My "surprise" shower

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My "surprise" shower

Remember when I was talking about whether to travel (2 hours) for Easter? And that DH and I decided not to do it?
Well, last week DH called me and said my dad had called him and talked to him about a surprise shower my mom was planning for me on the Saturday before Easter. I hadn't gotten the guts up to call them and tell them we weren't coming for Easter, but I hadn't given them a solid answer either way.
So my poor DH was pulled into this and there are past issues between him and my parents that still make him a bit uncomfortable so it was hard for him...
Anyway, he was really great about it and said it was my decision whether I wanted to go and he would support it either way and not to let the fact that my mom wants to do this for me persuade me to go, etc.

So I decided we would just go Friday night to Saturday. It's going to be really busy b/c DH isn't off on Good Friday (I thought he was) so we'll get there late Friday and then leave in the evening on Saturday but whatever.
It's nice that my mom wants to do this for me, but she really doesn't have to. My church is doing a shower for me this weekend and most of my extended family already went in on a co-sleeper for me and after all, this is my 3rd baby.
Anyway... I'm not sure who she is inviting; I don't keep in touch w/ ANYone who lives close to them anymore (went to ele and high school there but lost touch in college) and then I got a FB message from someone saying my mom called her mom and I needed to get in touch w/ her - this girl I went to church with and haven't talked to in years. So it might be a little awkward. I just feel bad because I don't want to obligate people to bring gifts for me if I haven't even made an effort to keep in touch and don't really care about them anymore, frankly. I'm hoping it's just friends of my mom's that I sort of know because then I won't feel bad at all... and since I'm registered at 2 stores that aren't in the town my parents are in, who knows what I will get. Anyway... I don't want to stress about it but it's such a weird thing, ya know?

On the flip side, I've been checking my registries and so far I know I got a BRU gift card and the Sleep Sheep (score!) and some travel wipes and baby wash. I love lurking! Plus, I double-registered for some things so I need to check to make sure I don't get the same (like I registered for the Sleep Sheep at BRU and a sound machine at Target so I took the sound machine off Target since the Sleep Sheep will work for that).

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Wow! Well that's fun and kind of stressful. I hate being the center of attention and I always feel awkward receiving gifts from people I barely know. At my shower that MIL threw for me, all these ladies were there that I hadn't met, so when I opened the gifts, I was all "Katherine, Katherine?" while searching through a sea of women for someone to raise their hand so I could thank them. So awkward. Just smile and try to enjoy!

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I can understand your hesitation.. not sure why all will be there.. people you don't keep in contact with etc. But personally, I say enjoy the time and gifts! No, she doesn't have to do it.. and I think she knows that.. but enjoy that she did and you'll be getting some nice / needed things. Biggrin

What a blessing! Biggrin ENJOY!!!

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I can understand your hesitation.. not sure why all will be there.. people you don't keep in contact with etc. But personally, I say enjoy the time and gifts! No, she doesn't have to do it.. and I think she knows that.. but enjoy that she did and you'll be getting some nice / needed things. Biggrin

What a blessing! Biggrin ENJOY!!!

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Elizabeth, that *would* be awkward! I'm hoping the people at this shower will at least be people I've met before...

Adriana, you'd have to know my mom. Wink She and I are VERY different and she doesn't get me at all so she tries to guess what will make me happy - hence the shower. It's enough that she is willing to come take care of the kids/house for a few days when the baby is born but she doesn't think it's enough.
But yes, you're right - I should just be happy that she is doing this for me!

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Oh, hopefully it's all people you know! My nosey neighbor insisted on throwing me a shower with DS and invited a few neighbors. I felt really weird that these neighbors I never talked to were buying me gifts.