Ds who is 12 wanted so badly for dd (who is 2 now) to be a boy. I just kept preparing him that we can not control the gender... and would reassure him that if it was a girl he would love her just as much. was he disappointed when he found out she was a girl... absolutely but once she was born and still now 2 years later he says on a daily basis... I love her so much... I can't believe I was disappointed... I wouldn't trade her for the world. AGAIN... this pgcy he is hoping for a boy, we'll see.
Overall, the only thing you can do is just prepare her that it could be a boy this way she doesn't convince herself it is a girl and become more disappointed. She may still be disappointed but no matter what when the baby is born and she holds him/her it's not going to matter any more.
Dd 2.5 yo
Reid born sleeping 11/22/08
dh & I 16 yrs