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    Ok.. need some advice since there seem to be more on this BB than my own who are having showers.

    My coworker brought it up back in November/December. I agreed and expressed how awesome that would be.. but never brought it back up just in case she changed her mind. She brought it up again in early January and wanted to start working on it but hasn't said anything again.

    A girlfriend who did DD's shower 10 years ago wants to help out - I told her the coworker hasn't brought it back up but passed the friend the coworker's phone number so they could talk. (To which coworker said "ok" when I told her).

    It's currently 1/21/13. My shower is planned for Saturday, 3/2/13. So over a month away.. But I'm already having people ask where the invites are! lol.. They want to arrange baby sitting.. or start buying stuff.. get off work etc.

    Is it my business to ask what the planning status is? I feel that's butting in and that I've kinda already overstepped my boundaries with allowing friend to help co-worker.

    What would you do??
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    Oh oh!!! Call on me !!!!

    Okay, so.. I had a friend that wanted to throw me a baby shower. We talked about it before Thanksgiving, I told her I wanted it at the end of January or beginning of Feb so that I can have time to save up to buy anything that's not given to me. She was completely on board.

    I didn't hear a peep after that. In early January, my mom brought it up...so I expressed to my friend that this needs to get moving. .....still nothing. SSSSOOOOO I completely took the planning out of her lap and dumped it in my MIL's and mom's lap. She called my (my friend) and was all like, omg! I so wanted to help! I'm thinking.. no you didn't. I haven't talked to you in a damn month because you have your head so far u.... actually, nevermind that's going on a rant there.

    My point being this: YES, bring it up. Ask about it. Totally blame it on someone else like.. "So and so just needs to know when she needs to start looking for a babysitter."
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    I think I might casual ask over lunch tomorrow is the friend had a chance to call her.. we'll see what happens with that statement. I HATTTTTTE stepping on toes! LOL!!
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    I don't think it's stepping on toes! I would just do like Jessica said; just say that some people are asking about details so they can start planning for child care and whatnot, and see what they say. I'm sure your coworker will be happy to tell you all about it.
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    I do not see any problem bringing it up but also feel it is still early for invitations to have gone out. Typically 3-4 weeks is usually the time frame. We just planned an anniversary party and sent them super early due to holidays and we got a lot of negative comments that it was too early which shocked us.

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    I think it would be fine to ask what the status is. You could say something like "when should I send you the addresses for the invites?" I even offered to help my friend, who is hosting mine, with addressing envelopes and such.

    I think invites typically get sent out about 3-4 weeks so people don't forget. I already told my closest friends the deets so they can put it on their calendars. But my invites haven't gone out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by eliann View Post
    I think it would be fine to ask what the status is. You could say something like "when should i send you the addresses for the invites?" I even offered to help my friend who is hosting mine with addressing envelopes and such.

    I think invites typically get sent out about 3-4 weeks so people dont forget. I already told my closest friends the deets so they can put it on their calendars. But my invites havent gone out
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    This is where I'm at right now. I've let 90% of people know when it is.. other than the people that are out of town and certainly won't be able to make it. Most everyone knows! So it shouldn't be a huge deal..
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    I'm partially hosting my own shower. How rude is that? Haha. It will be at my place. My friend that is hosting lives over an hour away and I think people wouldn't be willing to drive so far to her place. So she agreed to host at my place, but she also has a 7 month old and a 2 year old, so I know it will be difficult for her. So I'm totally willing to do food and stuff. I kind of like hosting things anyway. I'm not really into games, so that's one less thing to plan.

    I think it could be fun, because I hope to have the nursery done by then and can show it off to my friends.
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    There's still time for invites, but I don't think it's rude to ask her to hammer down the date and time because some of your friends need to secure baby sitting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by eliann View Post
    I'm partially hosting my own shower. How rude is that? Haha. It will be at my place. My friend that is hosting lives over an hour away and I think people wouldn't be willing to drive so far to her place. So she agreed to host at my place, but she also has a 7 month old and a 2 year old, so I know it will be difficult for her. So I'm totally willing to do food and stuff. I kind of like hosting things anyway. I'm not really into games, so that's one less thing to plan.

    I think it could be fun, because I hope to have the nursery done by then and can show it off to my friends.
    I think we share the same issues.. I'm helping with mine, too. lol.. It's at my house. There's plenty of space which hers doesn't have.. and since we'll already be home there's no lugging gifts back. She was happy with that but said I would not be allowed into my own kitchen. HA!

    Haven't talked to her yet.. so we'll see how the day goes.
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