Do any of you ladies still do date nights or anything like it?
My DH and I have been together almost 3 1/2 years, married almost 2. In all that time we seriously have only had THREE date nights. (I don't count the times we hung out at his mom's house when I cut college classes to spend time with him).
He and I were talking about it because we wanted to do a date night when visiting family over Christmas but since we brought a bad sickness with us (lol) the first week we were there kinda went down the drain with everyone getting sick (DD1 gave it to us, who gave it to my younger brother, then older brother's fiancee, then older brother, then dad, then mom...one a day!) Anyway, we had our first official date a week or so before he left for boot camp (we were dating over a year already!!) and second after he got back from boot camp and the 3rd was the Marine Corps ball (if that counts).
My thing is...it's my fault we don't go out! I get too uptight leaving the kids with anyone! Even family! We will be out for maybe an hour when I begin to worry! I dunno what it is. When DD1 was younger and before I met DH, after DD1 was asleep I would sometimes go out to the movies or hang out with the guy I was dating (this guy I dated off and on for 2 years so it wasn't like a "guy of the moment" thing). I worried some, but not as bad as I do now.
Nothing traumatic has happened in that time. It's not that I don't think the person watching the kids would allow them to fight or favor one over the other. I just worry that something is going to happen to them.
Am I the only one like this? DH is a little upset because we were talking about our friends going out for their 2 year anniversary tonight (they have a 4-5 month old son) and how he said we're probably never going to go out again or any time soon because of how I am. Although part of him being upset could be because he's mad at a character in a movie we just watched (LOL) (the dad in Orphan, if anyone has seen it).
But have any of you felt this way before? And if so, do you still? How do you get past it?
At the ball, we were gone 5 hours and I wondered the whole time about the kids! I had fun but couldn't fully relax!!!