Great advice Alissa! I can totally see me being too attached and not wanting to let him cry, but your right, really what is it hurting if its only for a brief moment. And haha about going to the bathroom with baby, that does sound awkward. LOL.
I'm pretty sure I tried going to the bathroom while wearing dd1! But yeah, I like what Alissa said. I actually feel I am much more mellow about DD2-I'm not sure if its because I've BTDT and don't worry as much or if its because DD2 is less needy to begin with or maybe my mommy instincts are worn out-I remember with DD1 when I would take a shower, I would "hear" her crying the whole time, even though when I would turn off the water to check, she wasn't actually crying and DH would be like, no, she's fine. I was just hearing it in my head. I also couldn't go more than a few minutes without checking on her if she was lying down in another room sleeping cause I was so worried she might have stopped breathing or something (not that I got to leave her in another room much anyway since she wouldn't sleep if she wasn't being held) With DD2 I don't imagine I hear her crying and I can leave her for an hour or two long nap and maybe only check on her once or twice. And when she does cry, while I certainly don't leave her crying, I will finish up what I am doing if I need to, rather than drop everything at the first little bit of fussing.
Hehe, I often am nursing and going to the bathroom... but it's not because he will cry if I take him off; it's because it's too painful to take him off and relatch him! :ROFL:
I would echo others in saying that you will probably break down a few times because you just don't know what to do/can't do it, etc. Just encourage your hubby to be supportive because it's really all they can do. Let them take the baby if he's crying for awhile just to give you a break.
And every baby is different so what will work for one baby won't work for another.
Maybe the worst advice I've gotten (don't tell my DH this!) is to use the "Babywise" book to train them. I did do it with my first and he's always been a great sleeper; didn't do it too much with my second and she wasn't awesome. HOWEVER, I don't think every baby can be strictly scheduled and you have to be able to give a bit - especially when they're itty bitty. I have to admit, I do try to not nurse them to sleep and do a eat-wake-sleep schedule but it's just ingrained in me I guess. But you have to realize that they're not going to always do what you want. I would get *so* stressed out with my son when he would go "off" schedule and things would get messed up. It's okay! Just roll with it! :D
I don't know that i've gotten bad advice from anyone.
My suggestion is this....stay calm(even when you feel like you can't be-like those midnight feedings when your just exhausted and baby thinks it's a cool time to be awake) because it won't last long and this baby stage is over before you know it. Cherish those times. I have to remind myself of that on the nights Kylie wakes up and doesn't go right back to sleep after being changed and fed. She is our last, so I keep telling myself we don't get to do this again and she will eventually sleep through the night!
And always remember like PP's have said every baby is different, so don't stress yourself out over what is and isn't working. It's a learning process and you will eventually figure it out.