So I think the twins, particularly Brian, are interested in weaning. I'm not ready, for lots of reasons... but I'm not sure how to handle it. Right now, I offer first thing in the morning, usually before and after naps, and right before bed. Both boys nurse first thing in the morning, usually once at some point during the day, and then before bed. Although, for the past several nights, Brian has refused to nurse before bed (or only tries for a few seconds and then gives up), so I've been going in his room right before I go to bed and nurse him then. Honestly, he's rarely interested in nursing aside from that sleepy feed. His side has always been my weaker producer and with the big decrease in nursing, my milk supply has just tanked. I do try to nurse him at times on the other side, but he's really just not that interested.
I keep reading that babies don't typically self-wean before 18-24 months or so, but what am I supposed to do? This morning, all 3 kids woke up at the exact same time and I ended up getting to Brian last, so he was pretty upset and not his normal sleepy and just waking up self - so he kept biting me instead of nursing. I offered again before his nap, but he refused.
I know I shouldn't take this personally, but I hate the feelings of rejection every time they refuse to nurse or (and this is almost as bad) they attempt to nurse for a little while but I can't get a let down fast enough for them so they give up. I feel like I should be celebrating the success of nursing twins for almost 14 months rather than feel like a failure for not being able to provide enough milk to make them happy and deal with the feelings of being rejected all the time.
So I guess my questions for those of you who let your baby self-wean - how did you handle their refusals to nurse without feeling like a failure? How long did you keep offering before giving up? And how long would you do a 'dream' feed like I've been doing with Brian before I go to bed? (one of my concerns with him is that I think the BM is helping him not be constipated and I worry that he'll have more issues with that once he fully weans)
And I have to confess, on a completely and totally selfish note - one of my big reasons for not wanting to wean yet is that I love the extra calories I get to eat! I haven't been this thin since before I got pregnant with Noelle and I will miss eating like a teenager again... just didn't want anyone to think my intentions are completely noble.