Okay so.. at work, most of the boys (well, they're men) that I work with, know that I've been having a hard time staying pregnant. They know about the ectopic and the chemical - most say they're sorry when something bad happens, but they really don't know what else to say.
ANYWAY, I told one of the guys that I was pregnant. He says, "You know, maybe you should try BIRTH CONTROL." I whipped around and said, "EXCUSE ME?" He looked kind of taken aback.. he said, "Well, it's obvious you can't stay pregnant."
OMG. I wanted to smack the $hit outta him! Birth control?? WTF? I'm trying to have a kid and he tells me to go on birth control?
That would seriously piss me off! I don't blame you for being upset about it! That's SO offensive! Even if you weren't trying to get pregnant that would be offensive. Most men just do not get it at all. That makes me want to smack the crap out of that guy just reading this. I'm sorry you had to deal with that sweetie. What a jerk!
What an A$$!!! I would smack him. He has no right to say that all. Men are very bad with words. Sorry to go through that. I wish you a healthy happy 9 months
DH Paul 34
DD1 Victoria 6 July 2006
DD2 Sarah 2 Feb 2011
DS1 Theodore July 2013
Married Aug 3, 2002
I would have smacked the sh*t out of that guy!!!! What a jerk! Don't let that jerk steal your joy girly. That is ALL he was trying to do. Yuck! Keep your chin up ok! ♥
OMG, what a freaking JERK!!!! I would be livid. Sorry you had to deal with that. Don't let a jerk get you down.
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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I really want to comment....but I'm speechless!!!
Well he obviously has never wanted something so bad with all his heart that he'd do almost anything to get it. And I don't mean something trivial but something meaningful. You don't have to be a woman to experience that. That he can't look at your situation and see that your losses caused you great pain and you are willing to take the leap of faith and try again shows he is short on compassion. And to say that to you instead of just keeping it to himself well that really makes him a huge douchebag!!! I know men are funny about stuff like that but it's no excuse. My dh hates talking about feelings with anyone but me (and the kids) and even then he has a rough time of it. But he's experienced co-workers having a pg loss and he always says he's sorry and if there is anything he can do let him know, and let's them know we've been down that road ourselves and we really sympathize. He has the unfortunate understanding of loss but I know even w/o it he wouldn't act that way
Total insensitive git!!!
TTC 2 Years +