Thread: So anxious!

I scheduled a midwife appointment for September 20th, because they want to wait until around 10 weeks to see you, I'm going to be a nervous wreck until then! They said if anything came up that needed attention before that, to call my family doctor. I wonder why they want to wait so long to see me, I thought 8 weeks was normal (and I will be on vacation at that point instead of having to take an afternoon off work).

I have felt extremely short of breath for the past three days. I don't know why, it seems too early for symptoms like that, but maybe it's just anxiety? The spotting seems to have stopped (yay!) and I'm officially, officially late, my LP is never this long. I'm dizzy, shaky, hungry and not hungry at the same time. I'm forcing some lunch down as I write in hopes that it'll make me feel more.. normal. I begged FH to let me tell a friend the good news last night because I surely would have spontaneously combusted if I had to wait until October to tell somebody in person.

This feels.. surreal. Anybody with me there?

First... Huge hugs my lovely.

I am not sure of time limits over there but I know we tend to have blood work done at 8 weeks. Scans at 12 unless being monitored.
Fir me I have been told I have to have a scan between 6 and 8 weeks.

I think the breathlessness is a good sign. From what I have heard when pregnant you heart beats faster... Not sure why... But I am guessing your body is working hard for the first few stages of pregnancy.
All the hormones are running wild so it's to be expected to feel off colour.

I say if you can just rest up, eat if you're hungry... Baby will be getting lots of nutrients from you already...don't stress yourself.
Water is the main thing. Don't let yourself get dehydrated.

Again huge hugs lovely.
Xxxxxxxx

I feel the same, still in shock and super happy. Like Lizbet said, try and relax, eat when you can and stay hydrated!

I would be anxious too!! You know this cycle and last cycle I got shaky as well! I thought it was just me! It started today! Glad the spotting stopped!!!

My midwife routinely waits as well. As soon as I get a positive from the doctor and/or a good line from a test, I'm going to schedule an appointment. But I remember with my first I didn't go in until they could get the heartbeat on the doppler and I think I was 11-12 weeks. I know it's hard to wait, but it's worth it!
Also, yay for having symptoms! I remember feeling short of breath some too. Make sure you're getting enough iron and protein in your diet - leafy greens, eggs, etc. But symptoms usually mean baby is healthy!

I think it's normal to be scared, anxious, in shock, and over all freaked out when you find out you're pregnant, even when it's something that you really really wanted. It's a huge life change (and from what you've written elsewhere on the board, you have tons of stuff going on right now - a wedding, a new house that you're working on, your soon-to-be husband recovering from a major health scare, and also graduating from college....that's a lot of stuff even without a new baby on top of it!) I don't know about shortness of breath as a pregnancy symptom, but if it is anxiety I can certainly understand why. At this point, you just need to try to take it as easy as possible, and be gentle with yourself. You are starting on a lovely adventure, and you're going to be happy and excited, but it's completely fine to be knocking in your boots as well.

As for waiting for an appointment, I think the basic truth is that unless you have documented health/pregnancy issues that they are treating you for and need to monitor you more closely for, there is really not much that they do for you anyway. It's funny, because I have my second appointment with my doctor this afternoon (first was last Tuesday) and even though I DO have health issues they are monitoring me for, I honestly don't know what them weighing me and making me pee in a cup and him feeling around at the top of my uterus is going to do. It seems kind of pointless, even for me. LOL I think a hard truth of pregnancy is that we do as much as we can do (taking our prenatals, avoiding things that are bad for the baby, taking our meds for those of us that have problems) and then after that it's just out of our hands. Seeing the doctor more probably isn't going to influence the outcome of the pregnancies (although it does sometimes put our minds at ease.) Anyway, I totally understand being anxious and wanting to "know what's going on in there" but I think short of worrisome symptoms like bleeding and heavy cramping, you've just got to assume that things are fine. Best of luck to you, and we're always here to listen.

I won't get to see a midwife until around twenty weeks, before that i have to see my gp and my treatment last time was not worth the cost of an appointment' especially as i had unexplained bleeding minimum of once a week from about nine weeks to twenty two weeks which stayed unexplained because my gp would not follow up on trying to figure out the cause or if it was potentially serious. I will go in after getting a bfp and lie and say i am unsure about my dates to get an ultrasound purely because i am wanting a vbac and when i had an ultrasound early with ds he measured a few days behind so that will have tho doctors give me a later due date and more time before they start trying to push a repeat c section.

Good luck at your Appt! Hope it comes fast! Waiting is the hardest part.

Thanks everyone, for the encouragement!

Patience is not a strong suit of mine, I always want to know what's happening right now, not later!

**Lurking**

Congrats Jessica!

As for timing of the appointment in Canada (most provinces) that's the norm, unless as someone else said you have some known problem. I had my first appointment early, simply because they could not date my pregnancy by LMP, I had to go in, pee in a cup and wait for 2 hours to be seen just so they could say, well by your LMP you should be 10 weeks along now. I gave her the dates of my - hpts and she based my EDD on the last - hpt instead of my O date. So you can see getting in early isn't really any help lol