for us to adopt the little girl we've always wanted and not have anymore kids of our own?? I am pretty sure we are D.O.N.E. having our own children, as pregnancy is not really my friend and this will be my third c/s in less than 4 years. I am just wondering, does it make me an awful and selfish person to specifically adopt the little girl I have always wanted instead of having any more children of my own??