Okay so.. as you all know, Julie won't sleep on her back. I've tried everything from propping her on her side to placing something that smells like me in there with her. She hates being swaddled, her hands HAVE to be out or she gets pissed! She sleeps fine on her stomach and she's had excellent head control since day one, so I let her nap as long as I can obsessively check on her. But I don't let her sleep like that overnight. She sleeps with me - and we've been on the couch for almost a month (and I've been on the couch for more than that because I couldn't get comfy in the bed at the end of pregnancy). I know sleeping on the couch with her isn't advised, but the way she positions herself to sleep doesn't worry as much as her sleeping on her stomach.
SO, anyway.. last night I was rocking her last night and I told DH that I needed to sleep in the bed. My back hurts constantly. So of course, he was like..put her in her crib! I said it's not that easy. But she was asleep so, I took her in there and placed her on her back and of course she woke up immediately. I picked her back up before she could start crying and rocked her some more. I placed her back in the crib within five minutes, expecting her to start to cry. That was at 845. We went to bed at 930. I couldn't sleep because I kept thinking I heard her..lol. She didn't wake up until 11!! I didn't get much sleep - she definitely didn't sleep the same amount she would have with me on the couch BUT I DONT CARE!! I could have danced a jig across the room when I heard her at 11. That's a little over two hours of HER BEING ON HER BACK! I GOT TO SLEEP IN MY BED!! We finished out the night on the couch, but I'm still super psyched!!
Great that you got some rest.
I have such a hard time with all the recommendations and how they change so much all the time. I have had both girls on their back and worry to try different but I do wonder how it worked for all the years with babies on their bellies. Obviously there is evidence of why they make the changes and I know we all hate when the older generation tells us how they did it etc but sometimes I wonder... This is the case for me even with things other than babies.. Coffee is good for you, coffee is bad for you... A glass of wine a day is good.. A glass of wine a day is bad.... How are we ever supposed to live lol
Aimee, I've been arguing with myself since she was born about her sleeping arrangements. My little brother (who is now 20) slept on his stomach. That was the way they did things back then. Put them down on their stomach and turn their head. I remember putting him down for naps (I was 10). Plus I slept on my stomach, DH slept on his stomach etc etc. Yes, babies have died from SIDS..but I think babies die from SIDS on their backs too. MY personal opinion - I'd rather have her on her stomach, my thinking is that if she spits up I'd rather her be able to get it out versus being on her back and getting choked on it. But - I'm trying on her back because *now* that's what we're supposed too do. It's insane. In the next few years they're going to come out with we need to let the babies sleep upside down on their heads. lol
Haha totally agree! It is the same with a lot of the recalls. At one point the bumbo was recalled for people using it in the bathtub... Ummmm well yeah a kid could die that way but not a need for a recall when 99%of us moms would never use it that way... As a parent sometimes I feel we get judges for doing what our gut tells us but I am glad you can make the call yourself. I struggled big time with rear facing carseat with DD... She was long and still is and her legs were so scrunched but everyone kept saying that it wasn't uncomfortable. She hated the car from infancy and screamed all the time. It made rides a nightmare!!! Well we turned her around at a ill over a year and the world became a better place as far as the car went!!! It got me thinking that she may have been car sick because on trains if I sit backwards I get soooo sick! Now she loves the car and I am glad I went with my gut
I do believe SIDS has gone down quite a bit since the back to sleep campaign, but I know some babies just won't sleep on the backs and there's not much mommas can do about that! It's preferred, obviousy, but sometimes you do what you have to do. Emma spends a part of her night on a huge, fluffy pillow, which is obviously not advisable, but she will immediately wake up if put in a flat surface! It's great that she slept on her back and even better that she fell asleep on her own! I'd keep trying it if I were you!!!
Yay for sleeping in your own bed and her sleeping on her back!
Henry is a side sleeper. I'm amazed at how much body control he has at 5 days old. He can roll over, its wild. He can undo a swaddle blanket in 5 seconds or less...and I tie those things tight. I do worry about him not sleeping on his back. But I wake up enough to check on him that I hope he is ok.
I totally agree, it's really up to you. I know there are all kinds of recommendations, but nobody can tell us how we should raise our children.
My first slept on his stomach. He was in our room for only the first eight weeks or so and he loved his stomach. I'm wondering if this one will too because he doesn't like sleeping flat on his back.
You do what YOU feel comfortable with. Do you have her in your room? I wouldn't feel bad at all putting her on her stomach especially if she is sleeping right next to you in the crib or whatever. But that is totally up to you mama!
I think the reason for all of the recalls (I remember one for the Bumbo seat that required them to now issue everyone straps so the kid wouldn't fall out because people were putting them up on tables and stuff - something that had already been prohibited on the product) is because of lawsuits about babies being hurt. Babies and kids rank high on the safety scales and since people will play the "my precious innocent baby" card instead of the "I'm just a dumb parent" card, companies and the gov't/CPC or whatever it is, etc. are obligated to be EXTRA EXTRA careful when it comes to that kind of thing.
ETA: Oh and one thing you could do if it makes you feel better is to get one of those Angelcare monitors that will sound an alarm if the baby stops breathing or even just a video monitor so you can check on them.