Boys name and Dh!

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Dixiemom1st's picture
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Boys name and Dh!

I am bit frustrated with DH and our boys name. A long time ago he suggested Emerson and I liked it. He never really came up with other names for this baby or our previous 2. I came up with the names and he approved. So I had thought we settled on Emerson Paul. But now he is on this kick about how to shorten it, he still likes Emerson but his family has this thing with shortening names and adding an. ..ie or ..y sound (like calling Coleson.... Coley, which I hate). And he does not think you can really shorten Emerson well, which I think is great. Maybe Emers as a nick name but most of the time it would stay Emerson. So here we are less then 2 wks out and our boys name is up in the air. I can't think of anything I like better then Emerson. Our boy name for DD was Ryan Paul but I like Emerson better, so do not really want to go there.

He also told his aunt and she did not really like the name. This is why I do not like telling people names before hand, so you do not get their opinions, once they are named and it is done they keep their mouths shut. It is not like it is a crazy out there name.

I hope he comes around soon, I liked knowing we were done with names.

Just had to vent!!

fittoac's picture
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You could call him Em for short. How incredibly annoying about his aunt. I honestly can't fathom a situation where someone tells me the name they've chosen for their child and (regardless of how I felt about it) my response was, "I don't like that name." Are you kidding?? How unbelievably rude! You either compliment the name if you like it, or be diplomatic and give a neutral response if you don't! Who insults someone like that!? Now, if you tell someone the name you're thinking of and then directly ask their opinion, that's one thing. But unless the opinion is requested, it's rude to be negative. Ok, off my soapbox. Smile

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"fittoac" wrote:

You could call him Em for short. How incredibly annoying about his aunt. I honestly can't fathom a situation where someone tells me the name they've chosen for their child and (regardless of how I felt about it) my response was, "I don't like that name." Are you kidding?? How unbelievably rude! You either compliment the name if you like it, or be diplomatic and give a neutral response if you don't! Who insults someone like that!? Now, if you tell someone the name you're thinking of and then directly ask their opinion, that's one thing. But unless the opinion is requested, it's rude to be negative. Ok, off my soapbox. Smile

I completely agree!!!

If someone told me they didn't like the name for any of our kids I would tell them tough, it's not their kid and their input wasn't asked for! I have a friend who just had her baby in Dec and named her Aspen. I thought that was a pretty name, and it's not one you hear. One of my other friends went off about how it's "trying too hard to be different" and "too out there". I figure, hey if the parents like it, more power to them. Although I guess I would have an opinion if they named their kid Apple or something (lol). Oh celebrities...

Anyway, I like the name Emerson a lot. And I also like it better than Ryan Paul. Hopefully your DH will come around and give his input on things ha ha. Esp since LO is due so soon!!!

cuppycake77's picture
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If your family is anything like mine, they will try to mask their distaste for a name by saying, "oh, that's different" or "I have never heard that before". I don't know which is worse, being rude flat out or bad at faking their approval. For what it is worth, a close friend of mine's son's name is Emerson and he is adorable.

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I like the name Emerson! If your DH doesn't like the name then he needs to realize you only have a couple weeks and that he will be responsible to answer to any of his family members when your child doesn't have a name after two days of being born! Lol.

I hope he comes around! Good luck!

MrsRiggert's picture
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Ok I am so right there with you in the "frustrated with DH" boat! DH wanted the name Weston...I didn't like it because my cousin has a new boy named Easton but then I talked to her and liked Weston....DH said he changed his mind.

Most recently DH REALLY wanted Everett...as in "Oh I love this name it's THE name". I wasn't too sure about it (I like Emmett better) but said "Ok, Everett August it is" Well guess who doesn't think he likes Everett now?!?!?!?!?!

MEN!!!!!! GRRRRRRR!!!!!

AnnaRO's picture
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People don't always have filter when it comes to baby names. DH's family thinks it's their job to offer opinions about names. When we named DD and told his family my MIL and SIL tried for weeks to get me to change it and kept suggesting other names. In one conversation with SIL long before I was ever even pg the first time, I told her I liked the name Kolton. She totally went off on how 'people' would call him Kolt for short and that was a horse, not a person. And then she actually started neighing like a horse!!! So when we did get pg, I wasn't never keen on telling her names I liked.

I hope your DH comes around soon. My DH did the same thing with our boy name. It was one that he had picked out when I was pg with DD, and this time around I still liked it, but then he started getting wishy-washy about it. But we finally decided we weren't going to agree on any other names. I'll admit that I kinda kept pushing the name we'd already picked. I like Emerson, in part because it's difficult to shorten. I think it's a great name and it's not super common.

jolly11sd's picture
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That is so frustrating and his Aunt is not helping anything.
When my DS1 Ryland was born one of DH's aunts called him Ryan for months because she didn't like the name we choose. I was so annoyed and corrected her all the time until she finally just dropped it.

I think Emerson is a great name! Gosh, I'm trying to think of ways you can shorten it for a nickname. Maybe "E" or "Em" or "Emmy" (maybe to feminine).

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How annoying for you! I hope your DH makes up his mind, soon. FWIW, I love the name Emerson, too.

We didn't tell anyone DD's name until after she was born. Will do the same this time. We're completely open to people providing name suggestions - I love that - but when we pick the name for real, that's for DH and I to know and everyone else to find out when we introduce him to the world.

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"AnnaRO" wrote:

And then she actually started neighing like a horse!!!

I'm sorry, I couldn't help but laugh at this! What kind of grown person would do that?

My in laws (if they were still in our lives) would definitely push their opinions and suggestions on us. Because they "knew what was best" about everything (eye roll). At least with my family, if they don't like it, they'll discuss it with each other and not me lol. Although my mom likes our son's name (I did tell her and my gma at Christmas time). Their only questions were how we were going to spell his name.

Again, I really hope your DH starts thinking real hard about names if he's serious about wanting a different name. I'm just glad that once DH and I settled on a name, he wouldn't change his mind (at least with a boy's...if we were having a girl I think we would've still been discussing it since he didn't like most of the names I chose, and the one he did like, someone in his company just named their daughter that! Savannah BTW).

Good luck!

mommyof1.5's picture
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First of all, I have to agree about the neighing, and the other attitudes you guys are talking about. GEEZE!

If someone wants my honest opinion, and they are truly asking for it, I'll respond with my own personal taste, but I *always* preface my opinion with the fact that I don't judge them for picking a name I wouldn't. I am very specific in how I choose names, and I don't expect everyone else to be..

With that being said, who says that you *HAVE* to choose a name that can be shortened/sweetened? Some people purposely pick names so that they CAN NOT be shortened, and I think it is perfectly fine to insist that your child is referred to by the name YOU want, if it's important to you. If not, go with whatever, but as in choosing a name, the nickname choice doesn't have to be up for grabs either. UGH I dunno if I'm just a hormonal mess (well, I know I am actually), but people are driving me NUTS lately when they act entitled to tell me how I should be doing things or not... Ya know?

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I can't believe how rude people can be. I mean, if they don't like a name, then they should keep their opinion to themselves. If you brought it up, then you obviously like it. I ran into some negatives about names early on, but then I decided I wasn't going to say anything or ask for opinions. Then the day DH and I agreed on a name, we just started calling him his name and at that point people were like 'Oh, so you've picked out a name?' Yup, so keep your trap shut!!

Sorry you're having frustrations, hope things work themselves out quickly!!!

Dixiemom1st's picture
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DH and I talked again, he wants to keep Emerson but maybe change the middle name to John or something with a J so that if the kid does not like His nicknames he can be called EJ. Which I am not crazy about but I am not as attached to the middle name as I am to the first name. So we will work something out. And now I am wavering on our girls middle name, we had picked out Emma Nicole, but I am not sure I want/ need her to be named after me, so we will see.

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They could just call him Emery, but I would kill people. Not because it isn't cute, but because I put a lot of thought and process into naming my children and I despise it when people try to shorten or change it. I have always chosen names that are difficult to shorten and make sure their initials don't go well together (no P.J's J.R's and so on) hahaha

It's a pet peeve of mine. I do however think it's totally fine if other people do it as long as they like it. I am really happy that neither of my girls like being called by nicknames, they get VERY angry at anyone that attempts to shorten their names lol

If you always call your son by his given name, he may turn out like mine and ask people to please stop calling him "whatever" and to say his name properly.

PsycheGal's picture
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Emma is one of my favorite names of all time.