Question for the Answer Box (i.e. responses from YOU!): When and how did you tell your boss that you were expecting? Is there a certain time frame that you *must* tell them by? I am fearful of losing my job due to possible layoffs already and don't want to give them any additional excuse to add my name to the chopping block.
You need to tell them in time to cover your maternity leave. If there is really a risk of potential layoffs then you can play it either way. Personally, I wouldn't say anything and hope that my job performance pulls me through. OTOH, I know someone who suffered from hyperemesis who chose to say something right away, rather than possibly be penalized for pregnancy-related absences or having someone think she was on drugs when she was vomiting in the bathroom; her manager later told her that she made it through the layoffs only because they didn't want to risk a pregnancy discrimination lawsuit.
With my first pregnancy, I told my boss when I was about 14 weeks along because he was assigning some longer-term projects and I didn't want to commit to something I couldn't finish, but I also wanted to get the CVS test results to make sure that baby was fine; he assigned me to something that wrapped up when I was 38 weeks instead of one of the projects that went on closer to a year. But then I was outed at six weeks with my second pregnancy because I didn't drink at the holiday party! Good luck to you!
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I told my work the day I had my 20 week ultrasound. I freaked out a little bit. They are fine with it totally and are excited for the baby to be here also. Every job is different. My boss is a man and he asked how long I was going to be taking off leaving it up to me how long I am gone.
I told my boss right away with my first pregnancy - but I was dealing with severe morning sickness that I ultimately had to be hospitalized for. With my second, since I expected a similar experience and he was so supportive, I told him right away. Ultimately, he was also wonderful in dealing with my miscarriages.
I think you need to decide the type of relationship you have with your boss and your personal circumstances and make the decision right for you.
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With my first pregnancy at this job I told him around 10 weeks or so. with my 2nd pregnancy I told him right away as my first child was born early and I knew the 2nd time around to I was going to have a lot of doctor appointments
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If your pregnancy is affecting your job, I would tell. I was super sick and missed a lot and wasn't working at my normal level even when I was there. They also wanted me to be the key person on a 2 year project and I told them because I was interested but I felt I wasn't the best person for it (also Canadian so I would have taken the year mat leave)
Legally, you only need to let them know the required time before you plan to go on leave. I do know someone who successfully sued for wrongful dismissal when she was laid off at 8 months. It can be hard to prove though.
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