
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Stoopid mil!

Seriously, this woman drives me bonkers!!!

It was DBFs sisters birthday last month and we were 3 days late in sending her gift. Mainly because we were skint as anything, like seriously couldn't afford a loaf of bread! Heck, we got beat with birthdays.... not fun. Anyway, I did see her point. He knew the birthday was coming up and I did keep badgering him to get her something.... anyway, whatever. She got our gift.... no thankyou, nothing. Then *****y MIL decides to put all over facebook (are you KIDDING ME??) how it only costs this much for a card, blah blah blah! No sh*t sherlock, but we were broke..... just because she doesn't work (oh yea, but claims every benefit under the sun) and thinks she is on her a$$, we MUST of had money. Just because we're rich to her.... excuse me but have you SEEN our outgoings???!!!! She got her gift, WTF is the problem????

So anyways, she hasn't spoken to either of us since. Then on facebook last night she puts "you can choose your friends but not your family!" Oh my f*cking gawwwwwwd!!!!

I sent her a PM asking if she was aiming that at DBF, no reply. Go figure.

I am sorry, but who falls out with their own kid because of something so ridiculous?? Jesus woman, you should be grateful your kids even talk to you after what you put them through when they were younger!!!!!!!

SHAMELESS comes to mind.

xx

Jenn0113's picture
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Awesome :rolleyes: How old is SIL? MIL sounds like a piece of work.

I could complain about family FB posts all day though - I'm ready to block some people because their posts are TMI or just crappy to say about family in general.

SuzyQ16's picture
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How immature!!! It's not like you forgot.

Minx_Kristi's picture
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Yea, exactly!!

MIL seems to forget that about 2 years ago, she sent DBFs gifts 2 WEEKS after his birthday. He's not like her though, didn't make a fuss.... probably wouldn't have been bothered if he got nothing from her. Yet she takes things sooooo much further than she needs to!!

SIL was 21, yes, big birthday and again, she got our gift 3 days after it. Just so you know though, she doesn't bother with DBF. She's met my DD ONCE.... yes, her own aunty has met her once in her whole 3 years of life. We visited them about a year and a half ago and haven't been able to get over since.... she has been on holiday etc but hasn't come to visit us. Does that sound like a bro and sis that are close? Ehhh no.

Grrrrrrrr.

xx

carg0612's picture
Joined: 09/23/09
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She sounds terrible. I'm sorry your mil is such a PITA. Mine isn't much better, lemme tell ya!

Don't worry, you got the gift and did the right thing. Let it roll off your back like water off a duck's.

You know where you stand and it's right over her looking down laughing so hard snot is dripping out of your nose on to her face (visuals always make me feel better). Biggrin

VixB's picture
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wow.... :eek::eek:
That is sad.

I HATE FB with a passion. I never had a account and never will. Hate the fact that ppl complain on there all the time and that ppl know everyboby's business.

Sorry for you MIL....

combatcutie's picture
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Very immature. Grow up and act your age. I personally would have called her out on FB myself and show everyone that she isn't telling the whole truth. And why do you have to buy gifts for sisters/brothers now that they are older and you have a family to take care of????

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Ignore her. It isn't even her issue... she's just making it one. Is SIL upset? I would just ignore the FB jabs... she's just making herself look petty and rude... take the high roade and don't bother commenting Smile

Don't know what she'd do here... my siblings and I (nor dh and his siblings) don't bother sending gifts or even cards for each other. We're adults, we have our own children, it's just not a huge priority, kwim? We do buy for the kids but that's it. Same at Christmastime. Oh and late gifts? Let's see... the ILs are routinely late getting my kids their gifts. One year SIL#2 gave dd her's at Christmas... her birthday is the beginning of September so almost 4 months late :rolleyes:

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Ha, Christina that made me LOL!

Vicky, I actually really like FB.... maybe I'm too nosey for my own good! ha.

CC - you would think so right?! At Christmas my family focus on the kids but his family want presents. They're SO materialistic!

I have NO idea if SIL was upset because we don't speak to her, she doesn't speak to us soooo yea.

Marla, I tried to ignore it but she messaged me back last night saying it wasn't all aimed at DBF. She was in hospital (which she put on facebook 'is out of hospital, thanks for all concerned') which we didn't even know about because she never told us and we never replied to her because we thought it was a dig at DBF. Anyway, apparently noone got in touch to see how she was (how we meant to if we don't know you're in there?!!) so she was annoyed. I didn't go to town on her, but I did explain everything we're paying money out for. I also told her that it's my Mums birthday on Sunday, which it is and I can't afford to get her anything (which I can but if she thinks my family are missing out too that would make her happy!) and how bad I feel etc. I just want her to realise that we're not being late in sending gifts because we're not bothered but because things are tight right now. My Mum would understand so why can't she??

xx

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

Marla, I tried to ignore it but she messaged me back last night saying it wasn't all aimed at DBF. She was in hospital (which she put on facebook 'is out of hospital, thanks for all concerned') which we didn't even know about because she never told us and we never replied to her because we thought it was a dig at DBF. Anyway, apparently noone got in touch to see how she was (how we meant to if we don't know you're in there?!!) so she was annoyed. I didn't go to town on her, but I did explain everything we're paying money out for. I also told her that it's my Mums birthday on Sunday, which it is and I can't afford to get her anything (which I can but if she thinks my family are missing out too that would make her happy!) and how bad I feel etc. I just want her to realise that we're not being late in sending gifts because we're not bothered but because things are tight right now. My Mum would understand so why can't she??

xx

I wouldn't even give her the time of day to explain to her your finances or anything. You can not rationalize with an irrational person. They think they are always right and you need to slowly pull away from people like that. You don't need that crap in your life. Worry about your DD and DBF and not them!!!!

Minx_Kristi's picture
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Yea, well I've still not heard back from her. SO annoying!!

If she wants to be like that and lose touch with DD then it's her loss!!

xx

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Ugh I HATE when in laws are like that!

My MIL goes around telling everyone that we're financially unstable and can't afford to pay our bills (we're actually doing better than everyone in his family, except his aunt). She then tells people she has to send money to us to help pay the bills! She has never sent us anything! It's irritating!!! And she does this on FB too!!! (Which is why I have her blocked, ha!)

His entire family is actually like that and it gets to be too much.

I'm sorry she's being like that. I wish people were nicer and not so rude these days.

Starryblue702's picture
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OMG my mom can be just like this! She got so upset that I couldn't afford a birthday present for her or my dad last year on their 50th birthdays. The problem is they're so used to me spending at least $50 if not more on both of them for every birthday. Well in the past two years my pay and DH's pay has been cut in half, and yet we still have all the same bills to pay of course, so I'm lucky that I'm still able to put food on the table! And during this my parents lived with me from May of last year through May of this year due to my dad being unemployed (and my mom has been a SAHM for 25 years so it's not like she could go right out and get a job somewhere)! So imagine me, DH, my three kids, my parents, and my four younger brothers and sisters all living in my 1800 SF house! And they have no money coming in so it's not like they were helping out with the bills (like the extra water and electricity that was being used by a second family living there!)!! It just blew my mind, and she still to this day talks about the fact that I still owe her a birthday present... are you out of your freaking mind mom? I saved you from being homeless on the street and you want to complain about a present that I couldn't afford to give you? I just don't get it...