Rough patch

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Flourish's picture
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Rough patch

I'll try not to make this long, but I don't really have anyone to talk to but you guys so I might just end up letting it all out!

Robb hasn't been able to find work for the past 10 months. He got a job offer from a company, and we were THRILLED. No more worrying about money, the kids would be fed, etc. 2 days later they revoked the job offer.

Now we're at the end of our rope. I don't know what we're going to do for rent in June. We would have JUST enough for rent but car insurance comes out in a couple days. gah! We just spent the last of our non-rent money on formula for the twins and food for us.

I hate to say this "out loud" because I have been thinking about it for a while and I think I just don't want to admit it, but it looks like we might be living out of our car in a month or two. I just don't know what else to do. We're applying for almost everything we can. We can't even go on Social Assistance because we have a car, but someone told Robb to look into an advocate who could help us get assistance - trouble is, rent is dune June first and so far we've had no luck contacting an advocate. The applications and forms all say 6-8 weeks processing time. Sheesh.

Anyway, I know you ladies are great for support and I could really use some virtual hugs right now! :confused:

Thanks for reading.

a's girl's picture
Joined: 06/10/07
Posts: 1008

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Do you have friends/family in the area that would let you camp out at their house for a little while? At least until an advocate can get you some assistance?

prynn's picture
Joined: 08/18/09
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Oh, no!! I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through a rough patch right now! :bigarmhug: I'm not sure where you live and how this advocate system works? Do you have WIC/food stamp options? My coworker is on both of those and she for sure has a car and owns a home and is still able to get them because her husband can't find work and they fall below a certain income requirement.

Are there any friends/family you could stay with until you get back on your feet? I know you must be freaking out right now! I will be praying for you guys!!

Flourish's picture
Joined: 03/08/10
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Thanks ladies :vibes:

There's the food bank, so we're okay for food if need be, but there's no way we can pay rent. Unfortunately, the only family around here I'd feel comfortable asking to stay with is my sister, and on top of her apartment being tiny, she has a dog (Silas is allergic Sad )

We're trying to figure out things. I think we might be okay for June. I just talked to my mom and she said she might be able to "top us up" so we can make rent. Let's hope that works out! It will buy us another month. If we can make June and July's rent, that's the end of our lease and we can move someplace cheaper. (Breaking the lease is $400, though they can't really do anything about it if we can't pay...) It's just bridging the gap that's got us stretched to the max right now. If we get evicted, well, ... we'll just cross that bridge if it happens... :confused:

two loves's picture
Joined: 06/15/07
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omg I am so sorry. I am not sure where you live but it just seems terrible that you cannot get a hold of anyone to help you, especially with the twins. Is there a shelter or something you could go to atleast instead ofyour car. hopefully your dh finds something soon. how terrible of them to revoke the offer, wtf!

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Joined: 01/04/07
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I am so sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine how hard it is having to carry this burden on your shoulders when you have two LO's to take care of. I really hope a job opportunity comes along for your husband. I'll say a prayer for you all.

Joined: 02/10/08
Posts: 485

Oh my goodness kim... I don't have any advice to offer, but am thinking of you and hoping that you are able to work things out for a month or two until you can find more assistance or that Robb is able to find some work soon!!

Flourish's picture
Joined: 03/08/10
Posts: 154

Thank you ladies, for all your prayers and well-wishes.

I'm pretty sure there's emergency shelter (thanks for reminding me). It's probably just a room, but it's better than the car.

I'm even looking for work now, though with my gibbled hip I can only look for jobs that are sitting... which makes it difficult! Right now it's a lot of - "if it's not one thing, it's another." :confused:

I'm trying to stay positive and am telling myself that something will come through soon. I think that hope and family are the only things getting me through right now!

hysimmonds's picture
Joined: 04/20/06
Posts: 82

Oh man, sorry about the hard times. It really does seem to pile up on us at the worst times! (of course there never really is a good time is there?)

I hope you can get some help asap regarding the advocate thing. Maybe they just say 6-8 weeks to cover their butts? We get WIC for the twin's food and it does help.... plus the switch to milk saves a TON of money vs. formula. When they needed the special preemie formula there is no way we could have managed.

BTW, what type of formula are you using? Maybe a few of us have some coupons we can send? Diaper coupons?

Lots of job vibes to Robb too!

hysimmonds's picture
Joined: 04/20/06
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Also wanted to add that if you have any extra/spare/no longer used baby items that you could sell that may help bring in some extra cash. I'm trying to get rid of some baby stuff myself for the $$.

natesangel's picture
Joined: 07/26/08
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was going to suggest the same thing as hannah sorry i can't help with coupons etc i just donated it all through my moms group but i know there are programs all over that can help with that. trying to remember where you guys are it's been awhile and i seem to remember you moved. totally look into assistance help again, that car thing sounds like crud if you ask me! there are usually emerg shelters that priority to moms/families, also here (canada) there's the hope mission, check in with goodwill, double check with you local public health link they can prob send you some info for where to go as well. as for you and a gibbled hip for work, check out the local job bank and ask about 'disability funded jobs' a lot of places now are working with government funded groups to assist ppl getting placed with jobs due to a physical/mental impairment, those employers then get supplemented to hire you. just a thought. good luck
:bighug: and pls kup if you can you will be in my thoughts.

Flourish's picture
Joined: 03/08/10
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First, thank you for all your support ladies!

Second .... I GOT A JOB. WOOO! It's not glamorous, it's fast food, but ANYTHING is better than nothing right now. The District Manager I interviewed with said they are DESPERATE for managers, and that if I can get up to speed (I've worked for them before a loooong time ago) I could be manager in a few weeks!! which means a pay raise too!! Yippee! :vibes:

prynn's picture
Joined: 08/18/09
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Yay!!! I'm so glad to hear that! When do you start?? I hope you make manager soon. That's awesome and I know it's such a load off your mind! :bigarmhug:

natesangel's picture
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Kim that's AWESOME!!!! WTG and congrats!!! and yes in these times any job is better than nothing, what a great attitude and good luck on management! KUP! how did you make out with assistance (groc, rent, etc)? how are the kids doing? YAY!!!

ash0110's picture
Joined: 03/22/07
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That is such wonderful news! Sooo happy for you! Biggrin

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Joined: 10/23/09
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Kim
Im so sorry to hear about all your trouble...I know what its like but luckily we were able to move in to one of my moms rental properties. My SO finally found a job after months and months of false hope opportunities. I can't imagine having twins and doing it. I've read some of your posts on facebook and your a really good writer - maybe you could do that on the side to bring in some extra $. (I imagine it would be hard to find time with the twins though) And as far as the assistance I know it takes forever, but Im a firm believer in nothing happens that we can't handle. Do you have a paypal account - send me a pm with your email and I could send you a little help....I know when its tough every little bit helps Smile

Joined: 02/10/08
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great news Kim! Hope you get the manager position and pay rise soon!!

Joined: 07/03/09
Posts: 309

Glad to hear things are looking up! we get just what we need, don't we? kup!