Did any of you hear Michelle Duggar had a miscarriage? They went to find out the sex of their baby today and found out it had no heartbeat. She was due in April like the rest of us, so could you imagine?
I kind of have mixed feelings about this. Not necessarily towards them, just about this situation for anyone. I understand their religious beliefs and all that but I saw an episode years ago where it seemed like she was competing with some amish family who had more kids than she did. So, sometimes it seems like to me that she craves the attention of having so many children. Also, the kids are taking care of each other more than she's capable of doing.
Anyways, that being said...a miscarriage is hard on anyone. Regardless of how many kids you have, you still love them all and grow to love them as they are growing inside you. Especially with me coming so close to losing my baby a couple weeks ago, I feel her pain. It's just crazy to think she was as far as she was when she lost the baby. I almost wanna say, "Gosh, don't you think this is a sign that 19 is enough" but beliefs (especially when it comes to religion) is a hard thing to look past when making the decision in TTC no more. I just hope she's not still trying because of the attention. That is the WRONG reason to have babies!!
I just saw this on Yahoo, and am heartbroken for the family. I do follow their family in their show and I've read their books. I think I follow mainly out of curiosity, (but I guess who doesnt) but their love for God and others is humbling. Although I would never judge on how many kids someone wants to have, when health for baby and mom becomes a danger, you would think and hope that mom and Dr. would make and become aware that maybe not having anymore kids would be for the best.
Well, even with her sickness and how early she had Josie, she defended her 20th pregnancy by saying you don't give up just because there were complications or it was difficult. That the life of a child is too precious to not try again despite previous mishaps during pregnancies. So, I really don't think this is going to stop them. However, it was a miscarriage that had them make the decision to keep going no matter what in the first place. Maybe it will take this miscarriage to help them decide to stop. I'm just really afraid that they are so close to 20 that they may decide to keep going. I just hope this doesn't hurt her health-wise. There have been women who have had more than 20 though...so I dunno.
I am heartbroken for her and the family. It must be so hard for everyone in that family to find out that there was no heartbeat. I completely support their right to their lifestyle choices. It isn't my place to judge, just as I wouldn't want anyone judging my choices.
Lyla 10/06/10 ~ Kole 04/06/12
I have a friend that when he and his wife went in to find out the sex of their baby (she was 18 weeks I think) they found out there was no heartbeat. I was so sad for them and their loved ones. And I could never imagine how hard that was for anyone to go through because a lot of people feel once they hit 2nd trimester they're out of the woods. It was another reason, other than my m/c at 6 weeks, that I waited so long to tell my family. I feared the worst, and I still worry and still always check for bleeding when I wipe and if I feel like I haven't felt him move in a while I push my tummy to see if he kicks.
It's so sad that this happened to them. I kind of wonder how far along she was since they're calling this a miscarriage and not a stillbirth. So she wasn't 20 weeks yet right? So scary.
I'm not too "for" them having more kids only because I did read an article one time saying how the old kids take care of the younger ones and in my opinion the children won't get enough one on one time with their parents. However, I have also read that the kids are very respectful and such so kudos to them with that. But if this is what they feel they should do, who am I to say it's wrong? I just know I personally wouldn't want to be pregnant most of my life ha ha!
I hope they recover from this because it is heartbreaking.
It is a heartbreaking situation!! I pray that there family heals quickly. NO matter what choice they make its there choice. I agree with other posters, tho its not my job to judge!
I don't know how far along she was. I tried finding an exact due date but all I could find was that they were expecting in April. I think we are all past 20 weeks, right? So that means she would have been too...I think.
And I feel ya, Katie, on the checking or blood every time I pee. I was 18w5d when I had blood and tissue. I'm still on bed rest but there has been no more blood and he is very active. I get freaked out when he hasn't moved in awhile. We've been very lucky and are very blessed! Just thinking I might miscarry this far along was disheartening. And like you said, what got us the most was the fact that we were past the first trimester and thought we were in the clear. In fact, the doctor told us the very first time we heard the heartbeat that since we heard it, there was less than 5% chance of a miscarriage, so we thought everything would have been okay.
Anyways, regardless of anyone's situation...my heart and prayers go out to them. Like I said before, I just hope she doesn't hurt herself just to make it to number 20.
Last edited by adcinhae; 12-09-2011 at 12:44 AM.