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    Default A realization!

    This literally had me close to full blown crying. Now as excited and happy as I am to be finally pregnant and close to having my new baby, I realized we will no longer be a trio! I'm so used to DH and DD. I just booked a one night stay for next week to water park she's been dying to go to and I realized that it's our last family "vacation," as just us 3. I don't know why it got me so upset. I think maybe because it's always just been us, especially me and her. If I feel this way I wonder how she will feel.

    I don't know I guess it's just my hormones but I can't help to feel this way. Am I being wrong to think this.
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    Awwwww...(((HUGS)))

    I was thinking about that not too long ago, that our cozy little trio (DH, T, and me) is soon to be no more. But you know what, I think that once the trio becomes a foursome, it is going to be even better. Nobody ever suffered from too many people to love and to love them. I don't think you're wrong for feeling the way you do, but I also think that you guys will also all be fine once the baby comes. You'll still be a cozy little family, just a bigger one.
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    I don't think that's wrong at ALL to think that. I don't have any kids, but.. yesterday one of my doggies was all in DH's face and lap and DH was scratching his belly...and I thought to myself that is gonna be one jealous dog when the baby comes. Sometimes, even though I'm SUPER excited to have a baby, I get all sad faced because things will NEVER be the same. But they won't be the same in a good way! And Alissa is right, having a bigger family just means more love to give and get!!
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    I think its normal to have those feelings. I have a friend that had the same concerns. It's so fun to watch videos of her kiddos now laughing together. Your DD is at a great age to add a new baby to the family. She is going to love being a big sis.
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    Mari, after going 7 years (and will be 8 by the time baby is born) with just 1 child I would be more surprised if you didn't feel that way! I know when I finally get pregnant that I will be feeling the same way.
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    Those feelings are normal!! I worry that my youngest who wont even be 2 when baby is born is going to be so upset when the new baby gets here. He still wants ALL my attention. But I can only do the best I can to make sure all my kids feel loved and special. I wont lie though, my DD was VERY jealous at first when I had my 2nd child. But she quickly got over it when she realized she wasnt being replaced. Just keep doing things with DD one on one. Mommy daughter dates are wonderful for that!
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    I think it's normal to feel that way. It's exciting and scary all at the same time! I remember feeling this way and then we were four and I have never gone back to those feelings of being a trio! Giving your DD a sibling is the best gift ever!
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    I get sad when I think about it not just being me and my husband. I know that sounds crazy, I am so thrilled to be pregnant and FINALLY starting a family and being a mom but there are times when I think "I love this... I love just being us and not having to worry about anything else". I feel guilty saying or thinking this b/c we have friends who want desperately to be pregnant and to have a baby and cant but I cant help I feel that way some times. I figure its normal. I can not WAIT to have this baby, please dont get me wrong, its just kind of scary knowing EVERYTHING will change soon... scary but happy/exciting too of course.
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    Leslie - I think that it's totally normal to feel that way. Having a baby is a game changer; it really won't be just you and your hubby anymore, and a ton of both of your energy will go to "kid's stuff" for a long time, where you probably both have/had adult interests and hobbies before. LOL I will say though that in it's better moments, parenthood gives you a whole new way to love and appreciate your husband. When I see my DH interacting with DS and being a good dad, it makes me love him that much more.
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    I think about this. DS is very cuddly and affectionate with me and I know I won't have an available lap for him whenever he wants it. I know it'll all work out, but I also feel sad for the special time I'm afraid I'll miss out on with him.
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