For those that had their baby, how are you doing, emotionally? Hormonal? Got the baby blues.
I'm doing good, still dealing with the emotional aftermath of my surgery. I still have a few occasions of crying over little things but it's gotten a LOT better now that my hormones are starting to return to normal. Last week, I cried because my husband brought the wrong drink home from the store, lol. I'm kind of on alert because I had terrible postpartum depression with DS. So far, I'm in a much better place with this one, but I do have days where I feel a bit overwhelmed. Mostly in the evenings though on days where I'm extremely tired or days where I couldn't put her down all day. Overall, I think I'm doing good, much better than last time. I have a strong emotional connection with her that was missing in this stage with DS.
How's everyone else coping with postpartum hormones?
I think I was starting to get a little overwhelmed last week because Reid is/was fairly high needs and he's not a good sleeper (still getting about 3-4 very broken hours of sleep a night.) I have to admit that the constant nursing or crying (those were my only 2 options about 18 hours a day since he was born- let him comfort nurse or let him cry) were starting to wear me down a bit. Miraculously this week he has gotten much calmer and allowed me to not nurse and even put him down for a little while each day, and that alone has done wonders for my state of mind. He's still not sleeping well so I'm still tired, but I'm not feeling crumbly around the edges anymore. I'm actually feeling pretty perky these last couple of days!
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Now that the health stuff is better for me I am feeling a lot better emotionally. I kept feeling like I was never going to get better and my recovery was so easy and fast with DD. I also have a hard time at this stage because for me it is boring. Neither of my kids were very hi needs so I sit around bored all day. The weather is getting better so that will mean walks and stuff which will be good. I need my house clean for the party this weekend and in my boredom I have no motivation. Looking for a spark of that at least
I've been extremely emotional! I'm having a hard time dealing with Wades birth and anytime someone asks me about it I break down into tears. It was really traumatizing for me. I've also found myself being snappy with my other 3 kiddos. I think that's more from lack of sleep though.
My emotions are all messed up. I suffered from depression before I got pregnant - when I got pregnant and now after I'm pregnant. But I cry alot. Mostly when DH gets home, I look at the clock and know that he's going to bed in an hour or so and I get SO upset. Which is kind of stupid, I've been alone with the baby all day, there's no reason for me to get upset about him going to bed. But I keep thinking that I need to give him attention (or him give me attention) and everything is going straight to the baby. She hates her swing, hates her bouncy chair, hates her crib, hates her pack n play. She hates getting diaper changes and she hates having her clothes changed....and she hates her bath. It's hard to not have anything I can set her down in or on for a few minutes of quiet time. Yes, I can set her down and hear her scream, but that's not really fun.
Jessica, do you baby wear at all? DD1 was like that, needing to be held constantly. I learned how to baby wear so I could at least have both hands free to eat and do basic stuff around the house once in a while-youre still "holding" them but having both hands to myself for a bit made a big difference to my mental state at the time. And does your DH take a turn to hold the baby in the evening so you can have a few minutes to yourself? I know he is working so you feel like you should be taking care of the baby, but the reality is that you are working too and your job is 24/7-caring for a baby is just as draining as being at work all day, and you don't get to clock out at 5 or whenever.
I am doing pretty good emotionally-Liliana is actually a very easy baby so I usually get a couple hours every afternoon where both kids are napping and I can either nap myself or do whatever around the house-that makes a huge difference to my state of mind. Liliana had a growth spurt on monday and nursed all day and by the end of that day I was super irritable-ended up putting on a movie for DD1 which is a rare treat in our house, but I needed her to be occupied and not bugging me as I was out of patience that day.
I'm doing pretty good; better than I did with my first, that's for sure. I've been doing better now that we're supplementing because now at least I know I need to do it and I'm not stressed out from nursing all the time; I've made my peace with the fact that my body just doesn't produce enough milk on its own.
DH and I have talked about my impatience; I get emotional when the baby throws me for a loop - wants to eat a lot or won't go to sleep w/o me holding him, etc. Really he's a pretty easy baby; I think if I had a high needs baby I would go crazy... well maybe God knows I couldn't handle it!
But yeah, his crying stresses me out so if I have to put him down to make him a bottle or whatever and he's crying, then my kids need something, I start losing it.
Oh and my mom has called twice since she left and I've been avoiding her calls because she will stress me out and I don't feel like listening to her talk about herself... I dunno maybe she would surprise me and actually want to know how *I'm* doing... anyway.
Rebecca, no, I don't baby wear, however I'm leaning towards it. I was going to buy a wrap this week and DH swiped my debit card and used all the extra money. Boys and their toys. Eh. Alissa was actually the one that changed my mind about it. I was SO SURE I wouldn't baby wear, but having to hold her ALL THE TIME gets really old.
Vicki, I'm sorry that your mom stresses you out. She really talks about herself?? Right after you've had a baby? (((HUGS))) I know you didn't want to supplement, but I honestly think if I didn't use bottles I'd go CRAZY. Even more so than I am now...lol I'm glad you're feeling more at peace with it.
Yeah she really does - she did it while she was here.
Yeah, at this point, it's easier to give him a bottle while we're out and then pump at home because my nipples hurt BAD and he takes forever to nurse then I wonder if he got enough, etc. When bfing is going well, it's easier for me to just pop out a boob lol but right now not so much.