Tubal Ligation Regret
Hello Everyone! I am new here, although I've been browsing this board for a couple of days now. I was wondering if anyone has had a TL and now regret it? I had one after my 2nd daughter was born, and now I really regret it. My youngest daughter turned two last mth, and it has me really depressed. I came across a facility in NC that specializes in tubal reversals. I've read the testimonals and the statistics and it is quite impressive.
I would just like some feed back from other's on how they've dealt with TL regret..and also, has anyone expierenced any PTLS symptoms?
Hi! Welcome to the forums!!
I personally am very sound with my decision.. NOW. But 4-6 months post partum I was dealing with regret pretty heavily. When he started running around and screaming? I was like.. meh its ok LOL!
Now, the PTLS is something I am getting curious about. My AF has changed dramatically... and I am finding that my face breaks out constantly and ((WAY TMI)) I get YI's every SINGLE month no matter what I do.
I had a TL in Jan 2008 and I just had it reversed in June. In the beginning I did not regret it as I had 3 little boys and had divorced in early 2007. I was 99% sure I was suffering from PTLS shortly after... I would bleed for weeks at a time, among other things. My family Dr refused to even consider it. Then... in 2010, I remarried a wonderful man. We toyed around with the idea of a reversal for several months and decided to move forward with it. We are military so it was a bit of the process, but within 5 minutes of talking with the Dr, he confirmed the PTLS and I felt so much better knowing I was not imagining the issues I was having. I had my tubal reversal surgery in June, and since have become pg and had one m/c. We are praying for one more "blessing", but after that will figure out some form on BC because I do not want to go through PTLS again.
I honestly regretted the decision more than anything in my life.
Thank you all for sharing your experiences. To the OP, I hope that you reach the decision that brings you peace! Know that no matter what your decision, we welcome you to stick around as you work through your journey in parenthood with your other kiddos! :)
Let us know how we can help support you!
Thank you ladies for your replies and sharing your expeirences. As dreamingbig said, I have never regretted anything more in my entire life. I never should have let my dr do the tubal, and the fact that I hesitated when she asked me if I was sure, should have told her something, I would think. My youngest is very rowdy, and was a very, very fussy baby. At times, she wouldn't sleep but maybe an hr at a time, and stay up for several hrs. Even going through all of that, I would still love to have another one. I let my family, and my husband's family talk me into it, bc they all thought we had enough.
I have sent in my operative & pathology reports to the TR facility and they said everything looks great to start the process. I cannot wait, not only to have another baby, but also hopefully get rid of some, if not all of my ptls symptoms. Every since my tl, i've had heavier periods, LOTS of headaches, depressed, major mood swings, and absolutely no energy and am always, always tired. I can't wait to feel like my old self again.
Now i'm also thinking of what to tell our families once i do get pg again, bc I know they'll be questions..I just don't want to tell them about the TR..No one knows about it except my hubby, and my best friend.
I know some people will not agree with my way of thinking, but I feel compelled to share it with you.
I have only shared my experience with the tubal reversal surgery with the ladies here, and with my DH (of course), and my sister and my best friend. I have ZERO intention of sharing the details behind our TTC or conceiving with anyone else. I am perfectly content to let remaining family and friends think it was an accident. I say this because I know not everyone will be happy for us but I am HAPPY, my DH is happy, and we are not going to let the negative comments of family and friends affect us. Here is the thing, we are decent people, we are good parents to our kids. We give them what they need, and some wants too. Granted at times our hands are full, but is it anyone else’s choice whether we have more? Nope…
Originally Posted by DreamingBig
We feel the same way as you. I was thinking of not telling any of our family until I was past the first trimester, but I asked my hubby how we would explain to our families about our pregnancy, and he said we'll just say "it happens". Whether they choose to except it is their own issue, but I will not let their feelings affect us and our children. I'm very content on the decision to have the tr, and hope I can get it soon. Thank you for your reply and thoughts. It really helped.
No advice to offer, but welcome to p.o!! I hope someone has some good advice for you somewhere here!
What is PTLS?
I used paragarde copper T IUD after my 3rd was born because my husband was done but I knew that I did not feel done.
That was the best thing I ever did as he left us when my 3rd was 13 months old. I was depressed thinking I would not have anymore for sure now as it was I was a single mom of 3 and the last had special needs. And then I got sick I was on the sofa for 6 months only getting up to dress and feed the kids. I was having pain in my lower right side and lots of daily bleeding. I thought the IUD was doing it, but it turned out that I had a tumor in one of my flopiane tubes and to do the surgery they had to take out the IUD and the tube and a DNC beause of endo. While I felt awesome after the surgery I was upset that I was told I only had a 5% chance of ever having another one because my flopian tube that was left had alot of scaring and the DNC did not fix the endo and my c-section scar was causing problems too. SO if my any luck I did get prego not to expect to go to term. I was sure my body just did not want me to have more even if I wanted them. Well I told my new BF about this and 10 months after our first date Simon was born. I swear God wanted this little guy to be here because we on top of all the medical stuff where using a condom, so yea when we told family I don't think they liked the "it was not planed" but they sure do love the baby.