Prayers and Support Please

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Prayers and Support Please

Hello! I am new and just introduced myself here. Sorry to bring an issue so quickly after introduction but I know this board can be a great support system.

Ok, the issue I was talking about...
My previous two pregnancies were normal as far as no abnormal cramping or bleeding. This pregnancy has been great until about a week ago. I started cramping and it wasn't normal cramping...I felt like I was about to start my period. Thursday I noticed brown discharge like old blood. I ignored it for the time being because I didn't want to ruin Thanksgiving and there was no other symptom. That night, I started having downward pressure and cramping. I told DH if one more thing happens, then Im going to the ER. The next day, I decided to check my cervix. I became a "pro" at this from checking it while TTC both 2nd and 3rd pregnancies. I scrubbed my hands, made sure my nails were short, and checked. It was SUPER mushy. I have NEVER felt it that soft...EVER. Then I noticed the bright red blood, which was a lot (TMI alert) and a chunk of tissue or blood clot that was about an inch long, inch wide sitting in the toilet. Im positive I did NOT scratch myself and I was very careful with what I touched.

I went to the ER. They did a sono and babies heartbeat was 148. I asked the sonographer if she could see if my cervix was open or closed and she said that is one of the things we are checking. When we were done, she said the radiology physician will interpret the pictures and report to my ER doctor. The ER doc said radiology doc said everything was normal and that there were no comments about my cervix. Im ASSUMING this means it was closed. ER doc said if it's open, a miscarriage is inevitable. If it's closed, it could still go either way.

Monday, I tried to schedule a follow up appt but my doc said there really is no point in poking around in there and possibly making it worse because it really won't give us any answers anyways. Oh yeah, and the bleeding has stopped and the cramping has mostly stopped. However, there was slightly a bit of brownish (old blood again) discharge today but it could just be leftovers. I am on bedrest and pelvic rest atleast until my next appt, Dec. 20th.

Obviously we are very scared. My family could really use some prayers. We already know his sex, have felt him move, and have named him (well, we have a middle name...the first name we have narrowed down to 2 names but leaning towards one). The ER doc said there can still be a heartbeat if you catch it early enough because the actual miscarriage will not occur until 3-4 days later. We are on day 4 now and I'm still feeling him move.

Does anyone have any experience with any of this? Every time I think of something it could be and gain hope, I remember how mushy my cervix was which is a sign labor is coming. I refuse to check it now because that area is a complete no touchy area now. But I would like to hear of similar situations where everything turned out to be ok. Anybody got any?

Thanks for reading all of this...especially when you don't even know me! Smile And thanks to everyone who is able to help or sends a prayer my way!

KET_2010's picture
Joined: 08/13/11
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First I am so sorry this is happening! How scary that must be!

I don't have any experience with any of that. However, the brown blood was most likely just old blood, esp if you had sex a day or two before hand (sometimes I bleed some after sex, and it's very scary, but DH always calms me down). Also you could've bleed just by poking around down there. I know before after an exam at the dr's while pregnant I bled.

I'm glad to hear the cramping and bleeding has pretty much stopped. The cramping may be braxton hicks contractions. I went to the ER a few weeks ago for horrible cramps that felt like they could've been contractions. They never found out what happened and it hasn't happened since.

Try to relax some and try not to worry. KUP with how things go and how you're feeling too!


Joined: 01/16/07
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welcome to the board.
Can't help with personal experience sorry but ((hugs)) for what you're going through.
Glad to hear you're still feeling him move, sounds like a great sign.

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I'm sorry you are going through this scary time. Sad I don't know anything about the clot or bleeding but I may be able to help put your mind at ease a little regarding the mushy cervix.

My first son was born 6.5 weeks early following premature rupture of my membranes at 33 weeks. It wasn't known why that occured and I hadn't had any cervical checks prior to that point so it left me concerned about what could happen in subsequent pregnancies and I had fears of incompetent cervix. I also became very familiar with checking my cervix while TTCing my second (that was TTCing for 2 pregnancies after a loss at the end of the first tri). I was very nervous during my pregnancy with my 2nd DS just coming off a loss and not knowing why I didn't carry my 1st son to term. Anyway, I tried not to do it often but did check a few times during my pregnancy to try to put my mind at ease. What I found wasn't calming at all because it felt exactly like you described...very soft and very had never felt that soft during any checks while TTCing. My doctor was watching me closely due to my history and they did a few US along the way to check my cervical length and watch for any dialation. Everything was always fine even though what I felt was concerning. DS2 arrived perfectly healthy at a few days shy of 37 weeks. I can also tell you from all this I learned they have to do a vaginal u/s to be able to tell you anything accurate about your cervix. I agree with your doctor that it wouldn't be a good idea to poke around in there for an u/s at this time.

I'm sorry I can't help with information on the bleeding. Have you already had your 20ish week u/s? If you have and all checked out fine with the baby that is a really good sign. I can assure you based on my experience what you felt when checking your cervix was normal and not an idication anything was wrong with it. As mentioned by PP's a pregnant cervix can be very sensitive and sometimes prone to bleeding like if strained due to constipation issues or disturbed from DTD. I know it's so hard with all the unknowns right now but do try not to worry. I'll pray for you and your babe...I do hope everything turns out just fine. :bighug:

krazykat's picture
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I had lots of cramping early on and just after Thanksgiving. As usual, make sure you are getting even more water than you think you need.

Did they check for a UTI? This can make everything wonky down there, and the symptoms when you are pregnant can be totally different, or you may have none at all.

Pregnancy makes your cervix soft, and it can change with each pregnancy. A first time pregnant body and cervix may be nothing like a third time pregnant body and cervix. When you are not pregnant, the cervix should feel like the tip of your nose. When you are pregnant it will be softer like if you puckered your lips up to give a kiss, which is much softer feeling than the tip of your nose. Your cervix will thin before it dilates, so in the u/s they were probably measuring the length of it. Your finger would slip easily into the center if you were beginning to dilate.

Just hearing the babes heartbeat drops your chances of m/c significantly. I have never heard that the baby's heart can still beat after you are miscarrying. As far as I have ever read or heard, as long as there is a heartrate, then the pregnancy is still viable.

In any case, I can see how this would be extremely frightening. Drink lots of water, rest, and stay away from your cervix! I would probably ask them to test you for a UTI, etc at your next appointment, though I would be really surprised if this wasn't the first thing the ER checked for. I'll be thinking of you and your little guy. Keep us posted and big (((HUGS))).

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Oh and I forgot to ask, did they mention where your placenta is? A low-lying placenta can cause some spotting/light bleeding. This is the first time my placenta has been anterior and lower, and this is the first time I have ever had light bleeding in a pregnancy. I've had spotting before like with implantation, but never light bleeding further into the pregnancy.

mommyof1.5's picture
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I have no relative experience in this arena, but I will definitely be keeping you and baby in my prayers! It is so unnerving to always wonder the "what if" stuff, instead of allowing yourself to relax and have a happy pregnancy.

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When I was 17 weeks pg with DD I had some bleeding and went to the ER. The ER doc eventually informed me that I had placenta previa and that I had a 50% change of m/c. I was put on pelvic rest and told to go home. At me next appt with my OB 2 weeks later, my OB told me it was nothing but a subchorionic hemmorage and that my baby's chance of survival was at least 80%. I spent two weeks freaking out and crying a lot thinking that after TTC for 2.5 years my baby might not make it.

If you heard the heartbeat and saw the baby move on the u/s, I think there is every chance that he will make it. I know that you won't be able to help but worry, but try not to. And remember that m/c this late in pregnancy is very rare. You will be in my prayers and I hope you get great news at your next appt.

Joined: 10/02/07
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Thanks everyone, your words have helped to give me hope and I definately appreciate the prayers.

Lynn, thank you SOOO much. Every time I would think something that would give me hope, I thought about how mushy my cervix was and would get freaked out again. It's good to know that it could be completely normal.

As far as some of the other questions you all asked...
My placenta (I dont remember the term my doctor used) is very high and on my left side, wrapped around to front and back. My doctor told me (before any of this happened) that there would be no cause for bleeding related to my placenta because of its position.

Yes, the ER tested for a urinary infection and everything was a-ok there.

At my very first appt, when they did the pap, my cervix did bleed a bit. It has never bled during an exam and my doctor made a comment that it apparently doesn't like to be touched. However, it has never bled after DTD or any other time. Besides, it had been more than a couple days since we DTD anyways so I know the bleeding last week wasn't from that.

I am 19.3 weeks now, so no I haven't had my 20 week ultrasound. That is actually scheduled for Dec. 20th. I'm very anxious to have it done!!

Again, thanks everyone. I really do feel a bit better.

youngmom08's picture
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Just wanted to send some extra prayers your way! Keep us updated on how your appt goes on the 20th.