Had company today...

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Had company today...

My grandmother and aunt came to visit me and the baby today. She was asleep when they got here, but woke up quickly and cried. So, they fed her and she went back to sleep. While she was sleeping, we were talking about issues I'm having with her and they were reminiscing about when they had their babies. They both SWORE that they could put the baby down in the crib and she wouldn't cry, so I let them try. She screamed bloody murder. Then they both said it was because of her diaper, so I changed it...got her calmed down...and they tried again. Again, she SCREAMED. So I picked her up and got her calmed down again.

After they left, it took awhile to get her to sleep again. But I was seriously getting irritated with them because they kept trying to put her in her crib and she would SCREAM and then we'd have to start all over again. I guess they figured I hadn't tried to put her down or something. Right before they left, my grandmother was like..are you going to try to put her in her crib again? I was like... um, no, her screaming like that three times today in the past hour was quite enough for me, thank you.

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I guess their magic touch wore off a long time ago, huh? :roll: I love it when people thing they have the answers to everything..

Sorry little missy wasn't too happy with all the activity but hope the visit was overall a good one. Smile

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That's sort of funny. I love it when know-it-alls are proven wrong like that. My MIL did that a few times with DD...yup, I know my child MIL, thanks.

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Oh wow what a day. Nice of them to visit, but sounds a bit frustrating with them trying so hard to get her to go down quietly. But at least they know its not something you are doing.

I have a great fear of overbearingness with my family. Hopefully they mind their own business. It's been over 30 years since they've dealt with babies. I will have to learn to smile, say thanks and carry on with my ways.

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Omg, I can't believe hey insisted on trying... twice! I bet when they left, they talked about how much you've spoiled your baby, lol. You're a good sport for not getting sh!tty with them.

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I do find this so crazy when people do this. It is always the older generation in my experience and I do wonder what is the difference. I mean let's face it things have changed a lot so it could be just different times etc. I always love hearing sleep on belly because that worked for years with them...

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As much as they thought they were trying to help you, sometimes it is nice to be able to say...see...it's not just me!
I hope for your sanity she can learn to be put down in her crib sometime soon.

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Yeah, I agree with Joan they probably think you spoil her. I'm sure it is somewhat generational too. I really don't feel I'm one to cater to my kids and I will do "cry it out" when it becomes necessary but I am not comfortable with that process with a newborn. I personally wouldn't do it before 4 months old and haven't even actually used it that early in practice. My DS1 was a high maintenance baby and we ended up cosleeping for 8 months b/c I could not put him down separately without him screaming. I tried waiting until he was in a deep sleep and all that but he just wouldn't have it.

Hope you invited them back soon so they can give you some more pointers ROFL

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Wow, just wow. I am SO glad my mom doesn't give me baby advice. I'm her only and it's been awhile so I would never go to her for advice anyway.
LOL that you proved them wrong although I'm sure it would be nice if she doesn't scream some day!
Does she only sleep in your arms then? Will she do a swing or bouncer?

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Vicki, she'll only fall asleep while I'm holding her. Once she's asleep I can lay her on her tummy and she'll still sleep. Which really doesn't help because I'm constantly staring at her back (she sleeps RIGHT beside where I'm sitting) to make sure she's still breathing.

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"babywings1" wrote:

Vicki, she'll only fall asleep while I'm holding her. Once she's asleep I can lay her on her tummy and she'll still sleep. Which really doesn't help because I'm constantly staring at her back (she sleeps RIGHT beside where I'm sitting) to make sure she's still breathing.

This is my second and I constantly check her breathing too! The only way I can relax is if she's asleep on me, lol.

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