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Desmond Update

Yesterday Desmond has his weight check. He is 5960 g and 63 cm long. No idea where my phone is to convert that to lbs and inches, but I know he's 13 lbs and like 11 oz I think and like 24 inches maybe. Anyway, he is still in the 3% and he has another weight check Sept 11. (sigh)

His dr said he likes how strong Des is and how smiley and happy and that he does have a few fat rolls and stuff, but he discussed it with other pediatricians and they came to the conclusion that if Des doesn't "up his weight" by next appt then there's a good chance they're going to admit his to the hospital to run tests to see why he's "not gaining enough". I almost cried. They wanna take blood and they'd have to put a catheter in and all this other crap because they fear "failure to thrive". I have to make note of everything he eats and how much 3-4 days before his next appt (how long he nurses for, how much baby food he eats, etc) so they can do a calorie count. I'm also bringing in my statistics of what I was as a baby (I was actually smaller than what he is now at his age) and my girls stats as well. I looked and they were all about that size. So I'm really worried and upset that they may do that. I'm trying to see if my husband can get that morning off to come with us in case they do admit him.

I get that they wanna rule things out, but I don't wanna put him through all that BS when it's just most likely gonna be that I produce small kids that end up growing later. I'm all freaked out and worried about it. The dr did suggest giving him baby food more often and maybe that'll help boost his weight some. So I bought a Baby Bullet today (for $20!) so I can start making lots of baby food.

Hopefully they're happy with his weight next appt. Honestly, I thought with him gaining over a pound in the last month they'd be happy, but not good enough. UGH! I'll keep everyone posted on what happens.

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This kind of thing really ticks me off, as a BTDT mom. Hasn't he ALWAYS been small, in the single digits? As long as his percentiles are staying consistent, he's FINE. He's on HIS curve, not somebody else's curve. The 5th percentile curve is there because those babies exist and are healthy. Not every baby needs to be 50th percentile.

In Desmond's case, because he is so strong (sitting already!, if I recall your earlier pics) and happy, the only thing I would watch out for is his head circumference chart. Is his head circumference percentile staying consistent, or is it dropping? My DD1 dropped to single digits in weight, but they didn't officially diagnose failure to thrive until her weight dropped to zeroth percentile and her head circumference dropped from like 70% to 30%. The doctor didn't want her brain growth to be shortchanged.

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Honestly I have no idea about his head. They didn't say anything about it. As far as I know his head matches his body lol. They said he was going along 50% then dropped to 30% by 2 months and at 4 months was 3-5% where he still is now.

When I was a baby I fell off the charts completely but they told my mom as long as I was still gaining steadily then I was fine. Ha I went to kindergarten at 35 lbs LOL! I've always been small and my kids get that from me. Plus I know DH has an extremely fast metabolism.

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Found my phone.
He is 13.13 lbs
24.8 inches

Okay so I guess I read my phone as 13 lbs 13 oz lol.

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Cammi was 12 lbs at her appt a couple of weeks ago. My dr said she wants to see her gain more weight. Im feeding her plenty and she's developing great. I am not happy that the dr is not happy with her weight. My mommy instincts know that she's healthy. I hope that Everything goes great at Desmond's next appt!

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Somebody has to be in the 3%. If all babie were in the 50% then that would become the 3% because it's based on an average of all babies his age. I agree that he's on his curve and he seems super healthy to me. I want to advise you to not take him back there and find a new pediatrician. Is that an option? It's so stupid that they are planning to put him and you through all of that hospital crap when he seems perfectly healthy. If there was something wrong with him, you would know, you are his mother. He is hitting all of his milestones waaaay early too. Kole is HUGE, and he isn't even rolling over yet. He doesn't sit by himself yet either. I bet Des will be one of our first walkers, and it'll be extra cute because he's so tiny.

If you do go to that appointment, I hope they take all your info into consideration and don't admit him. I think it's completely unnecessary.

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I think a lot of the pediatricians around here are like that. There have been others that said they went through the "baby is too small" thing but they just had small babies. His dr said that he wanted to see all the stats from my girls and me to help rule out any problems. A lot of babies around here are really big (like chubby and long). I think they're more use to seeing big kids and then when I walk in with this little guy they worry and think he must not be growing good enough. My husband said we may just need to go get a 2nd opinion, but we'd have to pay out of pocket and I dunno how much it would be.

Not only that, but I don't want him to go through something like that and be traumatized and scared of the dr so young. I'm pretty sure if it was something like that, he would remember when he went back. I know people say babies forget, but I think with certain things they would remember.

I guess they just don't like small babies ha. I'm thinking of everything to gather together to bring with me so I can get them off our backs. Although, if I had had a different dr there's a good chance they would've admitted him on Tuesday.

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I don't get why they are freaking out. He just about doubled his weight in 5 months. Aren't they supposed to triple it in 1 year? He's breastfed and they tend to grow slower after 4 months or so.

Maggie was only 1 lb heavier at 4.5 months and 25.5" long. Doesn't seem like much of a difference.

Either way, try not to stress. Remember, you CAN deny the tests if you truly feel there is nothing wrong. Maybe suggest they do a stool sample analysis first to check the breakdown. They can possibly see if he's losing too many nutrients , etc.

My son was the same as Desmond and is still tiny. At (almost)4 years old he is only 32lbs and 37." They are talking about growth hormones etc and it is silly. *hugs* hang in there!

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Umm, your "little guy" is bigger than any of my kids were at that age. My DD is 2 yrs old and 30.3 inches, and 23.?lbs. She has never been on the charts. Some kids are just small, and there is NOTHING wrong with that. A friend of mine's daughter went through all sorts of testing, and other things, because she hasnt ever been on the graph for weight... all these tests, poking and prodding, and so on... just to be told that nothing was wrong, that shes just going to be a light person.

As long as he is gaining (even if its not by their standards), is thriving in every other way, its probably just that hes not going to be a big kid. My oldest was considered failure to thrive at the begging, today he is a thriving 6 year old, and is now in about the 40 or 50%'s. Kids grow in their own time, and own pace. Drs need to look at the whole picture when it comes to a child. Hang in there mamma, do your research, and just remember, Dr's are humans too and dont always know it all. Its ok to say no, or ask for a 2nd opinion (maybe someone out side of that practice, if possible), and go with your gut.

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Lurking as well... MY DS is now 25 months, almost 26 and he is hovering around 23.5-24 lbs which at his 2 year appointment he officially fell off the chart. He has been consistently in the 2-7% range since birth. I would honestly prefer a 2nd opinion with a growth specialist before allowing my DS to be poked and prodded. My pedi is a growth specialist- so we lucked out. He always reminds me that me an DH are small people so we cant expect to produce a line backer. lol. I believe at my sons 4 month he was about 12.4lbs. So yours at 13.13 seems much higher than mine! Hugs, and Definitely seek all your options. I saw follow your mama instinct. But to me he sounds like he is doing just fine.

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If you're not doing it already, I would feed him some avocado. They are high in healthy fats and will help him to put on some weight. My little guy was born in January and at his 4 month checkup he was 14.4 lbs and 24 inches. He was in the 75th percentile at 1 & 2 months, dropped down to 50th percentile at 4 months and by his 6 months checkup he was in the 25th percentile. The Dr. said to bring him back in 7 weeks for another weight check and said that she wanted to do some testing if his percentile kept dropping. He didn't care for baby cereal at all, so I started giving him mashed up avocado with fruit for breakfast and he loved it. I feed him avocados every day for breakfast. He had his follow up weight check last week and he gained 1.6 lbs in 7 weeks. The Dr. was thrilled and said that she is no longer concerned about his weight as he is back on his curve.

:bigarmhug: I hope everything works out and that he does not need to be put through all that testing.

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I gave him some avacado! He is okay with it, but likes his apples and bananas more lol. I'm gonna try to get him to eat more tonight though. his appt is Tuesday!

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As long as he is hitting all of his milestones on time or early I wouldn't worry.

Laryssa my first is only 42 lbs and 48 inches tall she just turned 9. We have been there done that with her. She was 7lbs 15 ozs when she was born at 36 weeks (GD baby) at a year old she only weighed 14 lbs, 2 she was 18 lbs.... They swore something was wrong, called child protective services on me, I ended up supplementing her with formula at 6 months due to them swearing that my breast milk wasn't fatting enough... stupid me I believed them and was worried I was hurting my child. Ended up she is just small and will probably be very small her whole life. The testing wasn't that bad and she definitely doesn't remember any of it and it did give me a peace of mind that she was completely healthy and there was nothing to worry about. Would I do it again, probably not.

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That's what Desmond's dr was saying...he wasn't sure if my milk just didn't provide enough fats. (Lol I've already donated a bunch of milk to people too! So it better be lol)

I think it's just that he's a small kid. My girls are tall and thin now and back when they were little they were around his size. I was smaller as a baby! I was 11 lbs and something oz at his age! And the drs were fine with it as long as I kept gaining.

I'm just scared they're going to try and make me let them do tests on him just to prove what I already know - that he's a small child.

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Yea that is what they did to us the Dr said I needed to have these test done and what I refused they called Child Protective Services on me saying I was refusing my child medical attention and then I pretty much got scared into the tests. I was 21 and a young naive mom...

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That's part of why I wanna make sure my husband can go with us because maybe he can be my rock and say no. I just don't want him to go through that.