Thread: appt today

Had another midwife appt tonight, we finally met one of the other ones on the team (she owns the place). I didn't like her so much. She was focused on dh having a cleft lip/palate and us not choosing genetic counselling (even though it's only like 1% higher). She was telling us that it's more good to know ahead b/c if there were problems they'd need to get a different ped team to resuscitate. Ya ok that's reassuring THEN after I said no again she said that the 20week u/s was fine but she wasn't happy with the reporting. Lots of things weren't mentioned at all and apparently normally are and the ratio between the head circumference and the abdominal circumference were greater apart than they like to see so she recommended level 2 u/s. She was telling me this then saying I'm not trying to scare you so of course my normal emotional state plus my elevated hormonal emotional state I stupidly started to cry ugh I don't think there's a problem but still we're going to do the level 2 ultrasound in approx 2weeks. It's ok though I don't mind seeing baby again.

She doesn't sound very pleasant at all!! I'm sorry you had to deal with someone like that, especially a MW who should have the experience and empathy to know how to properly deal with pg women. Aren't MW's supposed to have a reputation for not being as pushy and test-for-every-little-thing oriented as most OB's?

I'm sure the u/s will turn out just fine, but yay for getting to see your itty bitty again! That'll be fun!

Wow I'm sorry that MW was kind of a b. I'd be real upset if that happened to me and I don't blame you for not doing the genetic counseling. She does sound real pushy too!

But hey at least you get to see your LO again! And don't worry, I bet if I were in that situation I would've cried...or began yelling at her lol.

Are you or DH of European decent (Italian/Spaniard/Portuguese/French ) at all? I ask because it is common for there to be a few differences in the head circumference, specifically smaller than other groups so it will often show a greater difference (like Scandinavian and so on which tend to be bigger) - Our US tech asked us specifically because they said a similar thing during our first pregnancy, but at soon as they found out that I'm Spaniard/Italian it was no longer considered a sign of anything, you know, other than normal standards for my specific ethnicity.

Hope everything is okay and it's something similar to my situation. Sorry the back up MW sounds like a big poop-head! Lots of hugs!

I think it's stupid that they are making such a fuss and potentially scaring the crap out of you for nothing. Your MW sounds more like an OB to me which is sad because the whole point of a MW is so you don't have to deal with that crap!

Bummer that the other MW wasn't so pleasent. I can't believe she made such a stink and upset you like that. I'm sorry you have to go through the extra worry and scan again but I'm sure you'll be happy to see your LO one more time. Hope you won't be running into that MW again!

thanks ladies, likely I'd see her again but if I understood right she won't be the one delivering she's more the baby midwife and will come towards the end.

Michelle I'm from England and dh is a few generations Canadian then I believe somewhere in Britain

I will ask my US tech when I go see him if the same rule applies to British Europeans for the head size, just cause now I am curious!

If you find out let me know I'm curious now too

sorry that appointment sounded like a bit of a downer. That's no way to scare a preggo! There are a few things I'm sick of hearing about at my OB appts too.. not like I didn't already know my body just fine, thanks. lol