updated School-OT-Torn on what to do

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kristimcw's picture
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updated School-OT-Torn on what to do

update---left it to chance and he is staying in his original classroom. Thanks for all the advice and suggestions!!!!

They are making a new kinder class at our school. There are 31 students and two classes now and they are making them where they will have ten in two and 11 in one.

Wyatt tells me he doesnt want to switch, but tells DH that he does. DH at first was worried, but we met the new teach last night and she seems to be great.

Wyatt is similar to Colby, Jaxon, and Harrison when he was born thru three.

My gut is telling me to call and see if he can stay in the same class, but my mind and DH are telling me to just leave it to chance.

He is doing so well in school. I am worried that this change may set him back.

WWYD? Call to see if he can stay in his current class or leave it up to them?

luangwa's picture
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It's a hard call and I'm really not sure what I'd do if I was actually IN your situation. No one 'likes' change, but some kids are a bit more stubborn to the idea. I do not allow Jax to get 'stuck' doing the same exact thing, or let him create a comfort zone that he ends up refusing to deviate from orrefuses to explore other options. Playing into his hate for change is not healthy. I'd probably leave it up to chance, especially because he is not Autistic and he does eventually have to tolerate these things.

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you wouldnt worry about his grades suffering if he didnt adapt well to the change?

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i would be siked for the small classroom sizes.........and it's not like he is going to be with all new kids......he's gonna have 9 or 10 of his "friends" with him........and it's kindergarten..............does he really have "grades"??? if so.....i wouldn't even worry.....kids are so adaptable........it's us parents that "what if" the situations to death........i would just leave it up to chance..........

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I'd worry more about WHY his grades suffered from the change, not that they did. An emotionally healthy kid 'should' be able to tolerate such a change without too much issue. He is only in kinder, he has no previous experience to compare this to, he has absolutly no clue whether or not this is 'normal'. Even if he was in the 5th grade and had 6 years of class experience under his belt, his ability to learn should only be effected minimally before he got back on track.
The bigger deal you make of it, the bigger deal it will be to him.
Maybe I'm out in left field, and would change my thoughts about this if I was actually going through it.

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ITA that we as parents "what if" stuff too much, I know I do!! I think at this age kids are more adaptable, even if at first it's a struggle. Going from a larger to a smaller class I think is a great thing, he'll get a lot more attention, etc. I think talking it up, making it exciting, something special for him can help. I do think behaviors at school can be entirely different than at home as well....I know for a fact Colby is an entirely different child at school, things he goes ballistic over at home I've seen happen at school and he doesn't bat an eye. I'd trust the teachers and what they think Wyatt can handle, they know him best in the school atmosphere....if they think he can handle moving to a new class, I bet it will be just fine!

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In our kinder, they will be reading by the time they graduate kinder. He got 23 new sight words for this week. She wants to move him up to an advanced reading category.

not sure what other kinders do, since we have only been in this school system.

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When Bradley was in kinder they did the same thing to his class. I did what Julie mentioned with the whole talking it up thing. Made it seem way more exciting than it actually was. I bet he will do just fine, but you could always talk to the school about switching him back if he does not like it or doesn't adapt to the change well.

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I know every kid is different, but they also did this to Zacks class. They started with three and then had to add a fourth class. He had one teacher for two or three weeks, then a sub teacher for a few weeks, then his kinder teacher for the rest of the year.

His reading is awful. He is barely passing language arts right now. He hates reading!!

I just dont want the same thing to happen to Wyatt.

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i wouldn't worry about it kristi......it's an annual thing that he will have to get used to, and so will you......every year there is change...new teachers, new classrooms, sometimes even new kids......but if it bothers you that much.....call the school i'm sure they will accomodate any/all of your wishes, i know our schools are very easy to talk to , and will always listen to the parents.

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It is a hard situation. On one hand you want to teach them that they have to be adaptable. But on the other hand, they are still really young.

But, if he is going to have problems with change, maybe it is good to know that NOW when the grades don't really matter rather than middle school when everything is harder.

Unless I super loved or hated one of the teachers I think I would probably just leave it to chance.