Rant...

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Rant...

Okay so.. at work, most of the boys (well, they're men) that I work with, know that I've been having a hard time staying pregnant. They know about the ectopic and the chemical - most say they're sorry when something bad happens, but they really don't know what else to say.

ANYWAY, I told one of the guys that I was pregnant. He says, "You know, maybe you should try BIRTH CONTROL." I whipped around and said, "EXCUSE ME?" He looked kind of taken aback.. he said, "Well, it's obvious you can't stay pregnant."

OMG. I wanted to smack the $hit outta him! Birth control?? WTF? I'm trying to have a kid and he tells me to go on birth control?

AHHHHHHH

Leah261's picture
Joined: 09/14/11
Posts: 1244

That would seriously piss me off! I don't blame you for being upset about it! That's SO offensive! Even if you weren't trying to get pregnant that would be offensive. Most men just do not get it at all. That makes me want to smack the crap out of that guy just reading this. I'm sorry you had to deal with that sweetie. What a jerk!

Joined: 06/13/12
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What an A$$!!! I would smack him. He has no right to say that all. Men are very bad with words. Sorry to go through that. I wish you a healthy happy 9 months:)

Clarkton's picture
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Yes, complete bonehead, that guy....sorry you even had to deal with that. Hope this pregnancy proves him totally wrong. HH9M's Smile

tmp81's picture
Joined: 11/16/06
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I would have smacked the sh*t out of that guy!!!! What a jerk! Don't let that jerk steal your joy girly. That is ALL he was trying to do. Yuck! Keep your chin up ok! ♥

Alissa_Sal's picture
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OMG, what a freaking JERK!!!! I would be livid. Sorry you had to deal with that. Don't let a jerk get you down.

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I really want to comment....but I'm speechless!!!

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Joined: 11/21/03
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Well he obviously has never wanted something so bad with all his heart that he'd do almost anything to get it. And I don't mean something trivial but something meaningful. You don't have to be a woman to experience that. That he can't look at your situation and see that your losses caused you great pain and you are willing to take the leap of faith and try again shows he is short on compassion. And to say that to you instead of just keeping it to himself well that really makes him a huge douchebag!!! I know men are funny about stuff like that but it's no excuse. My dh hates talking about feelings with anyone but me (and the kids) and even then he has a rough time of it. But he's experienced co-workers having a pg loss and he always says he's sorry and if there is anything he can do let him know, and let's them know we've been down that road ourselves and we really sympathize. He has the unfortunate understanding of loss but I know even w/o it he wouldn't act that way

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Joined: 04/01/09
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Total insensitive git!!!
Xxxxxx

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
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How insensitive! That's pretty awful, I know I wouldn't be telling him anything anymore.

Joined: 10/02/11
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See? I knew you guys would understand! It seriously pissed me off...for a few reasons. One, I don't HAVE any kids...for him to offer up birth control makes it seem like...I don't even know how to put this.. like he thinks as soon as I have a baby I'm making the world worse for introducing a human being into it. He is single, in his 50s, never been married and never had kids, so I guess he's never had anything to worry about or love. I should feel bad for him, but I don't. I'm still mad. And I've known this guy for YEARS! Never expected that.. I've done got my blood pressure up just writing this...

**Tiffany**'s picture
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I had that thought too that we should feel sorry for him that he's never experienced that depth of feeling before. But screw it he's shown way too much a$$holery for that.

nidia's picture
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haha, Tiffany, I like that word Blum 3