So I know breastfeeding is best for baby and I have promised my family and my husband (though HE is supportive of whatever I choose) that I'll at least try it. I want whats best for baby but I'm a little freaked out about it. I know that probably sounds stupid but I am terrified and weirded out about the whole idea of it. My friends and family have all breastfed and I know its a beautiful and wonderful experience of boding for mom and baby but I just cant get past these feelings of weirdness about it. Anyway, have any of you heard of nipple shields? Anyone used them? I'm kind of feeling like maybe they would make me feel more comfortable with it but I dont know. Hope I havent offended anyone on this, I think its beautiful thing I just am weirded about me doing it myself.
Nothing to worry about I never found nursing to feel sexual or anything if that is what you are worried about. I used a nipple shield with my second because it helped her latch. It has its place and if you think it would help you, it would be worth asking about. I found it to be a hassle because I always had to have one with me and keep it clean and maneuver it into place .
If you still feel weird about physically nursing, you could try just pumping. I only pumped for the first 4 weeks with my 2nd because I wanted to be able to nurse when she came out of the NICU and as long as I was pumping at the same frequency that a baby would nurse (every 2-3 hours), my supply was really good.
I think it is great that you are open about trying it even though it weirds you out.
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This is my first baby so I have no breast shield advice for you. But I wanted to say that what you're feeling is normal, especially if you haven't been around nursing moms much. If you want to try to do it and get over the weirdness, maybe go to an LLL meeting and meet other nursing moms. I plan to start going to LLL meetings in my last month of pregnancy just to ask some questions.
All of my best friends breastfeed and none of them are modest about it, so for me it seems very much the norm. But my DH on the other hand is a bit freaked out by it all. He doesn't even like the word "breastfeed." We were having a bit of trouble talking about it even. He just didn't like the idea of it. Maybe because he always saw boobs in a sexual sense and mixing the two is weird? He's coming around though. So I see where your coming from. I really think its all about exposure.
I did not have similar feelings with Sam, but the difference may be that I am a nurse and have been exposed to it frequently in my job.
I think it is great that you are exploring your options now!
I know that nipple shields are used by many moms who have issues getting baby to latch due to their nipples being shaped differently. I don't see why you couldn't use them! I know some moms have trouble weaning off of the shields, but that may not be an issue for you. Medela sells them, and I have seen them in stores where the medela stuff is being sold. Go ahead and pick a pair up to have on hand just in case.
I breastfed Sam and plan to for this little guy mainly because I am lazy and cheap. Yes it is nutritious, but breastfeeding is sooo easy (after the first day or so!). No mixing bottles, washing bottles, the milk is always ready to go warmed and in a cute package. And its free.
That being said, there is nothing wrong with formula feeding. A lot of babies (including me!) were raised on formula. You need to do what is best for your family.
Happy New Year!
I have been exposed to it, a lot! My sister breastfed all three of hers and she is not shy or modest at all and my best friend also breastfed not to mention the several other peopel throughout my life I've been around who openly breastfed around me. I'm not weirded out by others doing it... just me doing it. I think its a beautiful thing when I see it. I just freak out when I think about me doing it. I had some things happen to me when I was younger and I'm a little strange about my breast now. I trust my husband but it took a while to get there even with him. Its more of an emotional scar type of thing then it has anything to do with not wanting to breastfeed. I guess I should have mentioned that earlier. I probably should really seek some therapy for my past but its expensive and I've always had a hard time talking about what happened to me. I'm sure I'll get past it, its just going to take some time. I also love the idea of just pumping full time instead but we'll see. I like it not only b/c of my issues but also b/c I feel like it will give DH a chance to have that bonding experience iwth the baby too. We'll see. My sister will have a fit if I dont at least try to breastfeed.
One thing I experienced with DD is that EVERYONE and their mother is going to have an opinion as to what will work. If I can offer some advice, this would be it..
1. Be open to hearing what others' advice might be but don't be afraid to cut them off when you've had enough. What works for one isn't going to work for all. Working alongside a lactation consultant at a hospital or your midwife is going to be a better bet - this is their area of specialty.
2. You don't have to flop your boobs out there for all to see while getting the hang of it.. At the root of it all, breastfeeding is between you and your baby. That's it! It doesn't even have to include DH if you don't feel comfy. A cover.. blanket.. private room even are certainly options for you. If YOU feel comfortable with your breasts, that's all that matters. Baby loves every ounce of his/her mommy.. head to toe.. from the moment of conception.
3. Sure breast is best.. but YOU do what is best for YOU! If it's pumping and feeding via bottles, that is ok!!! If it's formula feeling exclusively.. that is ok, too!! If you find a mix somewhere between pure breast milk and formula, so be it!!
4. Don't let someone pressure you either way.. that's the one thing that cuts me to the core.. trying to persuade you that you have to go one way or another. NO YOU DON'T!! What you do have to do is feed your baby. That's it!
5. Oh yeah.. one last thing.. and I wish someone would have told me this When a beginning BFing baby latches on right and sucks, your uterus contracts like a mofo and it's not too comfy But it only lasts a very small while until it (the uterus) starts to decrease in size or you get used to it. That's one of those "I wish I would have known THAT was coming!" type things.
I dont mean my breast are deformed or anything... I dont like them to be touched or anything. Its more of a psychological thing. I'm really nervous about it. What if I flinch or something. I guess I'm just being stupid. I'm okay with my husband touching them in a sexual matter now but like I said it took a while to get to that point. I guess the only way to know is to wait and find out! I have so many fears about having my baby. I'm a worrier. BIG time! Thanks ladies for the advice!
All you're experiencing is completely normal! Worries.. fears.. excitement.. concerns.. All normal! I worry, too.. but I think when the times comes you're going to realize it'll all work itself out just fine.
It is completely normal to feel that way! I didnt breastfeed my first two because of that exact same feeling.. When I had my 3rd I decided to give it a try and its not anywhere near as awkward or weird as you would think. It just kinda becomes natural to you. The feelings you get when breastfeeding are nothing like those you get with hubby. As for the nipple shield, ive never used one but you could always give it a shot if you think it would help you at all. But in the end, even if you decide not to breastfeed, you shouldnt feel bad for it. At least you can say you tried. Any breastmilk is better than none at all!! If you need any support or advice I will gladly help you any way that I can!