So, my half brother, Stevie, sent me a text today asking for money. Before I go on - for those of you who don't know - Stevie and I have different dads. I've had custody of him since he was 12 and he's now 20, so he's been with me 8 years. Our mom and his dad are still around, but Stevie didn't want to live with either of them (his dad neglected him and our mom's boyfriend and him didn't get along).
Okay, fast forward a few years - I got married to my first husband and me and Stevie spent a lot of time hanging out because I grew to hate my first husband and hanging out with Stevie got my mind off of it.
Fast forward again - I met my current husband and he started living with me. He got along with Stevie fine at first, but then he saw what Stevie was. He's lazy and selfish and disrespectful, so he and Tim didn't get along much after that. When I found out I was pregnant the 2nd time with the ectopic, Stevie stayed home with me most days to make sure I was okay (I was in a lot of pain.) We've always been really close (me and Stevie). Well, Tim and I got married. We moved into this house and I got pregnant, like...immediately. And POOF, Stevie turns into a major @$$ hole. He says that I'm gonna just ignore him and only think about the baby....and my life revolves around Tim now and he feels neglected. Stevie NEVER comes home...he's always out with his friends. He does work, but..even still, he just...never comes home.
So anyway, he texts me today asking for money. My blood pressure went up immediately. The boy doesn't come home, doesn't help around the house, tells me I only think of Tim and the baby and he wants MONEY??? I don't have any today anyway, I spent alot this week on bills. (Rent, mainly). I told him that and he's like, that's funny because you have a new TV in your room. Okay, One, that means he has come home, but he comes home when me and Tim are at work. and two, a new TV? That TV is my MIL's TV and Tim brought it home to see if he could fix it. Then Stevie threw in there that Tim bought a lot of stuff at Walmart for his hunting trip. Yes, Tim bought some stuff but he also worked THIRTY HOURS of overtime last week!! He's allowed to go buy something for himself. For 20 minutes, I was getting hate message after hate message about how me and Tim buy all this stuff for ourselves but when he needs food (FOOD??? EAT AT HOME LIKE WE DO!!!) or gas, I always tell him I'm broke. Finally I had enough. I asked if he was moving out for good (since he hasn't been here in two weeks atleast) and he said yes. I said okay, get your stuff out and leave the key...but not 'til next month. See, he pays rent. not much but every little bit helps and since he's in school, I still get child support from his dad. I know me and DH will struggle with money - we live paycheck to paycheck already and I'm gonna be losing almost 500 dollars a month. But, part of me ...is so ...friggin...glad...he's...leaving! But part of me is super sad...