So Henry has had a bottle every night since 2.5 weeks old and never refused until recently. Last week when DH would give him the bottle he would cry and refuse for several minutes before taking it. Then this week has been a nightmare, I started to use my frozen milk instead of the fresh milk and one taste and he was hysterical and would not take it. I have never heard him cry like that before, he burrowed his head into me and sobbed like a 5 year old with the heavy breathing and everything, so I gave in and nursed him. So yesterday I mixed some frozen with fresh and offered him a bottle in the early afternoon before his nap, so I could pump while he slept, and then another bottle at night. It was hard, there was a lot of crying, but hew finally took it. So I am freaking out that I have a lipase issue and that is partially why he is refusing. I smelled the milk, it doesn't smell sour, but it smells plasticky. And I know lipase is supposed to smell soapy.
All that time pumping and so much is going down the drain, its incredibly frustrating. I am so scared that he is not going to eat at daycare. I was using the tommee tippee bottles and since he refused, I tried the medela bottle with similar results. I just now bought the Comotomo, avent, and adiri bottles off amazon. I might try to give him all bottles this weekend and just nurse morning and night like I would for daycare, but I am already freaking out that my supply will drop.
Any advice? Why is he suddenly refusing at 10 weeks when he has gotten a bottle every single day? Agh!
I would try leaving the room when he's fed. Also, I would stick to whatever bottle he's been taking so far. I think the constant switch up would make the situation worse. I bet it's a phase and he drinks just fine at daycare. I don't recommend pumping all day while home with him. I don't think it'll help any. He may just not want a bottle when he's near you.
I have always left the room when DH gave the bottle, but he just won't have it now. That used to be the only 30 minutes I had to myself all day. So after half an hour of crying and refusal, Dh will bring him to me in desperation. The idea of my pumped milk going down the drain makes me sick, so I have been trying to give him the bottle when DH gives up instead of nursing him. I hope you are right and he doesn't refuse it at daycare.
He has always collapsed the tommee tippee nipple, any of them, I have tried the slow flow, the variable flow and medium flow. He is a very efficient nurser with a strong suck. And he would drink a bottle in less than 10 minutes if DH didn't stop to burp him. That is another reason I thought to change the bottle, but maybe you are right, switching it up might make it worse. Great, well I just bought all those bottles.
Well the real test will be on sunday when we leave him at MIL's again, probably long enough for 2 feedings, we shall see how he does.
Reid suddenly started refusing to take a bottle around the same age too. He didn't take one for my mom the couple of times she watched him in the last week or two before I went back to work, but since she only had him for an hour or two I thought maybe he just wasn't hungry so I didn't really worry about it. He had been taking bottles for her since 6 weeks old without incident, so it honestly didn't cross my mind that he was straight up refusing the bottle.
Then his first day of daycare, I think I posted that he only drank 1 oz all day. I was FREAKED. But then he drank more (I think like 12 oz) the second day, and now he drinks like a little piggy. I think he realized that it was bottle or go hungry at daycare, and he wasn't into going hungry, and now he's totally used to taking bottles for daycare. I don't know what he would do if he had to take a bottle when he was home with me though - we've never tried that.
I think my point is, I don't believe that a healthy average baby is going to let himself starve. You do hear of babies reverse cycling for daycare which would be awful IMO, but he wouldn't starve to death. Hopefully he will be just like Reid and decide after a day or two that this going hungry nonsense is for the birds. Obviously when you are home with him you aren't going to let him go hungry, but once he's at daycare his options are going to be take a bottle or be hungry. I think it's most likely that he'll choose the bottle.
I agree with Joan that I don't think that pumping more during the day right now is going to help. I think you should keep nursing as much as possible to keep up your supply because the pump isn't as efficient.
I wouldn't worry about a lipase problem if the milk doesn't smell sour. I bet the plasticky smell that you are smelling is actually the bottle or bag that it's in, not the milk itself.
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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aw ****! excuse the language but I've so been there and it sucked badly!
This is what happened with Olivia - she wouldn't take bottles, and wouldn't drink more than 4oz at daycare (10 hour day) I was FREAKED OUT! She ended up nursing almost non-stop from when I picked her up until morning. It was horrible. Eventually after trying at least 8 different types of bottles, we finally found that she would take more milk if we gave her a preemie nipple on the bottle. so weird!!!! the terrible thing was that it took us over 2 months to get her to that point. She never drank more than 10oz at daycare EVER even after that. She just hated bottles, period.
Do NOT pump more during the day right now. Nurse as much as possible.
It might be a temperature issue. Are you warming up the frozen to the same temp as before? Also, so you don't waste as much, only put a couple ounces in the bottle instead of filling it up. that way you don't have to throw as much away.
hang in there, and don't stress too much. I know that's much easier said than done. But DD and I are living proof that even if he refuses bottles at daycare you will both be fine.
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