What to do for new parents of a preemie...

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What to do for new parents of a preemie...

A firefighter at my husbands hall just had a little boy born at 25 weeks... We are not super super close with them but of course we want to help. What is the best thing we can do?
We thought frozen meals but realistically I think they'll be eating out a lot at the hospital. They have no other kids...
Brings tears to my eyes...

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Awe, that is so sad. I hope he will be ok. Such a long road, but can be done! I think you are right that they will probably be on the road/at the hospital a lot. What about gift cards to places near the hospital-coffee shops, Jimmy Johns, Subway, McDonalds? Depending on the drive to the hospital, what about gas gift card? Sorry, I don't have any other great ideas. I will say a prayer for them though.

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oh boy...25 weeks is so early Sad

My best suggestion is gift cards for restaurants near the hospital. The little guy is likely looking at a 10 - 12 week NICU stay...hospital food gets really old, really fast. The hospital that Tyler was in had a really good cafeteria...and we were still so over that food by the end of his stay. The gift cards will allow them to get out of the hospital, even for just 30 minutes...they will need that.

Do they live close to the hospital? If not, I've often heard other preemie parents talk about how gas gift cards were helpful too. We were only 20 minutes away, so I can't speak to that personally.

Other than that, anything that you would typically get a new baby still applies. People sometimes forget that she still had a baby - she'll still need clothes, bath stuff, blankets, etc. She won't need them for a while, but (God willing), he will come home...and she'll need to be prepared. Baby showers are still acceptable now that he's here - they just aren't for pregnant women Wink

It makes my heart hurt to hear of stories like this...and it instantly flashes me back to our own experience and raw emotions. I will keep your friends' baby in my prayers. He has a very long road ahead of him - he'll have good days and bad ones and they will feel like the ordeal will never end. But these tiny babies will surprise you with their resiliency and determination to overcome.

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Wow, so sad.

I agree with others. Gift cards to anywhere was so helpful when my dad and sis were in the hospital. Gas cards too!!!

Will be thinking of them!!

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Definitely gift cards/cash for gas, eating out, etc. Also people have given us rolls of quarters which was kind of nice for vending machines.

Driving back and forth to the hospital sucks. Do they have other kids? That's always hardest for us...finding a balance between spending time with the child in the hospital and the kids left at home to fend for themselves/farmed out to friends and family. If they have kids, I would also suggest a care package for them.

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Gift cards... that's perfect. I'll sew up some preemie clothes and get some cards.
Strong little guy is breathing on his own... Son of a firefighter... he's of course going to be strong.

Thanks guys. I will use your stories of strength to keep them thinking positive...

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My thoughts are with them.. what is the baby's name?

I agree gas cards or food cards are good...

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"chefkel" wrote:

My thoughts are with them.. what is the baby's name?I agree gas cards or food cards are good...

Little guys name is Jackson.

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Gift cards are best. Preemie clothes they can wear in the hospital are great too. Walmart (which I hate, but....) has the best selection I've found and their super cheap.
Thinking of them.

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awww my heart goes out to them. I couldn't imagine Sad

What about a night's stay at a hotel close to the hospital if they're not close? other than that I love the gift card idea and also the premie clothes idea.

Please KUP on the baby.

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Little guy is fighting... Saw pictures today of this tiny baby... size of the nurses hand. I tear up thinking about him and his parents. So far so good though. He's taking milk and hanging tough.

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Yikes, I can't imagine. When Max was born, he was kept in the NICU to clear his wet lung and he looked like a sumo wrestler (he was nine pounds) next to all the little premies in there...I hope Jackson is going to be OK...keep fighting, little man!!