should I go to ER?

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should I go to ER?

I've started bleeding. It's dark, dark red. There was a small blob in my underwear late last night. I put a pad on, and besides a small strip of blood in the pad, its not soaked, but when I sit on the toilet or wipe, more blood comes out. Not a lot, not bright red... but I'm just so certain I'm losing this baby. I NEVER had any of these problems with DS. I never had spotting after sex. I even had a pap smear and not even a drop of pink blood afterward. I've done nothing that could have caused this.

I don't have a doctor. I was scheduled to see my midwife today at 2pm. IT's an hour and 20 minute drive. If I've miscarried, I don't want to waste the gas.

I really, really, really dislike the doctors at the local hospital. But I just want to know if there's a heartbeat or not before I drive an hour and 20 minutes. I'm only 6w 5d, so either way I'd not likley hear it on a fetal doppler, so the midwife really couldn't help me today. And if I go in to the hospital, I'd have to go in alone, because I wouldn't want DS to have to be dragged along to the hospital, and I DON'T want to go to the hospital alone.

I don't know what to do. Sad

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I am so sorry you are going through this.
Can you not call your midwife and see what she says...she may be able to get you in early to see someone who can give you a reassurance scan or something.

Is your hubby with you now?
You're not on your own are you?
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Hubby is sleeping. I can't sleep anymore, so got out of bed. He got up with me everytime I did in the night, and was still wiping blood. The last time we went back to bed, I could hear him crying silently.

I had a dream that I had a US and heard the heartbeat. Then I woke up, wiped, and more blood. And now I refuse to go back to sleep. No more stupid dreams that just get my hopes up.

I could maybe ask my best friend or my sister to go with me to ER or drive further to an urgent care, so I'm not alone, since DH would have to stay home with DS.

I'm just so angry. Stupid teenagers go on to pop out babies they don't properly care for every stinkin frickin day... and here I am..

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Oh God...I am so so sorry that you and hubby are going through this.
I know I have said that...its horrible..I totally understand how you are feeling.
I have been in this situation too.
I am hoping that you are one of the ones who bleed and everything is okay.
I have a friend who was bleeding so badly she was sent home to m/c..yet at a scan a week or so later there he was all happy...they still don't know what the bleeding was and hes a happy almost 2 year old now!

I would go to ER if I were you just so you relieve the stress a bit by knowing you are being pro active on it.
After all added stress isn't good for baby at all.

I know its not fair that some people have it easy and don't even care for their children...
Huge hugs to you...wish I could help you more.
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I'm so sorry and I do know what your goingnthrough because i am also bleeding. Sad it really sucks. I would go in for sure and get a scan. It will get you out of thins lingo and wondering. You should be able to see the heartbeat on a scan if baby is ok. Hugs, and please go in. Maybe call you midwife and see if she can get a scan set up for you if not go ER.

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I'm so sorry you're bleeding. I had bright red and dark red bleeding with DS2. Are you cramping at all, or just bleeding? I bled for a few days,but didn't really cramp, and it turned out I had a HUGE subchorionic hemmorage with him (which is blood around the placenta). It took quite a while to resolve, but after the initial bleeding my body just reabsorbed it. I'd call the midwife and see if there's anyway she can check you and get an ultrasound. If not, I'd go to the ER. That's where I ended up inititally with my bleeding as it was over a holiday. My baby boy is now 16 months old, so don't lose all hope yet! Good luck, and keep us posted!

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We've decided to go in to our midwife appointment as usual. This morning probably even as I typed this, it all turned to brown and now I have normal discharge.

I did have slight cramping, but it came along with a loose bowel movements. Since I've been pregnant, that's how most of my bowel movements have come, so I don't think the bleeding is related.

Also, it wasn't much as far as "bleeding" goes. Besides a small, small streak on the pad, I never bled into the pad. Not all night. It was just when I'd pee or wipe on the toilet it'd come out.

I still felt slight nausea today...w hat an odd feeling to be THANKFUL for that! My lower abdomen still feels firm. My breasts still swollen. I've been reading to pass the time until its time to leave for the hour and 20 minute drive.

Depending on what midwife says, if she can arrange for u/s or tells us to go urgent care to get immediate ultrasound, we might still go to urgent care tonight. I just really don't want to be in the cold, sterile, insensitive hospital environment.

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:bigarmhug:

How scary. I HATE the ER with a passion I cannot put into words. That being said, I think I would go just to find out one way or another. I will pray that you get to hear that heartbeat and the bleeding is just the little bean sticking real good.

KUP, please.

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"tessa_s212" wrote:

We've decided to go in to our midwife appointment as usual. This morning probably even as I typed this, it all turned to brown and now I have normal discharge.

I did have slight cramping, but it came along with a loose bowel movements. Since I've been pregnant, that's how most of my bowel movements have come, so I don't think the bleeding is related.

Also, it wasn't much as far as "bleeding" goes. Besides a small, small streak on the pad, I never bled into the pad. Not all night. It was just when I'd pee or wipe on the toilet it'd come out.

I still felt slight nausea today...w hat an odd feeling to be THANKFUL for that! My lower abdomen still feels firm. My breasts still swollen. I've been reading to pass the time until its time to leave for the hour and 20 minute drive.

Depending on what midwife says, if she can arrange for u/s or tells us to go urgent care to get immediate ultrasound, we might still go to urgent care tonight. I just really don't want to be in the cold, sterile, insensitive hospital environment.

The bleeding that you are describing sounds a LOT like what I had at 17 weeks with DD. Mine turned out to be a subchorionic (sp) hemmorage. Basically an old blood clot that got pushed out at the uterus grew. Hopefully that's all it is for you too.

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I'm sorry you're going through this. Spotting is so scary. I hope it's nothing and your babe is safe and sound. GL at your appointment and KUP!

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:bigarmhug: so sorry you are having to go through this. KUP after your appointment

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Lots of thoughts and prayers for you:bigarmhug: - hope your appointment went well!

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I hope everything is ok

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So sorry your going through this. Hope all is ok.

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Bleeding has stopped, and discussed ultrasouund with midwife. She basically said I had two options: wait and see, this means waiting how many weeks until we could hear heartbeat on fetal doppler - or - ultrasound to see heartbeat.

I really wanted to have a more natural pregnancy. I wasn't planning on an early ultrasound.... but I think this warrants one. No, it won't prevent anything bad from happening.... but... it will really help to ease my mind to see the heartbeat. The only problem is that it is such a long drive, and since it was an afternoon appointment, she wouldn't have time today to send in the order and me get home in time to go to there.. so she'll send it next week, but even so, I cannot go in until Friday because that is my only day off. So, it'll still be an entire week of some uncertainty. I'm already feeling calmer. As long as there is no more bleeding, waiting a week I think I will survive.

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I agree a US is a good move. To bad you have to wait till Friday. I am glad you feel better about it, hopefully everything is ok.

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I'm so sorry you're going through this but I'm glad the bleeding has subsided! I hope things go well in this next week and you're not too worried. I'll be thinking about you!

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Glad to hear that the bleeding has stopped. I think that the u/s was a good choice just to help ease your mind. Sorry you have to wait till Friday but it is good that you are feeling better about it all

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Sorry you have to wait for your u/s. But I just wanted to say that what you're describing is VERY much like what I had at the beginning of this pregnancy and it was a subchorionic hemmorage (sp). Go to the bathroom and have blood (sometimes bright red, sometimes brown, sometimes pink), but NOTHING in the pad. And no or only very very slight cramping. Scary as hell but common.

Mine lasted all through my first trimester, then right at 12 weeks I had a HUGE clot come out (I just KNEW the pregnancy was over at that point). Went in for an emergency u/s and lo and behold, the SCH was gone and the baby was healthy and I haven't had any more problems since then Biggrin

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What an odd sensation, to both be happy and hate puking all at the same time. This morning was officially the first time I've vomitted. And whileit sucked and I was whining and crying, I was also relieved to see pregnancy symptoms becoming stronger!!!

I did have some more really dark red/brownish come out when I wiped after a bowel movement, but that's it. It wasn't a continuous bleed. I probably just *TMI* pushed out some old/leftover blood from the bleed the night before.

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Sounds like my last pg. I had a lot of bleeding throughout, ptl, small for gestational age, etc. He made it to 37 weeks and is a head strong little boy.

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I'm glad the bleeding has stopped and you're having stronger pregnancy symptoms. GL at your u/s and I hope you see a strong heatbeat!