boring appointments are good appointments!!

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boring appointments are good appointments!!

Nothing exciting at this latest appointment... Baby is head down, heart rate 150, measuring 30 cm at 32 weeks (which is normal for me..), gained 1 lb and bp of 100/70. Good to know that everything is ok, but a bit frustrating to have to go every 2 weeks when it seems like not much new info...

On a different note, any one considering letting older children be present either during part of the labour, or the birth?? My daughter asked, and part of me is completely ok with it, but part of me doesn't want to scare her... any thoughts??

Heather

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YAY for a boring appointment!

Since I'm doing a homebirth the girls will most likely be in the room unless they are sleeping - My oldest did just fine during my 1st labor, but since I had to transfer last minute she was not present for the birth.

They both know exactly what labor is like, we watch birthing videos all the time on youtube. They love birthing documentaries like "the business of being born" and seem to have no issues with the entire birthing process. We will continue to let them know what to expect but so far they think birthing is awesome and cool. My girls are ages 4 and 6 Smile and they both want to take active roles during the labor so they will be given tasks -- like handing mommy things, helping get babies things ready and so on. If at any point either of them become uncomfortable with it though they will have the option to go into another room or whatever they want. I pretty much leave it up to them.

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Glad things are looking good with your pregnancy!

Sorry, I don't have any input on having an older child there. Mine hasn't asked so I haven't really thought about it.

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Nice boring appointments are great! Love those!

I think it depends on you, how you raise your daughter and her age and maturity level. I'm not terribly sure I'd want to have my 18 month old in there with me because I think she'd freak out not understanding what is going on, but if she were going to be a little bit older when #2 arrives then I might be okay with it. I certainly don't want my daughter to grow up thinking birth is just a painful means to an end that must be treated like a sickness. I'd like for her to view childbirth in a positive light, so I hope that I can instill that in her. If we decide to go for #3 I'll seriously consider letting her be with me during the birth.

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yayyyy for a great appointment!

If my childbirth experiences had allowed for less concern/possible emergency care/risks/etc. I would likely want them there for at least parts of it. They are fully aware of how babies are born, that mommies have pain for parts of it, but it's worth it in the end. They also know that they were cut out of me (circumstances ended up being somewhat out of my control for the most part). For me, like Anna said, it would come down to age and maturity of the older child... and whether or not they have someone available who makes sure mom & birthing partner/personnel aren't too distracted.

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YAY for boring old appointments Smile

Honestly we're toying around with the idea of having our DD in the room when baby is born. She is REALLY interested in baby and him being born...I think it would be a good experiance for her. Obviously not going to let her be "down there" to watch since she's only 3 but maybe in the room....I just don't know!

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Heather, I feel the same way about my appointments, I'm literally in clinic and the room for maybe 30 minutes. And since it takes 30 minutes to get to the clinic, I have to always find another reason for being in town, otherwise I feel like it's a waste. However, I dont want a bad appointment, either! LOL

I can't input either on older children in the room since this is our first, but my DH brought up the other night how he wants our daughter to know how she was born and to know that childbirth doesnt have to be a big painful ordeal (excluding possible emergencies, because we all know that can happen). Of course, this puts more pressure on me to go thru the birth with no medication like I have been planning!! Smile

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yay for boring apt

for me I wouldn't let ds watch b/c not that I was loud per se but I know I wasn't quiet. He's 4, he is mature for his age but he gets concerned if he sees people in pain and he tries to help. The other week I stubbed my toe really bad and honestly just needed to take the time to recoup but he was very concered and hugging and kissing me

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My daughter will be one month short of five when the new little one is born. At the moment we are just going with following her lead. If she asks to come, then I think we will try to make that happen, but if at the time she is not interested and would rather go to her friends house then that will be ok too. I think because we have foster children coming and going from our house, it would be nice to have her at the birth to let her have that first connection and relationship. Guess this is a discussion that will be continuing in our house!
Thanks for all your ideas and opinions... gives me lots to think about,

Heather