37 week apt

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37 week apt

so... was at the OB yesterday... baby is apparently HUGE!! She measured at about 4 kilos, which is close to 9 lbs! And 3 weeks still to go :eek: God help me.... When she told me the measurement I just started to cry...

Cervix is still long and firm, and barely a finger dilated... so I'm not expecting her to show up any time soon.

I have an appointment at the hospital on Monday for a check and to discuss possible induction - but I had that last time and they refused to do it so I'm not expecting much...

I don't really 'want' an induction - but I don't 'want' to wait for big baby to get any bigger either... blah...

I'm in such a bad head space about this delivery - every time I think about it, I just cry... memories of DS's delivery - an epidural that didn't really work, Oxytocin because things slowed down too much, an epsiotomy to get his BIG head out after an hour and a half of pushing, lying on my back, then the hemmoraging and related crap afterwards...
I know that being tense and worried about it, is NOT going to make this labour any easier, but I just can't get any positive thoughts going about this...

And I've got this massive back/sacrum pain that makes it so I can hardly walk most of the time - how the hell am I supposed to cope with labour if I can hardly move now?

blah....

sorry for the vent.. just needed to get that out...

k

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First of all *hugs* You definitely need them right now. It's like we're sharing the same headspace right now. My babe is showing up at 8lbs already. It's scary even if I know the u/s can be off by some ridiculous amount. I think the number was 30%? (But don't quote me on that.) Due to my pelvis I'm not even going to try to labor again (can you say 52 hours unmedicated last time?! ugh!) I really hope you are able to work something out that makes you more comfortable.

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Wow, I hope they're wrong on how big baby will be! And I really hope you don't have to go through anything like that again. Try not to stress too much about it. And don't worry, we're here for you to vent to!

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:bigarmhug: Yes, we are here to comfort you and to listen to your vents!! I really hope that the Dr is wrong. At my last appointment my Dr actually admitted that their measurements can be off, so I would try not to worry too much. I know, easier said than done! But, like you said, theres no use in you stressing! Just take care of yourself and try to relax some.

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Karen, that sucks that you are having to deal with all that. I am really hoping that this birth goes so much better than your DS's and I'm also going to hope that they are wrong about the size of your DD. That's crazy.

:bigarmhug: KUP on how things go at the appointment on Monday. And do what you can to get yourself to believe that this time will be different and better. Give yourself a good pep talk. Every delivery is different, this one will be great!

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Awl I know exactly what type of headset your in right now. :bighug: I am in the same place...

Just remember once you hold that beautiful baby girl in your arms all the pain will be gone and it will be the last thing you think about.

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I'm sorry you are in such a bad head space about this upcoming birth right now. Hopefully they are way off on their measurments. Have you seen a chiropractor about your back pain? I know that it might seem pointless when you are so close to the end but even 1 adjustment can make such a difference for you now and when your birthing time starts. I would for sure look into getting an adjustment now and then again right before your due date just so your not adding that pain on to your other fears. Also your DS helped to shape your body during the last birth so hopefully even if this LO is big there will be some extra wiggle room for her to come out easily. :bigarmhug:

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Thanks for the hugs etc everyone...

I have been seeing an osteopath to get my back/pelvis adjusted - seen him 3 times in the last month - it helps a bit for a day or two but then it's back to the terrible pain - he says my ligaments are just SUPER lax right now, and admitted that although he could put things back in place, something as simple as rolling over in bed would probably mess it up again...

I know that u/s measures can be off - but at the last 3 appointments the measurements have been staying on the same 'curve', so I'm thinking they're probably pretty accurate - they were definitely accurate with DS...

I've been trying to do things to get my head in a more positive space - been listening to my natal hypnotherapy for months - but I fall asleep every SINGLE time... so not sure how much help that will help me - certainly hasn't calmed me down any. Also doing a lot of reading about various Birth skills for pain control - but so much of that depends on being able to move, and when putting one foot in front of the other hurts so freakin' much, I don't see how I can put much of that into practice...

I just can't seem to get any 'positive' thoughts going... a few people have just said 'don't worry, just take the drugs!' - well that's all well and good, but my experience is that epidurals don't always work - so I don't even find that possibility reassuring - and knowing that once you go the epidural route - so many other things are more likely to be needed - oxytocin, episiotomies etc. etc... I just don't find it helpful to think about... and then you're basically 'condemned' to birthing on your back, which would be the worst possible position for me right now with the back/SI issues I'm having...

blah...

it IS reassuring to know that a few of you are also in some not so good head space right now though... so thanks for sharing that with me...

I just want baby to come as soon as possible, and at the same time, don't want to deliver at all... it's a strange situation to be in...

k

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vent away!