Theo's teacher wants to have him tested. Does anyone have experience with this?
i don't........but (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))).......i hope someone can offer some thoughts/info for you.........
We are pretty sure that will be part of H's diagnosis...
My DH was also ADHD...
Hugs... I would get the testing done, and then figure out what to do from there.
Thanks. I am looking at it as an "at least rule it out" situation. I have an appointment with our family doctor on December 5, at which point she will probably refer us somewhere.
He does not seem to be able to follow instructions, I have seen it in hockey practice: the coach draws something on the board and the kids go off to do it on the ice, but Theo is going the wrong way or shooting the cones like they are pucks... This is frustrating for me to watch and for him to find himself lost in class - he is such a bright kid! And he is acting out the frustration when he doesn't know what he is supposed to be doing: calling classmates stupid and flying into rages at home. I really didn't think he would do it at school where he is eager to please and anxious about behaving. But he has quite a bit of anger in him.
I just want to get to the root of it before he goes into full days at school...If he gets the same Grade One teacher Max had, we are in trouble. She is a bit of a dragon and disciplinarian, which suited Mr. Rules Max, but would be a bad recipe for my middle child.
I have no advice, just ((((hugs)))).
Karina :bighug: Might I offer a suggestion? The Austism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) websites have a ton of very useful information on dealing with anger management and extreme behaviour stuff. Even though Jax is not on the spectrum, we have used quite a few of these techniques to successfully work through some of his frustrations.
I don't have any advice either, just hugs. :bigarmhug:
But, for his teacher next year, can you request to not have the one Max had? I know they usually honor teacher requests here.
:bigarmhug: Karina. I do agree you should get the test. It could really help clarify if there is a problem.
From what you described just now about his behavior, it does sound like he's struggling w anger because he can't do what he's being asked to do and can't focus long enough to understand what he's supposed to do.
Sort of like the way Mel described Jax: he knows something's wrong so he gets frustrated and angry and acts out, but that isn't his nature it's just him being upset.
I hope you do get some answers and help.
My best friends son was diagnosed with ADHD when he was about 3 I believe, perhaps 4. It was a tough prognosis for my BFF being a single mom. But, though her own counselling and careful monitoring by doctors and medication, Kyle was able to cope very well. You could see a tremendous difference in him and his ability to listen, follow instructions and his reactions to different situations. Putting him on medication was a very difficult decision for her, as she's not all for it, but in seeing the difference it made in him, made that decision easier for her to swallow. The only issue she found with the medication was that he wasn't ever hungry, so getting him to eat was a chore. So, he had to eat a good breakfast before taking his meds, because chances were, he wouldn't eat much for lunch. I dont' know if that side effect was related to his specific medication, but it was one that she struggled with. Now he is a 14 yr old who functions totally fine in school. He himself knows that he NEEDS to take his medication, or else he won't have the patience he needs and he will over react to situations that there's no need to. KWIM? His meds took him from out of control, to very much in control and focused.
I, myself was diagnosed with ADD when I was in jr. high and medication helped me tremendously. I was able to focus on what was going on, instead of my mind racing and taking me everywhere else. I could sit, and listen.
I'm not saying go put him on meds or anything like that. But, like you said, get him tested just to rule it out. But if this is the case, and he does have ADHD, there are so many support systems out there for this! I don't know much about any herbal supplements for it, or if it can be treated through diet, etc. But I do know that this is what I have seen that has worked. I know many people are very against medication, and I understand this completely, but after seeing such drastic changes in him and myself I can support it.
I don't know what it's like in Canada, but I'm finding the process of getting Miles tested remarkably easy. And the people are quite nice.
Here in the states it seems as everyone wants to catch and treat problems as soon as possible because 1, it's better for the kids and 2, it's cheaper (apparently). Plus, the earlier the kids learn coping strategies, the better, you know. Thats what is keeping me going when I have doubt about the whole process.
For us here, testing of any kind involves observation at school, speach eval and a home visit from a psychologist where they do social history, an intelligence test to rule out learning disabilities and...something else that I forget.
Personally, I'm trying to tell them as little as possible about his problems because I really want them to be objective.
Also, I talked to the school to see if they had any suggestions as to who he should see. I wanted someone who had a good relaationship with the school and knew how the school worked.
Good luck! I had a long talk with the administrator at Miless school and she made me feel much better abot the whole thing and reminded me that the reason to have him evaluated was to HELP Miles.
Thanks everyone! :bigarmhug:
I am going to take it one step at a time, I was just a bit surprised by the teacher's request since noone had mentioned anything before...but her attitude was definitely to try and help Theo in case it is something that could get worse. If it is not ADHD, we still have to address it, so this is a starting point.
You all are awesome. I will read about the autism advice online and anything else about what it could be to prepare myself for our first appointment and I'll keep you posted.
Wow, what a blow. Even when you're aware of issues, it can come as a shock to hear it out loud. Hugs to you, mama! :openarms:
A good friend has a 5 year old who was diagnosed right when he started Kindergarten. I don't believe they went the medication route, but I know she's strictly controlling his diet and it's made a VERY apparent difference. I can't remember all the details (I'm sure you can Google it), but I do remember her mentioning that artificial dyes are a big trigger for him, they eat mostly organic now, and that flax seed really helps so she hides it in everything she can.
Keep us posted, k?
I would definitely advise looking into it further. There are options other than medication if that is a concern. But even having a diagnosis can help him in academic situations if needed (I assume Canada has similar laws as the US).
and I would definitely seek diagnosis sooner rather than later. Here's my story...Bri, our 16 year old has always struggled in school. She requires longer think times, does horrible on tests, is painfully shy and would rather miss every question than ask for help. In elementary school and even into middle school, the teachers really worked with her to help her stay caught up. Then comes high school. And every semester I wonder if she will even pass. I've always suspected she may have ADHD, inattentive type but put off seeking diagnosis. At school, it's like she's invisible. So finally after a year of visits with a psychologist to rule out mood disorders and then appts with a psychiatrist, she has been diagnosed with ADHD. She started taking meds a few weeks ago and 2 days ago, she got the highest grade on a chemistry test out of both classes!! This from the kid who is barely passing chemistry and has failed every test and quiz all year. I feel horrible for not pursuing this sooner.
The other thing I want to say is that I'm all for meds for ADHD. This is how I see it...if your child had diabetes, you would give them insulin without question. If they had asthma, you'd get them an inhaler. ADHD is also a medical diagnosis. I do believe it is overly diagnosed, but I've seen kids make huge gains when on the right medication. And most kids will say they want to take the medicine.
Good luck! I know it's not easy!
I was going to second what Wendy said, particularly about the food dyes. They're EVERYWHERE (even toothpaste!), and some people react horribly to them. One of my friends removed all food coloring from her son's diet and saw a huge change almost immediately. I know you are healthy eaters, but maybe that's something to look into? Also, her son really can't have any simple sugar - it makes him crazy. I think some people just have a harder time with certain foods...
I also agree with Marcie that I think ADD/ADHD is over-diagnosed and definitely over-medicated. And even the correct diagnosis/medication can take a very long time to get the dosage right. I've had students go from climbing the walls when they forgot to take their meds to being complete zombies when the dosage is off. And just remember that whoever is doing the diagnosing has a vested interest in having patients with some kind of disorder...
:bigarmhug: I would imagine hearing something like that would be very unsettling.