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    So I am having some daycare issues. His "teachers" are super sweet and I really love one of them, but I feel like they are just a mess there. So disorganized and not very knowledgeable about breastfed babies and safety standards. I could just be a crazy mom. But everyday the infants are swaddled with their faces covered. I told them to not cover his face, but I did a surprise visit today during lunch and his face was covered and told them to please not ever do it again. The lady said that he moved while sleeping and that's why it was over his face. But why am I the only mom that has brought this up??? Why do they cover their faces anyway? I googled it and apparently lots of daycares do this. But I also saw that Texas law forbids you to put blankets in the crib and prohibits babies from sleeping in anything other than a crib. I have never seen a baby in a crib there, but that doesn't bother me, since I know Henry sleeps better in a swing/bouncy seat anyway. Does anyone elses daycare cover your baby's face while napping?

    They also frequently write down his nap times and feeding times incorrectly because they conflict. Also I had to tell them to gently stir the milk before serving. Then today I sent him with 14oz and he came back with 4oz, but his report card said he ate 14oz. And on a few occasions his cloth diapers have come home dripping wet. I talked to them about that and haven't had issues since.

    The daycare is part of a big hospital and its very clean (the cleanest that I saw when touring daycares) and the rooms have natural light and the teacher/child ratio is excellent. But other things just upset me. My friend whose daughter also goes here has been to a few daycares and she says they all have their issues. Plus this one is so close to my work. I am very communicative with them and tell them my concerns, but I am curious if I should pay to get on some other daycare lists. Maybe I should talk with the daycare director first.
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    My daycare is ver different because it is in my school and not star funded but they follow most state regs. They do not cover their faces but do put blankets in cribs but like not with Rylee when she was a newborn there. The keeping track thing is something that bot
    There'd me at first with Avery when she was in daycare and my cousin is an assistant director at a daycare so I asked her and she said honestly they try their hardest but sometimes they do the needs first and don't worry about the writing. Like she said if right at the end of a feeding another baby is crying or poop etc they may move on to that one and lose a lil track. That made me feel better because honestly I am more concerned about their needs and I know when she is hungry she will tell me type of thing.

    As far as speaking up... DO IT! I have found I am outspoken in general but with my kids I take it to a whole new level. With daycare I did in first year and it made a huge difference because my concerns were addressed and it is all about the approach. If you go in guns blazing you are going to get some hostility. My friend who uses same daycare as me but works in another school but her hubby is in mine went in one day screaming at director and the director got defensive and in the end it was that her ex didn't fill her in but daycare did it right. Also last wee DDs camp started horrible. Me and that same woman both spoke up... She was super nasty and they were nasty back but I approached nicely and the next day things were way better and I realized again if you don't voice concerns they can't change.
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    My daycare is ver different because it is in my school and not star funded but they follow most state regs. They do not cover their faces but do put blankets in cribs but like not with Rylee when she was a newborn there. The keeping track thing is something that bot
    There'd me at first with Avery when she was in daycare and my cousin is an assistant director at a daycare so I asked her and she said honestly they try their hardest but sometimes they do the needs first and don't worry about the writing. Like she said if right at the end of a feeding another baby is crying or poop etc they may move on to that one and lose a lil track. That made me feel better because honestly I am more concerned about their needs and I know when she is hungry she will tell me type of thing.

    As far as speaking up... DO IT! I have found I am outspoken in general but with my kids I take it to a whole new level. With daycare I did in first year and it made a huge difference because my concerns were addressed and it is all about the approach. If you go in guns blazing you are going to get some hostility. My friend who uses same daycare as me but works in another school but her hubby is in mine went in one day screaming at director and the director got defensive and in the end it was that her ex didn't fill her in but daycare did it right. Also last wee DDs camp started horrible. Me and that same woman both spoke up... She was super nasty and they were nasty back but I approached nicely and the next day things were way better and I realized again if you don't voice concerns they can't change.
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    Yeah I understand the report thing, I even told Dh that I am surprised that they write all that down, because I never even know what time it is when I am home with Henry, I can't imagine writing down every pee and BM for multiple babies. Mainly its the covering of the face that bothers me. I send Henry with an Aden and Anais blanket, so at least it breathes, but some kids have thick blankets and they still swaddle their faces in. I will talk to them again and be sure to put it in my notes to them. There is a paper they keep in a notebook next to their "daily report" where parents can make requests. And I will have to make more surprise visits to make sure they are doing it.

    The milk thing, I am over already, but I am shocked that they didn't know to stir breastmilk, about half over the other babies in his room are also breastfed. The milk separates and the fat is on top. Maybe it doesn't matter so much if they consume the entire bottle in one day. I send a storage bottle of 8oz and a storage bottle of 5oz and then they fill his drinking bottle with 3.5 oz each feeding. So that first feeding he was getting all the fat, but the subsequent feeding mostly watery milk.

    Yes I am just going to be very vocal about my wishes, I am polite though. When I see other parents pick up their babies they just pick them up and go and I am all hanging around asking questions. First time mom syndrome I guess...
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    I would be totally freaked about the covered faces thing. What the heck???? My daycare lady won't even swaddle, let alone put anything over his face. She actually told me once that some of the daycare centers put blankets over the babies faces to keep their pacifiers in, but she said it in a "totally appalled" kind of way, not a "what a good idea" kind of way. Did they say why they were doing it?
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    I can see the whole report thing getting mixed up with all the other children. Hopefully that means all the babies needs are being met and they just don't have the time to write everything down. Like you said, I don't always pay attention to the time that Kylie eats and i'm home all day with her, so sometimes it's a guessing game on times.

    As for the blankets on their faces? No way! I find it appalling that you had asked them before to not ever cover his face with a blanket and when you did your visit they had done it again. Now I know I have mentioned I have my Chicago girl attitude before, and because of that I would have yanked Kylie out of there and she wouldn't have gone back until I had a chance to have a sit down with the director and the classrooms "teachers" and felt that the situation was resolved. Especially if that day care was my only option.

    I would agree with you on doing more surprise visit just to see what happens. Hopefully they take your seriously now and you don't ever see a blanket on his face again.

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    Do you have any of the Swaddleme blankets you could leave them? It's pretty much impossible to get something like that over his face.
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    I had some swaddlemes that I gave to my brother because I was convinced that Henry would never like to be swaddled, but around 6 weeks he took to it. And we have the aden and anais as well as one halo swaddle sack. He can get the halo one ovwr his face though. I just ordered some more swaddlemes in size large since he is 13 lbs, so hopefully they work and if so, I will send those to daycare instead of the blanket.
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    That just freaks me out.. I would definitely do some surprise visits to see if they are still covering his face but I hope those swaddleme blankets work for you!!


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    I hope you can get the blanket issue resolved. I think the ladies already gave great advice. With the daycare (or even when family is watching them) you have to decide what's important and what isn't because no one will care for him like you do. I have the same struggles since my DH watches her during the day. Obviously safety and nutrition are "must address" situations, but not documenting everything perfectly and an occassional overfilled diapers (as long as it's very rare) isn't a huge deal. I have to wonder if they're getting used to the fact that cloth doesn't hold as much as disposables and you can't feel that a cloth needs changing like a disposable. Once they get used to them, they'll get better.

    We went to Carson's pre-k graduation last year at his daycare and I used the baby room to nurse Emma and I found 3 different things I wanted to scream about, but then I found out that although they had the legal amount of adults per babies in there, they usually have another roaming adult or two helping, but everyone was helping with the pre-k graduation during that time. For not having help, the lady was doing great. One the pre-k graduation was over, there was more adults there than the state required, but they made sure the baby's needs were met.
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