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Sleep regression

Anyone's little ones going through a sleep regression. Henry used to have a predictable nighttime sleep starting at 6 weeks he would get his bath at 7:30, I would nurse him, we would read a book and he was out by 8:30 at the latest and wouldn't wake up until 3 or 4am, and a couple of times he slept until 5am.

Well, this whole week, with the exception of Monday night, Henry has been waking at 1, 3, 5 or 2, 4 and 6. I am one tired momma. He also has been hard to get down at night. We put him to bed and then 30-45 minutes later he wakes up. And sometimes he will do that twice, making the whole bedtime process last from 7:30 to 9:30.

I am hoping its a growth spurt and we get back on schedule soon. I have a terrible cold and being sleep deprived is not helping.

Any suggestions on how to get him to sleep longer?

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Recently Reid has gotten harder to put down (he was already hard, so I think he is now officially The Worst...) but luckily he is still sleeping through the night. Sorry Mama, that is hard, especially with you having to work too.

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We are still all over the place! I know issue is still her bottles during the day but we have been trying to fix that and it's not working so we deal lol... She is going in her room in her crib tonight to see how it goes because she is not even awake half the time that she is making noises and wakes me up

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Emma rarely gives me a long stretch, but it is common for babies to go through the "4 month sleep regresion." Maybe Henry's came early??

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I don't know what happened, but it continues to go on. I started the bedtime process at 7 tonight and he fell asleep at 8 and has woken up 3x since. Agh. I keep reading that its best to try to get them to bed earlier and that babies naturally want to go to bed around 6:30pm. But we are just getting home at that time so that isn't happening.

Either way,I am exhausted. I would be downing coffee in the morning if I could.

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***Lurk***
My little guy went through an awful 3 months sleep regression just like that, except he woke up every 45 minutes on the clock ALL NIGHT LONG. It lasted a terrible 6 weeks, at the end of that we were just about to start sleep training out of desperation when things improved and he went back to his normal routine of "just" waking up at 2 and 5. Hang in there... it's awful but most of those sleep regressions don't last that long. I heard a week or so is normal.

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Oh geez Elle, 6 weeks sounds rough. Henry was like this the first 5-6 weeks of his life, but week 6-10 was pretty nice as far as nighttime sleep goes. Even when he did wake up, I would nurse him and he would be out in no time. Now he wakes up screaming his head off and I'm rushing to pop a boob into his mouth so we don't wake everyone up (I have downstairs neighbors). And then when I put him back down he is fussing until the next feeding/crying fit. I am learning to sleep through his fussing. Somehow I manage to rock the rock and play in my sleep...and at the 3-4am waking, I end up just putting him in bed with me. But I can't keep my nipples out like all the other co-sleeping mommas, because he is a zombie baby and bites when he nurses in his sleep. Trust me its a very rude awakening.

He is a terrible napper most days so I was depending on that lovely nighttime sleep. I didn't realized they have sleep regressions until a friend mentioned that it typically happens at 4 months. Boo.

Elle you mentioned your first was colicky, when did it end for you? I google this question everyday and have joined a colic support group. Haha. Most people say it ends at 6 months. My pediatrician agrees with that. Really Henry does have his good days/moments, he is just the loudest, most dramatic crier I've ever encountered. His daycare ladies agree with me, they said there is one other baby that was worse. I can't even imagine that. I see you are pregnant with your second, congrats! Hope you get a calm baby this time!!

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Elizabeth - T was super colicky and it ended when he was right around 3 months old, so I am hoping that Henry does the same.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

Elizabeth - T was super colicky and it ended when he was right around 3 months old, so I am hoping that Henry does the same.

Henry is 3 months on Saturday, I keep hoping the colic magically disappears over the weekend, then I would be considered "text book" colic. I keep reading that it lasts 3 months. But for whatever reason, the ladies in the colic support group have babies that aren't text book, because all of those ladies are still dealing with it at 6 months and some at 9 months. Lets hope its 3 and I will settle for 6. Nine months scares me.

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Fingers crossed for you. With T, it felt like it really was "magically disappeared." I expected it to taper off slowly, but I seriously felt like he woke up one morning and just wasn't colicky any more. It wasn't on his 3 month birthday, but I think it was fairly close, like maybe within the week that he turned 3 months. Hoping Henry gets his magic switch flipped in the next week or so too. Smile

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The sleep regression was horrible! He never had one that bad again though, 3 months was the worst. I'm sure it took years off of my life LOL. Sounds like you're in a rough spot and I really hope it passes for you soon. Dealing with a colicky baby is hard and on little to no sleep it's a serious test of your nerves.

DS did get better right around 3 months but it was a really slow improvement. I kept waiting for that magic switch but it never came. DS remained pretty fussy for quite a long time and to this day has rather strong reactions to small irritations. I'd say by about 4 months I was starting to take him out in public more since he stopped crying all of the time. By 6 months he was happy more than upset. By 8 months he learned to sit up and was way more content suddenly, and when he started moving around 9 months things really changed. The more he was able to do the happier he became.

He is still a pretty needy kid that seldom wants to play on his own and needs lots of attention - but he also has no siblings (yet) so I think that would make a difference. It does get easier... hang in there, get out lots (even thought you're tired and your baby cries) and take all the help you can get from other people. It gets better!!

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"science_gal" wrote:

The sleep regression was horrible! He never had one that bad again though, 3 months was the worst. I'm sure it took years off of my life LOL. Sounds like you're in a rough spot and I really hope it passes for you soon. Dealing with a colicky baby is hard and on little to no sleep it's a serious test of your nerves.

DS did get better right around 3 months but it was a really slow improvement. I kept waiting for that magic switch but it never came. DS remained pretty fussy for quite a long time and to this day has rather strong reactions to small irritations. I'd say by about 4 months I was starting to take him out in public more since he stopped crying all of the time. By 6 months he was happy more than upset. By 8 months he learned to sit up and was way more content suddenly, and when he started moving around 9 months things really changed. The more he was able to do the happier he became.

He is still a pretty needy kid that seldom wants to play on his own and needs lots of attention - but he also has no siblings (yet) so I think that would make a difference. It does get easier... hang in there, get out lots (even thought you're tired and your baby cries) and take all the help you can get from other people. It gets better!!

This is exactly how my DS was. Got a little happier with each mobility milestone and slowly got less and less fussy. He was also really attention needy until the last year or so. Now, at 5, he plays by himself most of the day.

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Judah is doing this. The last three nights he has gone down at about 9 and woken up at 11:45, 2, 3:30, and 6. I have only been feeding him at the 3-4am feeding and when he wakes up at 6 I take him to bed and rock him to sleep until 7. I'm trying to get him to just wake once at 3-4 and then not until 7 so it coincides with our school schedule.

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Vicki, sorry you are dealing with this. I hate to jinx myself, but last night Henry went down super easy and slept til 3am. First time in almost 3 weeks. He did start fussing again at 4:30, but I kept rocking him and tried to sleep thru it, I know he wasn't hungry, he took both breasts just 1.5 hours before. He eventually fell back asleep until 5:45am. I will take fussing over screaming any day. Much better than him waking every 2 hours screaming. It's so alarming to hear a baby scream when you are sleeping. Gets my adrenaline going and then I can't go back to sleep.

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Sorry you are going through it Vicki. Elizabeth, glad that you got more sleep last night. Hopefully Henry is coming out of it.

Ugh, I think we are definitely dealing with sleep regression over here. It's so funny, last week I was soooo excited that Reid fell asleep without nursing, but then that was the last night that things were okay for a while. He totally stopped self soothing (he had been sucking his thumb) and he was MURDER to get down. Then he has also been up a ton at night, either because he wakes up and doesn't self soothe or because he rolls and gets stuck on his tummy. One night we were up every 40 min - an hour pretty much all night long. I was DYING. But we seem to be coming out of it a bit now. Last night he started sucking his thumb again, and he was only up twice. Still not as good as he was doing before (sleeping 8-7 without getting up) but way better than every hour! So hopefully he is getting back into the swing of things.

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Sorry that you are joining the club Alissa! That stinks. Every 40 minutes?

I definitely jinxed myself, was up every 2 hours last night. So freaking tired.

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I *think* I *might* be onto something - J slept from 9-4:30 last night then until 7:30. He took a nice long nap yesterday.
I usually put him in the swing to nap during the day and he takes 30-45 min naps in there. But lately I've been putting him in his rock n play in his room during the afternoon to nap. Yesterday he took a nice long evening nap and slept SO good last night. I'm wondering if I just need to always put him in his room to nap because he naps longer there anyway. I don't know why I didn't think of it sooner. It does worry me when his siblings get loud since their room is right next to his, but I do put on music as white noise.
He's napped in his room all day today other than the short nap he took this morning while we were out. Here's hoping!

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"tori729" wrote:

I *think* I *might* be onto something - J slept from 9-4:30 last night then until 7:30. He took a nice long nap yesterday.
I usually put him in the swing to nap during the day and he takes 30-45 min naps in there. But lately I've been putting him in his rock n play in his room during the afternoon to nap. Yesterday he took a nice long evening nap and slept SO good last night. I'm wondering if I just need to always put him in his room to nap because he naps longer there anyway. I don't know why I didn't think of it sooner. It does worry me when his siblings get loud since their room is right next to his, but I do put on music as white noise.
He's napped in his room all day today other than the short nap he took this morning while we were out. Here's hoping!

I definitely think they hit a point where the swing does more harm than good. I hope he keeps napping well!!!

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Well, he's still napping well but he's not sleeping well at night. I'm considering a dream feed before I go to bed to help him sleep longer.

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"tori729" wrote:

Well, he's still napping well but he's not sleeping well at night. I'm considering a dream feed before I go to bed to help him sleep longer.

Good luck! As crappy of sleepers both my kids have been, I've never been able to get them to take a dream feed!

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"crazy j" wrote:

Good luck! As crappy of sleepers both my kids have been, I've never been able to get them to take a dream feed!

Me either. Picking them up always wakes them up, and then it's not much of a "dream" feed. LOL

Things are settling down here. The "bad" news is that we are still getting up twice a night - once at around 11 or 11:30 and once around 3:30. I say "bad"; I know it's not that unusual for 4 month old babies to still need to nurse once or twice a night. I think this is the exact same schedule that T was on when he was about this age, so I'm not too worried about it. But it's bad because I had a good several weeks before the 4 month sleep regression where Reid was sleeping through the whole night (like 8pm-7am) so I had it in my head that we were home free! LOL To go back to getting up twice a night after that is kind of sad. LOL On the other hand, he is actually getting easier to put down, finally. He was waking up when I put him down which was making it that much harder to put him to bed, and I would have to pick him up and rock him back to sleep again and try it again. Now he still wakes up, but about 80% of the time he will just roll over onto his side and start sucking his thumb and go to sleep, so that's good. He constantly sleeps on his tummy now too, which I have learned to live with although it still kind of scares me.

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"crazy j" wrote:

Good luck! As crappy of sleepers both my kids have been, I've never been able to get them to take a dream feed!

Well it worked last night! I fed him at about 11. He never opened his eyes and sucked for about 35 minutes and then slept until 3:30 which is SO much better than what it has been. Here's to making myself do that every night though. I just have to keep telling myself that no matter how tired I am at 11pm, it's SO much better to feed him now than be up 2-4 times a night instead of just once.

Alissa, Reid sounds SO adorable with his tummy sleeping and thumb sucking. I just want to squeeze him!

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"tori729" wrote:

Well it worked last night! I fed him at about 11. He never opened his eyes and sucked for about 35 minutes and then slept until 3:30 which is SO much better than what it has been. Here's to making myself do that every night though. I just have to keep telling myself that no matter how tired I am at 11pm, it's SO much better to feed him now than be up 2-4 times a night instead of just once.

Alissa, Reid sounds SO adorable with his tummy sleeping and thumb sucking. I just want to squeeze him!

I'm glad that you seem to have found something that works for you. I would struggle to make myself do the 11 dream feed if it were me too, but knowing that it pays off will hopefully help you. Smile

It is pretty cute. When I go to check on him he's always on his tummy with his thumb in his mouth and his butt sticking up in the air!

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Glad it worked Vicki! I am also afraid to wake him for a dream feed. But lately he wakes at 11pm anyway so there is no point.

So 3 days in a row he woke up at 11pm, 1am, 3, 4, 5. Sucked. Last night it was back to 2, 4, 6 and I actually felt somewhat rested. But last night he wouldn't nurse. He would cry, I would try to nurse him and the nipple would go in his mouth and he would pass out. So when he woke at 4am, I offered a paci instead but he wouldn't take it, so I tried nursing again and same thing. He hasn't eaten very much and has been sleeping a lot, which makes me think those 3 nights of constant waking was a growth spurt and he is winding down from it. I think he growth spurts often, like once a month. Its weird.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

Me either. Picking them up always wakes them up, and then it's not much of a "dream" feed. LOL

Yeah, attempting to dream feed can go one of two ways. Either they get totally woken up or they're too sleepy to eat.