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How're your emotions?

For those that had their baby, how are you doing, emotionally? Hormonal? Got the baby blues.

I'm doing good, still dealing with the emotional aftermath of my surgery. I still have a few occasions of crying over little things but it's gotten a LOT better now that my hormones are starting to return to normal. Last week, I cried because my husband brought the wrong drink home from the store, lol. I'm kind of on alert because I had terrible postpartum depression with DS. So far, I'm in a much better place with this one, but I do have days where I feel a bit overwhelmed. Mostly in the evenings though on days where I'm extremely tired or days where I couldn't put her down all day. Overall, I think I'm doing good, much better than last time. I have a strong emotional connection with her that was missing in this stage with DS.

How's everyone else coping with postpartum hormones?

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I think I was starting to get a little overwhelmed last week because Reid is/was fairly high needs and he's not a good sleeper (still getting about 3-4 very broken hours of sleep a night.) I have to admit that the constant nursing or crying (those were my only 2 options about 18 hours a day since he was born- let him comfort nurse or let him cry) were starting to wear me down a bit. Miraculously this week he has gotten much calmer and allowed me to not nurse and even put him down for a little while each day, and that alone has done wonders for my state of mind. He's still not sleeping well so I'm still tired, but I'm not feeling crumbly around the edges anymore. I'm actually feeling pretty perky these last couple of days!

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Alissa, I think anyone would feel overwhelmed with your situation. I'm glad he's been easier the past few days.

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Now that the health stuff is better for me I am feeling a lot better emotionally. I kept feeling like I was never going to get better and my recovery was so easy and fast with DD. I also have a hard time at this stage because for me it is boring. Neither of my kids were very hi needs so I sit around bored all day. The weather is getting better so that will mean walks and stuff which will be good. I need my house clean for the party this weekend and in my boredom I have no motivation. Looking for a spark of that at least

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I've been extremely emotional! I'm having a hard time dealing with Wades birth and anytime someone asks me about it I break down into tears. It was really traumatizing for me. I've also found myself being snappy with my other 3 kiddos. I think that's more from lack of sleep though.

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My emotions are all messed up. I suffered from depression before I got pregnant - when I got pregnant and now after I'm pregnant. But I cry alot. Mostly when DH gets home, I look at the clock and know that he's going to bed in an hour or so and I get SO upset. Which is kind of stupid, I've been alone with the baby all day, there's no reason for me to get upset about him going to bed. But I keep thinking that I need to give him attention (or him give me attention) and everything is going straight to the baby. She hates her swing, hates her bouncy chair, hates her crib, hates her pack n play. She hates getting diaper changes and she hates having her clothes changed....and she hates her bath. It's hard to not have anything I can set her down in or on for a few minutes of quiet time. Yes, I can set her down and hear her scream, but that's not really fun.

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Jessica, do you baby wear at all? DD1 was like that, needing to be held constantly. I learned how to baby wear so I could at least have both hands free to eat and do basic stuff around the house once in a while-youre still "holding" them but having both hands to myself for a bit made a big difference to my mental state at the time. And does your DH take a turn to hold the baby in the evening so you can have a few minutes to yourself? I know he is working so you feel like you should be taking care of the baby, but the reality is that you are working too and your job is 24/7-caring for a baby is just as draining as being at work all day, and you don't get to clock out at 5 or whenever.

I am doing pretty good emotionally-Liliana is actually a very easy baby so I usually get a couple hours every afternoon where both kids are napping and I can either nap myself or do whatever around the house-that makes a huge difference to my state of mind. Liliana had a growth spurt on monday and nursed all day and by the end of that day I was super irritable-ended up putting on a movie for DD1 which is a rare treat in our house, but I needed her to be occupied and not bugging me as I was out of patience that day.

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I'm doing pretty good; better than I did with my first, that's for sure. I've been doing better now that we're supplementing because now at least I know I need to do it and I'm not stressed out from nursing all the time; I've made my peace with the fact that my body just doesn't produce enough milk on its own.
DH and I have talked about my impatience; I get emotional when the baby throws me for a loop - wants to eat a lot or won't go to sleep w/o me holding him, etc. Really he's a pretty easy baby; I think if I had a high needs baby I would go crazy... well maybe God knows I couldn't handle it!
But yeah, his crying stresses me out so if I have to put him down to make him a bottle or whatever and he's crying, then my kids need something, I start losing it.
Oh and my mom has called twice since she left and I've been avoiding her calls because she will stress me out and I don't feel like listening to her talk about herself... I dunno maybe she would surprise me and actually want to know how *I'm* doing... anyway.

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Rebecca, no, I don't baby wear, however I'm leaning towards it. I was going to buy a wrap this week and DH swiped my debit card and used all the extra money. Boys and their toys. Eh. Alissa was actually the one that changed my mind about it. I was SO SURE I wouldn't baby wear, but having to hold her ALL THE TIME gets really old.

Vicki, I'm sorry that your mom stresses you out. She really talks about herself?? Right after you've had a baby? (((HUGS))) I know you didn't want to supplement, but I honestly think if I didn't use bottles I'd go CRAZY. Even more so than I am now...lol I'm glad you're feeling more at peace with it.

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Yeah she really does - she did it while she was here.
Yeah, at this point, it's easier to give him a bottle while we're out and then pump at home because my nipples hurt BAD and he takes forever to nurse then I wonder if he got enough, etc. When bfing is going well, it's easier for me to just pop out a boob lol but right now not so much.

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I feel like i'm doing really well. With having a birth with an epidural and this birth without one, I really feel like this time i'm recovering much faster than I did with DS. Don't get me wrong, the aches, pains, and tenderness are still there, but all in all, I really can't complain. I was at my mom and dads this past Saturday and decided to be brave and step on their scale. I was really hoping for at least 10-12lbs gone and was very surprised when I saw that I lost 17lbs in 6 days. I ended up gaining 29 total, so I am pretty happy with that. DH and I went to the store today to pick up a few things and I was able to get into a regular pair of jeans as well.

Kylie is doing great. We had her first pedi appt on Friday and she had gained 2oz over her birth weight. He sent us for another blood check for her billy levels and got the results on Saturday that everything is good, so that's a relief. So far, she has been a very easy baby and I say that cautiously because I don't want to jinx us. LOL But, like last night, she was awake from between 8 and 8:30 and fell asleep around 11:30 and slept until 3:30 this morning. We changed her and fed her and she was back asleep by 3:45 and slept until 7:30. So I don't feel exhausted this time around.

On another good note, DH finally got a job!!!!!! It's a 6 month contract, but then the company has the option to hire him on full time after that. We are just waiting on a start date. He got the call that he got the job the day we were released from the hospital and was supposed to start this past Monday, but some background check paper hadn't come back signed yet. So he found out yesterday that all the paperwork is back and good to go and should be able to start this coming Monday, so we will see. I'm excited for him and for us, but am also not getting my hopes up until he actually starts because he's been out of work for so long(over two years) and we've been told before he had a job and then it fell through for some reason or another. But, keeping fingers crossed!

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Yay for regular jeans! I am wearing some regular pants as well, I forgot what they were like! I'm about 5lbs from pre-preg (#3) this time. Woot! It took a lot longer for me to lose the weight w/ Noel - here's hoping I can get back to pre-preg before any babies weight!
Judah sleeps really well at night too - so well I have to wake him up and he really does not wake up. The other night I tried waking him up and he would NOT wake up so I put him back to bed and like 5 minutes later he was awake. :rollseyes: I try to wake him after 4 hours but sometimes he sleeps 5 hours straight - one night he slept 7 hours! :eek:
Our problem is once he's awake he takes FORever to eat. And sometimes I think he just wants one side, lay him down and a few minutes later he is awake and still hungry. So even though he sleeps longer stretches, it takes an hour probably to feed him seomtimes.

Yay for a job! That must be a HUGE relief since you just had the baby.

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I've lost 28 lbs since being pregnant. I actually ended up losing 4 lbs from pre preg weight through my pregnancy, so if you count that I'm 32 lbs down. I haven't been this skinny in YEARS .... ..except I'm not skinny, but..you know...lighter LOL.

Vicki, 15 minutes to change and feed and put back down your baby boy is a miracle ... Julie sleeps fairly well, usually between 4 and 5 hours over night, but when she's awake, she's up for a couple hours. She'll act like she's all tired and going back to sleep...and then some energy spike hits her or something.

Jill, congrats on ur DH getting a job!! I hope everything works out

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Haha Jessica I was about to say "Yes, I agree with Rebecca, a wrap would help!" Now that I see you're going to do it, I REALLY hope you like it. I'll feel like a jerk for talking you into it if you end up hating it. Blum 3 I think it will be good for things like grocery shopping and going out to eat too, since you aren't planning on taking your carrier out of your car. I have worn mine twice now when I was shopping, and I liked it. People looked at me like I was a crazy person when I was putting it on in the parking lot because its just like a huge piece of cloth being wound around your body, but I don't care.

Im jealous of you ladies who are back in your reg pants. Mine still give me a muffin top, so I'm living in yoga pants these days.

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Awesome news about the job. Hope it all works out!

I need to get pre pregnancy stuff from the attic... Maybe next week... I have some sweats etc I am wearing that are pre preg but not jeans or anything presentable lol... I am down 31 but issue is while I am home I am bored and just eat... Grrr

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I don't see how anyone could be in regular jeans. My uterus is still big. I look about 14 weeks pregnant about now. I'm livingin yoga pants too. AAlso, there'smy iincision to deal with.

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I am in my regular jeans, but I don't have an incision and my normal tummy looks pregnant-I am apple shaped so I always buy pants that ride below my stomach as I hate having anything tight on my tummy and if I buy pants that fit at the waist, they would be huge on my butt. I was actually able to wear my regular work pants my entire pregnancy because they ride below my tummy-I just had to worry about the maternity shirts being long enough to cover everything towards the end.

Jill congrats on your DH getting the job, keeping fingers crossed that it works out this time!

Jessica, Regarding the wraps, I am pretty sure you can resell them online to recover at least a good portion of the money if you should end up not liking it-or even buy yourself a used one so you don't have to pay full price for a new one-no advice on the best place to do this but I know people do resell them. I actually didn't buy a wrap but used a piece of fabric that I had in my fabric stash- it was about 20 feet long. Not sure how well it compares to an actual wrap in terms of ease of use/comfortableness to wear, but since I only used it around the house, it served its purpose!

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"Cherrychip" wrote:

Jessica, Regarding the wraps, I am pretty sure you can resell them online to recover at least a good portion of the money if you should end up not liking it-or even buy yourself a used one so you don't have to pay full price for a new one-no advice on the best place to do this but I know people do resell them. I actually didn't buy a wrap but used a piece of fabric that I had in my fabric stash- it was about 20 feet long. Not sure how well it compares to an actual wrap in terms of ease of use/comfortableness to wear, but since I only used it around the house, it served its purpose!

Good point. I got my wrap used for $25.

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Oh I still have a muffin top but I am like Rebecca; I wear my pants lower so they fit because I carry high.

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I too still have a bit of a stomach. But, I also wear pants that fit a little lower instead of over my stomach and also don't have an incision to deal with either which is probably why I can fit into them. But, I don't wear them around the house. I have a few pair of comfy pants that I am wearing around the house and only tried the jeans because we were going out to the store and wanted to look a little less like a bum. LOL

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I have an incision as well - but it sits below one of my fat rolls and my jeans sit above it LOL

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My incision is like totally healed. I sleep on my belly and everything... I just need my belly to go down. I carried so high that its like below my boobs near my abs that still looks preggo

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Aimee, this is going to sound stupid, but..I've never done this before, so...

Your c-section, did the the doc put these...pieces of "tape" over the incision? I'm a little scared of pulling them off (they're kind of falling off anyway) because my hair has started to grow back and I'm thinking it'll hurt. I don't think I have stitches or staples but I can't see my incision so I have NO idea ... I was so out of it during and after the surgery I don't remember much about it.

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"babywings1" wrote:

Aimee, this is going to sound stupid, but..I've never done this before, so...

Your c-section, did the the doc put these...pieces of "tape" over the incision? I'm a little scared of pulling them off (they're kind of falling off anyway) because my hair has started to grow back and I'm thinking it'll hurt. I don't think I have stitches or staples but I can't see my incision so I have NO idea ... I was so out of it during and after the surgery I don't remember much about it.

Those are steri strips. I had those the first time and my doc removed them two weeks postpartum. I wouldn't touch them if Iwwere you. When's your first follow up?

Also, I'd like to add that this time, my incision looks so nasty. Last time, it healed fast and looked great. I feel like this doctor kind of mangled me. I think I'm going to be stuck with the c-section overlap of skin too. Booooo.

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Yes I had the steri strips. My doc pulled my staples on discharge morning so 5 days after surgery and added the steri strips (this was same as last time). He told me to leave the strips until they fell off or I saw him. Mine were pretty much intact when I saw him (itchy as heck with my hair growing back) but he plucked them off at my appt which was supposed to be two weeks but was actually three.

Joan I had the skin overlap with my first and that is biggest reason I wanted this csection to fix it... So far I can't tell but it looks like the same spot has overlap again so kind of bummed about that but whatever right I don't show that area off to anyone but DH and he could care less lol

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See, I don't know if I had staples or stitches. I can't imagine there was NOTHING there except those strips. I mean something has to hold it together. But I do know after the surgery that they looked at my incision and said it was healing nicely, but nothing was ever removed. I tried to take a picture of it a few minutes ago...LOL It looks okay but I can't tell if anything is there (like stitches or whatnot). My appt was supposed to be this past Thursday, but the car wouldn't start so I'm going next week.

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You def had to have something. I know the staples supposedly heal better. Literally removing the staples was done the morning he put the strips on and with tweezers he just did them and it was painless. The steri strips also came right off and were painless. If you had stitches I would think they'd have to be removed also