A baby story

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A baby story

I've only ever watched this show once. And it was a LONG time ago. I just flipped to it...and ... this stupid show has me in tears. When they have the baby and get to hold it.. I just pray I can make it that far.

They're all talking about what an immediate difference it makes in your family and how hard it is the first week or so. I'm seriously scared, but more excited. I can handle it! (Ladies, in a few months when I freak out about NOT handling it...remind me of this post! LOL)

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You CAN handle it. You're going to be a great mom! You seem to always want to take care of the people around you...that is a great trait in a mother. Smile

Having a new baby is scary though. I was scared to death of Tristan when he was born. I seriously couldn't believe those maniacs at the hospital would just send me home with a fragile newborn; I didn't know anything about babies!!!! Plus yes, they totally change your life. And the no sleep thing is really hard. But soooo worth it. You are going to love being a mom, I know it! Smile

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

I seriously couldn't believe those maniacs at the hospital would just send me home with a fragile newborn; I didn't know anything about babies!!!!

Haha, I have a feeling I'm going to be the same way. I hold my friends newborns, but I'm still so scared when I do. I love love love babies, but I'm also afraid of how fragile they are.

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"eliann" wrote:

Haha, I have a feeling I'm going to be the same way. I hold my friends newborns, but I'm still so scared when I do. I love love love babies, but I'm also afraid of how fragile they are.

I was never really around little babies when I was a kid, so I took all of these baby classes at the hospital so that I would be prepared. I guess I was prepared, sort of, but not really. Like, mentally, I knew the basics like how to bathe a newborn and how to change a diaper, but I was still scared to death of him. LOL!!!! I think that is going to be one nice thing about having a second; I don't think I'll be nearly as scared that I am incapable of keeping this baby alive. LOL

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Erm.. not really making me feel confident here!! I was 10 when my brother was born and I did EVERYTHING. Fed him, changed him, held him... mom always told me that I'd be a great mom when I grew up. So.. I'm constantly going back and thinking I'll be okay because I did okay when I was TEN. LMAO

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You can do it!

I believe it is all about expectations. Expect it to be challenging, but not impossible! Expect to be awake every few hours, expect to have to work at nursing, expect to be totally in LOVE!

Do some preplanning to alleviate the stress. Maybe do ahead a meal plan for that first week Make a plan for visitors (we told family no visiting, it would have been too stressful for me since I feel I have to entertain). Empower your DH on what he can do. Mine was in charge of output those first few days. Smile He also prepped our meals and cleaned up so I could rest or nurse.

I was terrified of dropping Sam when he was first born. He was soo small and wiggly!

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You know, the thing is, they're not nearly as fragile as they seem. We're always so terrified of dropping them or whatever ... and then you'll get a million posts about someone's baby falling off the bed or the couch or slamming head first into the coffee table and the baby is always fine. They're amazingly resilient against most of our terrible parenting mistakes, lol. Believe me, if my kid is alive and isn't brain damaged by now, you'll do just fine!

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Jessica - you're way ahead of where I was if you were taking care of your brother when he was a baby. I was four when my only sibling was born, and we never lived close to cousins, and I only ever babysat older kids (potty trained only) so I had never even changed a diaper before I took the hospital "Baby care" class. Clueless!

I agree with Joan though - they seem like they're made of spun glass, but they are actually pretty darn resilient. I can't even tell you how many times T has fallen down and slammed his head into stuff, and he can still write his name and is figuring out math, so I guess he didn't damage his noggin too terribly. Lol

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You should watch Bringing Home Baby (not sure if it's still on). I like it way more than A Baby Story (which usually makes me want to hurl, it's too dramatic). But it focuses on the first few days after they bring the baby home and gives you a look into what it's like to have a newborn!
The first one is hard, not gonna lie! You just have nothing to compare it to so you're just experimenting haha! BUT you always have to have a first and the more you have, the easier it gets!

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"babywings1" wrote:

I've only ever watched this show once. And it was a LONG time ago. I just flipped to it...and ... this stupid show has me in tears. When they have the baby and get to hold it.. I just pray I can make it that far.

They're all talking about what an immediate difference it makes in your family and how hard it is the first week or so. I'm seriously scared, but more excited. I can handle it! (Ladies, in a few months when I freak out about NOT handling it...remind me of this post! LOL)

Wow... we feel/think exactly alike! I'm absolutely terrified and yet I cant wait! We'll get through that first week with flying colors I'm sure of it. For the record, I may need reminding of this when the time comes too... hahaha

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For you first time moms, here is my perspective on it....the baby will cry....like, all the time. They'll cry because they're hungry or need their diaper changed, but more than that, they'll cry whenever you change their clothes or change their diaper (which you'll be doing constantly) or heaven help you, when you give them a bath. They'll cry when you cut their nails. They'll cry when you set them down in their bassinette so you can just go to the bathroom (do NOT try holding a baby while you go to the bathroom - too hard to get your pants up and down - trust me, I tried it.) Oh, and sometimes, they'll cry for no reason at all. I found all of that crying to be EXTREMELY stressful, in a large part because I'd spent a lot of time reading about attachment parenting and how bad it is to just let a baby cry. And I still don't think you should just leave the room and let a tiny baby cry itself out or anything like that. BUT the part that no one really explained to me and I was too hormonal to get is that having a baby cry while you are actively taking care of it (like changing it's diaper) is NOT the same thing as just letting them cry it out. You are actively there, taking care of it's needs, and will soon be done and be able to pick it up and comfort it. Diaper changes are necessary, even if baby hates them (and s/he will - they HATE diaper changes), so there is no reason to feel bad as they wail and scream their way through it. Ditto changing their clothes, giving them a bath, clipping their nails, and yes, even putting them down in a safe place for 1 minute so you can go to the bathroom and have two hands to deal with yourself. The baby will be FINE. Don't let that stress you out.

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Alissa, did you raise my first kid, lol? There's a lot of crying, but then, eventually, the little guy/girl starts smiling and laughing ... and pretty soon, you barely remember life before the kiddo! I had a really rough time with my first, PPD and everything, but I'd do it all again a million times for him.

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I used to watch that show alot.

It's weird, you just seem to know what to do. Just like when you meet a new person, you get to know their likes and dislikes. Its the same with a baby, you get to know them better and better with time and you begin to be a pro with your baby's needs. I was still scared to take DS2 out by myself for some reason. But of course now, I don't think twice!

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I was sent home with a 4lb baby and was TERRIFIED!!! I can tell you that I personally did not bathe my baby for like the first month of her life because I was too scared. My MIL would do it for me!! So it's normal!! :bighug: I'm still freaking out and I already have experience! LOL!

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Haha about not bathing the baby for a month! I made my MIL cut T's nails whenever I could. Like everytime I was at her house I would just so happen to notice that he needed his nails cut and ask her if she would mind. I'm sure she neeeever caught on that I was just scared to death to do it myself.....:rolleyes:

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I wasn't scared to hold my dd when she was born-I figured there was no way I was going to hold her that was as rough as the whole being pushed and twisted through the birth canal thing, so if she could survive being born, she would survive me holding her, lol! I hated cutting her nails though. Her fingers were so little it was almost impossible to see if you were just getting the nail and one time I did clip her finger and drew blood-I think I cried more than her. My babysitter used to cut them when she got older just because I would put it off for so long that she would just go ahead and do it.

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For cutting nails, I HIGHLY recommend nail scissors. I have these: Amazon.com: Safety 1st Deluxe Baby Scissors: Baby

SO much easier - they may not cut as closely because they're not as sharp but that's all I use even now on the kids. Too many bloody fingers. Sad