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big boy bed question

Cyrus is still in a crib. Is he the last one?

JUST recently he has started to climb out so we need to get him in a bed/bed now.

Ever since we potty trained he is up once or twice a night to use the potty. (or maybe it is an excuse, . . but he does actually go . . and he never wets the bed, so that's good.) Since he is in a crib, he cries out . . .and wakes up Rocco. Which creates a nightly clusterF* where everyone is up and it sucks. I think getting him into a bed will help this also, but . . .

we (kam and I) are SCARED! Sometimes when he wakes up and we take him to the bathroom he is half-dead and nearly falls asleep while sitting on the potty. Also, we have been having a hard time getting him to sleep lately, and worry that a bed will make this problem worse and he will just keep getting up and out of bed.

  • Do your LOs use the potty in the middle of the night by themselves?
  • Do you have rules for if they need to get up? Do they have to call for you?
  • Have your kids got up and wandered around the house at night?

Thanks. I know most of you went through this, umm . .over a year ago Wink . .

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I was scared to DEATH! Bedtime for Landon has always been a nightmare! Takes forever...I am constantly going back in there.. yadda yadda yadda!

Big boy bed is MUCH easier!!!!!!!!!!

I highly suggest getting a red light/green light ...best thing ever! Now with the potty time at night you may have to just start getting him into a routine of trying to wake up before him?? and put him on the potty half out of it until he can hold it..

but you can set the light for the morning when they can get out! seriously, it is still a savior! everynight he "sets" his alarm!

love that damn thing

(oh and you can turn off the ringer so it is just the light)

they had it on woot for 15 Smile when I got it!
http://www.stoplightclock.com/

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I have to say that I am actually amazed that he is still in a crib...i can't imagine lyssa still being in a crib...she would have started climbing out long ago!!!

Do your LOs use the potty in the middle of the night by themselves? Lyssa actually has maybe 1 time had to pee in the middle of the night...usually she holds it

Do you have rules for if they need to get up? Do they have to call for you? she just comes walking in our room if she wakes up in the middle of the night....i think i prefer it that way cause then she won't wake up ty with her screaming

Have your kids got up and wandered around the house at night?
We have a baby gate at the top of the steps so she can't go downstairs although she has figured out how to unlock it....but she never wanders in the middle of the neat....as far as i know anyway she just comes right into our room and right to my side of the bed of course...lol

I bet he'll do fine...in fact he may find it exciting at first and he may surprise you and stay in there cause that's what he is used to with the crib...that's what alyssa did anyway....i don't think she even realized that she could get out on her own for atleast a month ROFL

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Wow, this takes me back to a very stressful time. I have high hopes for you. If Cy has made it this far in the crib, he must be pretty compliant. Wink

Jaxon is the type of little hellion boy who needs ZERO options. He can not leave his room, because there is a gate in his doorway, If there wasn't a gate, he'd be all over the house and bedtime would be a nightmare. The middle of the night would be dangerous if he was allowed the option of meandering down the hardwood stairs all groggy. He is allowed to get out of bed, open the door and call for me if he needs me, but without some sort of blockade, he would never stay in his room.

ETA: If he had the option, he would not come directly into our room, he would go straight away to someplace he knew he wasn't supposed to be, or do something he knew he waswn't allowed to do. One day I went shopping while they were napping and his gate didn't lock. DH also took a nap. Jax got out of bed and had the house a complete disaster. After a long time of investigating everyplace he shouldn't have been, he went into our bedroom and woke up DH, handing him a wooden figuring from Africa that he had broke.

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I was also petrified of the transition - but it was a breeze, seriously.

  • Do your LOs use the potty in the middle of the night by themselves? nope, she's still in a diaper at night.
  • Do you have rules for if they need to get up? Do they have to call for you? yes, she stays in her bed until we come get her. her room is right at the top of a flight of stairs and my DH is constantly worried about someone falling down the stairs. it took maybe two sleeps for her to 'get' that she had to stay in bed (we also don't want her playing in her room when it's time to sleep). thankfully, bedtime is almost always really pleasant and peaceful around here. it's the awake times that are nuts. lol
  • Have your kids got up and wandered around the house at night? nope, she's really great about staying in her bed. my question is at what point we tell her it's okay to get out by herself? 15 years old? 18? Wink
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  • Do your LOs use the potty in the middle of the night by themselves? NO
  • none of them ever did or do........huh......
  • Do you have rules for if they need to get up? Do they have to call for you? YUP...we have rules...in the beginning, noone is allowed out of bed on their own.....if they need something...they need to call for me or dh....if they take advantage.....they lose a priviledge the next day....usually their favorite tv show, or favorite pasttime.....no playdoh..etc....... now that abby has been in a bed for a year.....if i'm downstairs.....there is no need for her to ask to get out of bed......but if i'm still in bed, she needs to ask if she can go downstairs....if it is too early, she gets sent back to her room......
  • Have your kids got up and wandered around the house at night? never.......how lucky is that......i have never gated my stairs, i did use a gate on max's door for a bit......but it came down fast.....when he learned to climb the gate, the gate became more of a hazard, and when i took the "fun" away, he stayed in his room.......the girls just listen....i read them the riot act and they follow it, and i reread it everynight for a while......it wasn't like it happened over night.....it is constant reading of the rules before bed....but it worked!! LOL!!

good luck jp....i hope cyrus transitions easily. ETA: when i put them in beds........they were always sleeping through the night........and if they do wake up they just quietly walk into our room, too.........they do not yell for us .........LOL!!!!

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Ok, THANK YOU! all of these make me feel better. Well, except Mel's response LOL.

Peej, I had been meaning to ask you and Julie again about the red light green light. I think I will get one of those!

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We are actually just going through this with Ethan. He started climbing out of his crib and we moved him into a bed a week ago for naps and it's been 2 nights now for nighttime.

Right now for Ethan, and when the others were younger too, we locked/gated them in their rooms. For Joey and Mikayla we turned their door knob around so we could lock it from the outside.

  • Do your LOs use the potty in the middle of the night by themselves? Mikayla comes in our room and gets us to help her. Logan and Joey go by themselves and then will come get us. We usually just tell the boys to go back to bed.
  • Do you have rules for if they need to get up? Do they have to call for you? Nope, they come get us. If they were calling out in the middle of the night the whole house would be awake and that would not be good.
  • [*]Have your kids got up and wandered around the house at night? Not that I know of. It's dark in the house so I'm pretty sure that's a deterrent. They just come in our room.

    Mikayla's room is upstairs and ours is downstairs. I have no problem with her using the stairs in the middle of the night, when she's tired she sits down and slides down them on her bottom.

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    "I LOVE YOU" wrote:

    Ok, THANK YOU! all of these make me feel better. Well, except Mel's response LOL.

    Peej, I had been meaning to ask you and Julie again about the red light green light. I think I will get one of those!

    JP, our experience was a nightmare because Jax wasn't ready to be moved out of the crib. But, I felt like I was running out of time to get him out of the crib for a long enough period of time before Abigail was born. KWIM? In retrospect, I should have waited another month or two. I just wanted enough time to go by that he didn't think Abigail was stealing his bed.:confused:

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    My best advice is to come up with whatever plan works for you and STICK to it no matter what!! Obviously sickness is going to mess things up, but other than that the rules we have here are set in super hard stone, and might sound harsh but works for us. He must call for us at all times, no getting out of his bed on his own without one of us helping him. He does get up maybe once a week to pee, but usually wakes up dry with a tank of pee. If he gets up before his red light is off, he can call out, I'll check on him and depending how early it is, he has to stay in his bed. The 3rd night of the big boy bed he got out a lot, but now, the gate at the door is removed, etc. He's scared to get out of bed on his own, I believe, lol.

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    John Henry just moved to a bed a few weeks ago! He would crawl in and out by himself, but just didn't want to give it up. I finally decided I needed the crib for the baby and just told him he had to. He was fine...no getting up at weird times or wandering around. As far as peeing in the middle of the night...yep! Every night...right into the diaper.

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    • Do your LOs use the potty in the middle of the night by themselves?
      C isn't night trained yet so we haven't crossed this bridge yet. I'm guessing he'll either call out for help or come in and get one of us since he isn't very good at getting his undies/pants on by himself and he HAS to take them completely off to go potty. That's another issu
    • Do you have rules for if they need to get up? Do they have to call for you?
      We don't have any rules. We still use a monitor so I hope if he gets up I hear him. He VERY rarely wakes in the night but when he does he usually calls out. We have all doors to the outside secured so we know he can not get out of the house in case he would get up without us hearing him.
    • Have your kids got up and wandered around the house at night? No. (not that I know of) Wink

    I'm anxious to see others replies since we aren't night potty trained yet and know that comes along with some new things.

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    I will preface this with Owen is SUPER EASY to get to bed.. really we just say bedtime.. and he walks down climbs in and that is it.. we do read 2-3 books though.

    Bed is very easy.. at first we were scared he would wonder at night so we gated the door.. but no he just wakes up and sit son his bed and calls us... MOMMMMM OWEN IS AWAKE NOW!!
    LOL we no longer gate the door.

    Owen wears a pull up at night.. we tried sans diaper and it was a PITA he was waking more than the baby! so he is just not ready yet for it.
    first thing out his mouth every morning is "mom please take the pull up off" I would say 40% of the time he wakes up dry ... and here and there he will wake a night and yell he needs to pee.. LOL

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    On the day Anna turned three she announced that she was ready to sleep in her big girl bed by herself in her own room. (Until then we co-slept, on a mattress on my floor.) She has done this every night since turning three (two weeks tomorrow). She says she is ready to go to bed, says goodnight, climbs into bed, and goes to sleep. I am floored. I never expected this.

    She wears a diaper to bed but has woken up dry every morning except twice since March. She gets up in the morning around 7:30 and takes off her own pajamas and diaper and goes to the bathroom by herself. I am happy to continue like this!

    I can't stress enough how different each kid is. My boys were never this easy or independent. Theo will be five in two weeks and he still needs a diaper at night, still needs someone to lie with him until he falls asleep, still calls for one of us in the middle of the night most nights. They are just different.

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    "MaxiMamma" wrote:

    On the day Anna turned three she announced that she was ready to sleep in her big girl bed by herself in her own room. (Until then we co-slept, on a mattress on my floor.) She has done this every night since turning three (two weeks tomorrow). She says she is ready to go to bed, says goodnight, climbs into bed, and goes to sleep. I am floored. I never expected this.

    She wears a diaper to bed but has woken up dry every morning except twice since March. She gets up in the morning around 7:30 and takes off her own pajamas and diaper and goes to the bathroom by herself. I am happy to continue like this!

    I can't stress enough how different each kid is. My boys were never this easy or independent. Theo will be five in two weeks and he still needs a diaper at night, still needs someone to lie with him until he falls asleep, still calls for one of us in the middle of the night most nights. They are just different.

    WTG Anna!!

    A potty suggestion that a friend of mine had (we cosleep and he's still in diapers so I'm no help) but if you have a little potty, you could leave it in his room and tell him to use it if he wakes up in the middle of the night. If you trust him. My friend had the kids on a different floor of the house (without a bathroom on that floor) so she did that.

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    Delaney does not get up to potty at night. She still wears a pull up. Ocassionally she will call out to me and want to go, usually attempting to stall at going to sleep but I never tell her no even though I know she doesn't have to go.

    If she wakes up before us in the morning, I tell her to come get in bed with us. That's pretty much just on Saturdays. If she wakes in the night, she calls out to us.

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    We just took the girls out if cribs. It couldn't have gone smoother. I have a small potty next to the girls beds and the occasionally get up to use it. Miley usually just holds it. Irelyn is just not ready to be potty trained at night. But really I was worried, and shouldn't have been Smile

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    I guess we gotta just go for it. Really appreciate everyone sharing. I do feel better.

    Karina! That is crazy and awesome that Anna up and went independent over night. Wow. Are you a little sad and lonely? Smile

    Mel, yeah I totally get the push the make the bed switch prior to Abz taking ownership of the crib.

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    I got a lid for my crib so Harrison will be there until he's 20.

    Okay, no lid... but H is still in his crib. He sleeps so well in it and is not ready to potty train yet so I haven't seen the need.