Allowance? Chores?

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Allowance? Chores?

Do any of your kids have to do chores and/or get an allowance yet?

Miles isn't a horrible helper, but he's not great either. He will help but there isn't anything he does consistently (or does without me asking). Anyway, my friend does something like this and I was going to do it too... Each of her kids picked out a toy worth about $15 and they are working towards it. She made (kids made actually) a chart with squares and each square is worth 50 cents. When they do a task, they color it in and when the charts are full, they get their toy.

I was going to do something similar. I like it because one I won't have to take him to the store with a bunch of quarters and two, he doesn't really understand the value of money quite yet (like a quarter is worth 25 cents means nothing to him, you know). I was just going to make him a chart though and when he gets about 20 squares give him money or take him to the store or whatever.

Anyway, I mentioned it to him this morning and it thought it was a really neat idea! I have a feeling he will be really helpful when it wants something but not very helpful when he is content, lol.

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I have mixed feelings. I think a household should work together for the common good of all who live there and each person should have their own responsibilities that are just expected of them without compensation. Now, we will have certain things the kids can do to earn money for things they'd like to buy, but I know that maturity wise, Jax is not ready for this. We're still working on rewarding age appropriate behavior. ie: no meltdowns over getting frustrated with things (toys) not working right, not taking things away from his sister, etc. I think when we finally get a handle on the meltdowns, then we will be ready to progress to some type of work for payment system.

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we do a behavior chart that is similar (and tyler's potty chart that is now complete Smile ) ........got them at staples when i was there for something else.......alyssa gets a sticker for good behaivior and following her green light and then when she fills the chart (which has about 50 blocks) she get's to pick something....and ...if she gets a time out or gets sent to her room I get to cross a sticker off!!!

similar idea

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Oooo Peg, got a link for this chart you picked up?

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lemme see...brb

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i did allowances with sarah and max when they were older and helpful......ages 7-10.......now it's just expected(the work , that is), we buy them what they want/need........and they still get $$ when they ask......but it was a fun learning experience for them during that small window of time, they got to keep half, and put half in the bank...so they got to watch their bank acct grow a wee bit, too........i might do it for lucy .....but i wouldn't start it with abby.....she's too young...just my opinion......

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i didn't find the exact one i got...but look at these fun charts
and stickers

It's easy to find the Office Supplies, Copy Paper, Furniture, Ink, Toner, Cleaning Products, Electronics and Technology you need | Staples?

there are less 'boxes' on these though than the one i got so they would have to be really really really good to get a sticker LOL

it worked awesome with tyler's potty training!!!

maybe i was at office depot when i found the chart....lol...lemme check there

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these are more like the ones i have....it was a pad of like 30 or something.....

http://www.creativeacademics.com/imcharts.htm

i found them because we had been out shopping all day (go figure) and they were actually being good so i told them i would find them some stickers and right next to the little stickers were the incentive pads so i picked one up....lol

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I am more like Mel on this one.
First of all Owen is 4 .., he is going to have PLENTY of time in life for chores, working, cleaning, homework etc... I am going to let him be 4.
HOWEVER he is expected to do lots of things.. #1 he cleans up his toys ALWAYS #2 he picks up his clothes #3 he cleans his dishes after eating(adding them to the sink..not actually clean) #4 he helps me make laundry piles and he likes to take wet ones into the dryer.

When he is older he will have chores (no idea what age yet) but they will be basic for the good of the household type stuff.. and of course he is responsible for his "stuff" .

My kids will be proficient in several things upon leaving here for college: Laundry, cooking, basic cleaning
(I got NONE of this when I left home yeah I had to ask friends how to clean clothes.. NADA.. )

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I come from the same train of thought as Mel. I am however going to be implementing the "toy jail" idea. All toys must be picked up and put away before bed or they go in "toy jail" for a period of time. I haven't figured out if I'm going to do the whole next day, half the day or what - which is why I haven't started yet. C is good about getting his laundry in the hamper and doing other little things when we ask, like feeding the dog, or putting his clean clothes away. However we have been pretty lax on making him pick up but I think if I have something in place and make it a habit he'll just do it. He's a very routine child. When he's older he'll money to do fun things with friends, we'll buy him what he needs and some wants but in return will expect him to help around the house.

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When I was growing up, we had assigned chores, no allowance. I was allowed a certain amount of money a month (50) and from that I had to buy my clothes (other than what my Mom bought for back to school), toiletries etc. I will probably do something similar with my kids. We had cleanin Saturdays or Sundays (whichever worked out) when we were all responsible for doing our chores. Daily, my room was my responsibility and we had to do the dishes/sweep. I have started by asking the kids to help with the daily chores around the house - making beds, putting away laundry, sweeping (swiffering). So far its working. They hate picking up toys, but will do it with specific directions.

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Belle makes sure her shoes (and everyone else's because she's so anal) are organized and not everywhere. She puts her dishes in the sink and throws away trash, picks up her toys,puts her laundry in her basket, hangs up her back pack, puts away her clean laundry, feeds the dog, and she helps with vacuuming, cooking, and dishes. She also helps with Ben getting me diapers or wipes when I need them and some times new clothes. I don't think I intend to do an allowance but we will get them what they want within reason. Ben is starting to pick up his toys, but it's a slow process, boys.

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I have two different thoughts on this one. One, I agree, they live in this house and, therefore, should contribute to keeping it clean and I shouldn't have to pay them for it. Nicholas is responsible for cleaning up his toys, books, art supplies, whatever he has taken out, putting laundry in the hamper and putting clean laundry in his drawers, putting away his backpack, lunchbox, shoes, etc. where they belong so they are ready for school the next day, putting his dishes in the sink after meals and helping empty the dishwasher. He doesn't receive an allowance for those things, he lives here, he makes the messes, he helps clean them up. And as he gets older his responsibilities will grow.
On the other hand I want to teach my kids responsibility with money too. My parents always just gave us the money we needed for things, school activities, hanging out with friends, clothes shopping, all of it was given to us. Yes, I did chores at home and helped out, but until I got a job my parents just gave me money when i needed it. When I was 16 I got a job and then that money was mine to do as I pleased. I worked at a fine dining restaurant and made really good money compared to most of my friends and I blew it. I had to pay my insurance, gas for my car, bought my own clothes above and beyond what my mom deemed necessary and paid to do what I wanted with my friends and I was really wasteful with my money. The pattern pretty much continued into my 20's when I met my DH and he is a crazy saver and really good with money. He's taught me a lot. I want my kids to be more like him, buying a house at 24 with a healthy down payment, and less like me with maxed out credit cards at the same age. So I'm still trying to figure out a balance between the two.
sorry for the ramble, it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately!

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"brandifawn" wrote:

I have two different thoughts on this one. One, I agree, they live in this house and, therefore, should contribute to keeping it clean and I shouldn't have to pay them for it. Nicholas is responsible for cleaning up his toys, books, art supplies, whatever he has taken out, putting laundry in the hamper and putting clean laundry in his drawers, putting away his backpack, lunchbox, shoes, etc. where they belong so they are ready for school the next day, putting his dishes in the sink after meals and helping empty the dishwasher. He doesn't receive an allowance for those things, he lives here, he makes the messes, he helps clean them up. And as he gets older his responsibilities will grow.
On the other hand I want to teach my kids responsibility with money too. My parents always just gave us the money we needed for things, school activities, hanging out with friends, clothes shopping, all of it was given to us. Yes, I did chores at home and helped out, but until I got a job my parents just gave me money when i needed it. When I was 16 I got a job and then that money was mine to do as I pleased. I worked at a fine dining restaurant and made really good money compared to most of my friends and I blew it. I had to pay my insurance, gas for my car, bought my own clothes above and beyond what my mom deemed necessary and paid to do what I wanted with my friends and I was really wasteful with my money. The pattern pretty much continued into my 20's when I met my DH and he is a crazy saver and really good with money. He's taught me a lot. I want my kids to be more like him, buying a house at 24 with a healthy down payment, and less like me with maxed out credit cards at the same age. So I'm still trying to figure out a balance between the two.
sorry for the ramble, it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately!

I agree both are valuable lessons. One thing we have been talking about to start teaching the value of money and being responsible is how much things cost at the store, why we take care of our things - we want to make sure we keep our toys picked up because they cost money and we aren't going to be able to spend money to replace them if we don't care of what we have etc...

Also, when I worked in a marketing dept at a credit union one thing our PR/Event staff did was make "Save/Spend/Share jars with kids.
It taught kids to be responsible with their gift money, chore money etc....by saving so much, sharing so much with charities, church, those less fortunate etc...and then having some to spend. The spending money also was good for teaching the value of the $1. How far their money would take them and maybe they wanted to wait to spend their spending money for something larger. This is where they got the concept, but they just used materials to have kids make their own - that way they had more ownership in it to.

We plan to do this with C. We probably should do it sooner than later. Smile
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I like that. I have seen the jars done before too, but had forgotten about that. I think we'll be implementing something like that sooner rather than later. Thanks for the reminder!

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Owen got a giftcard to Toys R Us for his Birthday... this became a lesson. He had 40 bucks to spend or save.. he walked around over an hour picking out toys.. an entire cart full LOL we found a spot and I explained that he had this much money to spend and he had to decide what he wanted most.. and put things back. OR he could save some for the next time he wanted a toy.. it was a game to him.. totally worked. He chose a dragon talking toy and a Thomas Train to add to his collection and he saved 5 bucks Smile
I let him have free reign and buy whatever so long as it was under 40 bucks.. he loved the responsibility and decision making aspect of it all.

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We have been doing it for a out 2 weeks now I guess (or whenever I started the thread). He's doing really well with things. Some things have already become habit for him which is kind of what I was going for. I've also given him squares for behavior things though that is not officially what it's for. I think it being bit random keeps it a bit more interesting.

And sometimes he has said, "I don't want to do X so I don't need the square". Not super excited about that but it is what it is. And I notice he does it more when tired.

And when we have been at stores we have talked about how many squares certain things are. He hasn't asked to actually buy anything yet though.