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    I kind of feel stupid and ironic for posting this but it's really bothering me. Lately I have been constantly getting upset and depressed about my weight. I know I am pregnant and I am carrying another life inside of me. So with that it is normal to gain weight i would think. But I feel like I am gaining more weight than I should. My hubby says Im fine but I think he is just saying that to be nice. The doctor says I am fine and that they will tell me when they are worried. There is 2 pound difference between the scale at home and the one at the doctor office. The doctors have me at my first appointment (7weeks and 1 day) at 167 pounds. which would be 165 on our scale at home. But I know before I was pregnant I was starting at 163. So I don't' understand why they have me at 167 for my starting weight. But last Thursday I went to the doctor and I am at 188 pounds. I gained 4 pounds in the last two weeks. I feel quite ashamed. I'm almost at 30 pounds for total weight gain and I still have 9 weeks and 1 day to go. If I keep going the way I am then I don't know what to think. I mean I feel so confused because I eat healthy stuff. Every now and then ,ill have some cake but overall I eat pretty well and yes i eat candy a lot but not so much to where I'm gaining weight each week. I exercise at least 6 days a week for at least 30 minutes. This past week I only worked out 5 days for 30 minutes since my hubby was working over time.

    I know I probably shouldn't be obsessing about this so much but I have extreme OCD and weight issues. This has really been bothering me and I'm just really upset about it and I feel depressed and stress about this constantly.

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    Aww I'm sorry you are feeling sad. It's hard being pregnant. I think your perception of yourself is always way worse than it really is though. And seriously it sounds like you are on track. I think you are supposed to gain 35 lbs during pregnancy. My friend gained a lot at the beginning of her 3rd tri and then didn't gain any weight until 36 weeks. Maybe your baby just went through a giant growth spurt. Are you planning on breastfeeding? If so, that should help with postpartum weight loss. I'm sure you look fantastic! Trust your hubs!

    I've been feeling down a lot too lately, its the hormones I'm sure. Hugs girl, you will get through it.
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    Awee mama! I'm sorry!! If it helps, I started at 150 (technically).. and just passed 190. They have said something to me about my weight and we're working on getting it under control..

    You're doing a-ok!! If the dr's are concerned, they will tell you. Sit back and relax.. enjoy these last couple of weeks! It will be a non-issue soon enough! (

    HUGE hugs!
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    I feel the same way and have since the beginning of the pregnancy when I started putting on weight. I feel like the fattest planet of a cow ever. I've always struggled with my weight and had body image issues anyway so being huge (even though baby is worth it) is really something that has made me feel horrible about myself. My DH keeps saying "babe, you're pregnant" and I know I'm pregnant but I feel so fat and gross. I hate it... actually, I like the belly when I have clothes on but when I'm changing clothes and my husband looks at me (he looks at me all in love looking) I feel like crying b/c I just want to hide how big I am now. He loves it but I feel about as sexy as a turd on the floor. Sorry for being so blunt but its how I feel. I get it completely. If you ever need someone to vent to/with then send me a message. Hang in there girl, we dont have too much longer!
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    Sexy as a turd on the floor? Um...gross. LOL

    I have had self esteem issues always. I'm overweight, more overweight than any of you, I think. I have lost 17 lbs this pregnancy, but...still overweight. By quite a lot. However, DH this time around is not a complete a-hole like my ex and he tells me all the time how great I look. It helps that he's not "skinny" either. Don't worry about your weight gain with your pregnancy. You're pregnant lady, enjoy it! And - I've only lost weight because I throw up all the time. Pregnant people are SUPPOSED to gain weight! I'm sure you look fantastic!

    I went on Zoloft a little over a week ago. It messes with my stomach (which sucks, because it's already messed up), but it's helped with the depression.
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    Hugs!

    Your weight gain is right on track for your size. Keep eating healthy and working out!

    Maybe this will help keep it in perspective:
    at 30 weeks (approx. weights listed)
    baby weighs 3lbs
    amniotic fluid 2lbs
    placenta 1.5lbs
    uterus 1.5lbs
    maternal blood volume increase 4lbs
    maternal fluid volume increase 3lbs

    so at least 15 lbs at this point are all baby and such. The rest is your body getting ready to breastfeed by laying down stores to nourish the baby. Most women will lose 10-20 lbs at delivery and then lose the weight from blood and fluid volume in the few weeks post partum.

    The baby is gaining 1/2 pound or more each week. The placenta and uterus are also growing. There is a normal baby growth spurt around the 30 week mark (maybe this helps explain your increased gain for this appointment). Expect to gain at least 1lb per week until birth. Remember this is mostly baby's gain so don't let it depress you.

    Hang in there! I am sure you are a beautiful pregnant woman.
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    Nothing too different to add and my weight is up there from ivf hormones before and such but the stress is not good for you or baby. With my daughter I lost 22 lbs in the five days from having her so it goes away and you can focus on it then.
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    Just remember that the weight gain comes and goes in waves (I need to remember that myself!). It's totally normal to gain a lot one month and very little the next month. That being said, I've been kinda hard on myself for my tight pants too!
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    Thank you guys so much! I'm trying to take all of your advice and just understand that the weight wont be forever. I just want to thank all of you for being so supportive and caring to me. I feel like even though I'm a newbie to this site that I have known you guys for years. I thank all of you so much for making me feel better and caring for me as a person.

    Cristancanoe- the statistics you showed me made me feel better. I was wondering where you got those numbers from.?

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    (((Hugs)))) lady. You got a lot of great responses. The only thing I wanted to add is that I feel like a lot of how much weight you gain is also semi-out of your control and probably genetic and/or hormonal. I honestly think that the best you can do is the best you can do, which it sounds like you are already doing. Try to eat healthy (but give yourself little treats too) and get some regular exercise, and then just try to trust that your body knows what it is doing. One of my good friends has gained like 50 lbs for each of her pregnancies. She eats healthy and exercises, and is very thin and fit to start with (and quickly got back to her pre-pregnancy weight both times) - that is just how her body handles pregnancy. On the other hand, I'm not as thin and fit as her most of the time, but I just don't seem to gain a lot of weight during my pregnancies (neither did my mom with her pregnancies, which makes me think it's partially genetic.) So, my opinion is that every woman's body handles pregnancy a little bit differently, and you may just be "programmed" to gain more weight, just like my friend. That doesn't mean that you can't or shouldn't try to be healthy, because of course you should, but it DOES mean that you shouldn't beat yourself up about whatever form your pregnant body takes. You're busy creating a human being in there! That is miraculous!!! Who cares what your body looks like right now, just look at what it can do! It can build a person. That is so much cooler than just looking sex-ay nekkid.
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